How do I make my wife orgasm more often?

How do I make my wife orgasm more often?

Sex Guy Sex Guy
Hey, guys, need your advice.

Well, despite the fact that my wifey and I have sex a couple of times per week, she doesn’t always get close enough to the edge to have an orgasm. I’m an open-minded guy, ready to try almost anything, while she seems to be embarrassed about sharing her kinky thoughts with me. I’ve tried a whole bunch of stuff from gentle sex to being really wild with her (thanks, 50 shades..). I feel that sometimes she’s not in the mood for some reason.

This site seems to be promising. So I’m also looking for sex toy advice. Ladies (and gents with SOs), what toy would you suggest trying with her? What works for you personally? Does anyone have the same issue?
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OH&W, Lovebears OH&W, Lovebears
Quote:
Originally posted by Sex Guy
Hey, guys, need your advice.

Well, despite the fact that my wifey and I have sex a couple of times per week, she doesn’t always get close enough to the edge to have an orgasm. I’m an open-minded guy, ready to try almost anything, while she ...
For some gals, it's all about the little love button, CLIT, buddy. Lick it , vibrate it , rub it.
Get the picture

Clit loving is the best! Powerful wands are very pleasing. For guaranteed orgasms check out the Womenizer Pro 40. I have both of those and some beautiful dildos. There's reviews on them on our page.

Happy wife means happy life. Put some sexual aids in your cart. Right now!
I'm glad you're interested in taking care of your wifey.
Too many men only think about their penises One and done then roll over and fall asleep
08/18/2017
Sex Guy Sex Guy
Quote:
Originally posted by OH&W, Lovebears
For some gals, it's all about the little love button, CLIT, buddy. Lick it , vibrate it , rub it.
Get the picture

Clit loving is the best! Powerful wands are very pleasing. For guaranteed orgasms check out the Womenizer Pro 40. I ...
I've read lots of positive reviews about the Womanizer Pro 40. Does it really work wonders on your wife?

The only thing that concerns me a bit is the price.. Are there any cheaper options available?
08/23/2017
OH&W, Lovebears OH&W, Lovebears
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Originally posted by Sex Guy
I've read lots of positive reviews about the Womanizer Pro 40. Does it really work wonders on your wife?

The only thing that concerns me a bit is the price.. Are there any cheaper options available?
Yes it definitely works. Be sure the little cone and her area is lubed. Water based is recommended.
It's worth the money.
08/23/2017
Gunsmoke Gunsmoke
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Originally posted by Sex Guy
I've read lots of positive reviews about the Womanizer Pro 40. Does it really work wonders on your wife?

The only thing that concerns me a bit is the price.. Are there any cheaper options available?
I agree with OH&W - my wife really likes her Pro 40. She's had vibes of every sort - and still uses them, but the Pro 40 gives her a completely different sensation - more subtle but still capable of delivering an orgasm.

It works better for her if there's some added stimulation - like; me rubbing her labia, using a dildo vaginally and/or a vibrating but plug.

But to be fair - she relies on these added sensations when using her favorite wand as well - I guess she has just gotten use to multiple-stimulations to have her most intense orgasms.

As for price, there are imitators out there - I considered them, but decided to stay with the original - and I'm glad I did.
08/23/2017
Lena Eden Lena Eden
Quote:
Originally posted by Sex Guy
Hey, guys, need your advice.

Well, despite the fact that my wifey and I have sex a couple of times per week, she doesn’t always get close enough to the edge to have an orgasm. I’m an open-minded guy, ready to try almost anything, while she ...
As a lady, I can suggest you explore the body of your partner more thoroughly. We are all different and have our own 'special hot spots'. However, as OH&W, Lovebears have already written, you should never forget about THE magic spot.

The wand massagers may be too intense for the first time. I'd rather recommend egg or bullet vibrators. These are small, discreet and will not intimidate your wife.
08/24/2017
KinkNoShame KinkNoShame
Quote:
Originally posted by Sex Guy
Hey, guys, need your advice.

Well, despite the fact that my wifey and I have sex a couple of times per week, she doesn’t always get close enough to the edge to have an orgasm. I’m an open-minded guy, ready to try almost anything, while she ...
Never underestimate the power of a blended orgasm - i.e. g-spot and clitoris (both are connected, but I digress). The best way to hit both at the same time is through crafty finger play and angle manipulation. You want to be able to hit her g-spot (rough textured, spongey feeling space on the top of her vaginal wall, about a knuckle deep) while also playing with that magic spot.

Start off with lots of slow foreplay/kink or whatever she's interested in - you know her best, and if not, nudge her with gentle commands that get consent simultaneously (i.e. "you like that, baby?" or "pull my hair/scratch my back so I know you like what I'm doing.") Oral never, ever hurts - and when she starts bucking her hips, you know it's time to move on.

Here are some of my favorite tricks:

1. Use a pillow under her lower body - near her hips, ass, thighs, to help leverage her body up a little. This will help her relax and open her hips, and help you hit her g-spot. Angles are everything, believe me.

2. Use your fingers to play with her clit while you penetrate her (with you, toys, fingers, etc.) Or tongue, if you can manage it.

3. Take the palm of your hand, and lightly press against the bottom, lower part of her stomach - above her vagina, but lower than her belly-button. Light pressure helps with female ejaculation (squirting is real! It's a combination of sexual fluid and sometimes urine, often passed through the urethra) but it can also help intensify the pressure of what you're doing to her. Keep it LIGHT. You're helping, not hurting.

4. See what sets her off. Sometimes it's dirty talk, neck playing (biting, sucking, kissing, choking) or whatever fetish/BDSM/kink she's into. Know what sends her over the edge and makes her toes curl.

5. Make it a setting that she finds relaxing. Orgasms are mental, about 80% of the time (I'm making this statistic up, but most women would tell you the same). It's all about that head space. She needs to be relaxed (otherwise she'll be too tight, clench up, etc.). Not too cold, but not too hot/sweaty either. Music, candles, and some wine, never hurt. Is she stressed about work? Cooking? Kids? Anything? Take care of that so she doesn't have to worry about it and can relax. Clear her head space first.

6. LUBE. I'll say it again - lube, lube, lube, lube. I don't care if she's already wet or if you're using a lubricated condom. Lube will provide you with a slippery texture that will help you move faster and better for her. Get a natural based lube without glycerin (that's how you get yeast infections. Not joking). Sliquid is my personal favorite. Obviously do not combine silicone lube with silicone toys - it'll melt the sex toy. That's why water-based in my go-to.

7. Try something new! New position, new angle, new places. Try fucking on a desk or a chair - trust me, it really is all about those angles.



Best of luck & happy fucking!
08/24/2017
Stellar Stellar
Hello, everyone! Good to be back.

Marvelous topic and thank you so much for that question, Sex Guy. It's inspiring to see you taking care of your wife's pleasure. About your issue - naturally, go for clitoral teasers of all kinds, with different features. Try to find the type of stimulation she likes so that you could have a ground for further experiments. Also, mind the psychological factor. You wife obviously needs to get physical stimulation, but the idea of intimacy is fundamental, as well.

For me, as a woman, that feeling of connection to my partner is one of the most orgasmic sensations out there. That said, try to combine physical stimulation with psychological. I feel like a couples' vibrator would be a fabulous choice - one of those that are worn during sex. You lovely wife will get her fair share of clitoral stimulation while feeling deeply connected to you - because she will be, physically, linked to you with a toy And, given that couples' vibes pump men's pleasure, too, she'll know that you are enjoying the process just as much as she does, that you are in this together. Another strong factor, in my perspective.
All the luck and the ~GOOD VIBES~ only
08/25/2017
Sexual bliss Sexual bliss
Finger exploration is always a go to for me with my wife to start out. I start playing with her clit with one finger first then slowly work it in. I then turn my palm up and do the come here motion with my finger to hit her g spot. Thats the first orgasm. I then add a finger still rubbing on the g spot but also rubbing the upper inside walls to get her second. Add the third finger and start masturbating her quickly and deep gets her the third. I only add the fourth finger if she wants it big then i put all four fingers in up to my thumb area and start putting pressure but at the same time working my fingers anywhere i can reach. After she is exhausted i then put in a very hard throbbing penis at this point and we generally get off together.
Toys are awesome but if you learn your wifes buttons by hand first getting her there wont be an issue. Toys dont have the accuracy of my hand and sometimes you just gotta hit the right spot.

On a different note. During sex if she is on top and getting close to orgasm try nibbling lightly on the ends of her nipples. I normally nibble one and kinda roll/pinch and pull the other in my finger tips. My wife says she can feel it in her clit when i do that which she can orgasm several times like that.

A lot of great ideas on this thread. Try everything you can and enjoy it!!!
10/07/2017
Sex Guy Sex Guy
Thank you so much. Currently living the best months of my married life - but been spending quite a lot on sex toys
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