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Contributor: NaughtyNikkie NaughtyNikkie
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Ok so one of my friends & I had a long talk today about how some guys seem very uncomfy about taking it to different levels of exploring sex but us girls are crazy & wanting to always try new things!! Now she was blown away about how open my hubby really is, she about died when I told her after a week or 2 of me talking about how I really wanted to find out if a guy will get off twice as hard with the whole prostate thing he really did give in! She said there would be no way in hell her hubby would ever give in & wanted to know if I beat him in the head to say yes... So guys & girls ....

How open is your lover with the whole idea of exploring "forbidden" or "new" crazy things?!

I will be in on this in detail if anyone wants to make this a great talk/topic!!
09/26/2011
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Contributor: Princess-Kayla ♥ Princess-Kayla ♥
I got him to try the whole BDSM thing. But he's pretty deadset on not ever trying anything that involves his bottom.
I do pinch his butt sometimes though. When he's turned on, it makes him twitch. Adorable. <3
09/26/2011
Contributor: js250 js250
It depends, he is extremely open about anything I want to check out, somethings I want to try and new ideas we come up with together. Touching (other people involved) are out for both of us, voyeurism, cyber sex (other person present) exhibitionism and variations of all of the above are definitely in. Our butts remain off limits!! (He permanently damaged mine years ago! Will never try again!! I tried with him a few years ago, but he was uncomfortable and so was I.
09/26/2011
Contributor: Redboxbaby Redboxbaby
We had been married 16 or 17 years and one day I just started blurting out my secret fantasy's (things I had never said before because I was embarrassed or thought he would think I was nuts) and come to find out my husband had some of the very same ones himself, only way more interesting, kinky, and more right up my alley than I would have ever guessed. Spilling my guts, so to speak, has turned our sex life upside down and inside out and we are enjoying every single minute of it.

Yes, my husband and I both are open to new ideas. We research things we might be interested in, together. We trust each other fully; we have always said we will try anything with each other, at least twice. Twice is a pretty good indication of whether or not you like something.
09/26/2011
Contributor: indiglo indiglo
We are much the same way. We are basically both totally open to exploring a new idea or experience together. (He's the one who got me into anal play.) We might not just immediately agree and jump into it, but we're open to considering and researching the idea. It's really fun and liberating to be open to exploring new areas of your body and sexuality with a loving partner!
09/26/2011
Contributor: Peggi Peggi
We are both very open with one another. When one of us thinks of something new we want to try the other is more than willing to at least try it once, although we are on the same level of what we like/want. He isn't into hardcore bondage and neither am I but we both like light bondage, that sort of thing. So it makes it very nice having a relationship where we are both comfortable to share fantasies and tell each other what we want to try out. We weren't together for long (about a month) when we started discussing toys.
09/27/2011
Contributor: bluekaren bluekaren
My hubby is very open to try new things with me. He introduced me to swinging and it opened the door to my website, then sex toy reviewing, and who knows what next! He was very patient with me on trying anal play. It took a while for me to figure it out. He was very open when I brought up prostate play, he loves it now!
09/27/2011
Contributor: AngelvMaynard AngelvMaynard
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Originally posted by Redboxbaby
We had been married 16 or 17 years and one day I just started blurting out my secret fantasy's (things I had never said before because I was embarrassed or thought he would think I was nuts) and come to find out my husband had some of the very ... more
That is pretty much how my adventures got started! Once we opened the flood gates, the ride together has been a blast!!
09/27/2011
Contributor: NaughtyNikkie NaughtyNikkie
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Originally posted by Redboxbaby
We had been married 16 or 17 years and one day I just started blurting out my secret fantasy's (things I had never said before because I was embarrassed or thought he would think I was nuts) and come to find out my husband had some of the very ... more
THAT'S FANTASTIC !!
I love the whole try something twice motto
When my hubby & I got married we were both pretty open but he never puts a foot forward in starting the new things, I guess that's my job lol.. It's just no fun getting the whole "I don't care, if you think of something let me know" it's as if he is worried I'm going to tell him no or not like his ideas..
09/27/2011
Contributor: NaughtyNikkie NaughtyNikkie
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Originally posted by js250
It depends, he is extremely open about anything I want to check out, somethings I want to try and new ideas we come up with together. Touching (other people involved) are out for both of us, voyeurism, cyber sex (other person present) exhibitionism ... more
Yea hubby & I can agree with leaving others out. We are both way to jealous to go down that road. He knows on my end it would end the relationship & I know on his he wouldn't be able to look at me the same. Guess it's great we both have that understanding because we don't push for something that's unwanted. I'm glad to see you guys have a great standing as well
09/27/2011
Contributor: NaughtyNikkie NaughtyNikkie
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Originally posted by Princess-Kayla ♥
I got him to try the whole BDSM thing. But he's pretty deadset on not ever trying anything that involves his bottom.
I do pinch his butt sometimes though. When he's turned on, it makes him twitch. Adorable. <3
Yesss !!
I got my hubz into it as well
We did the whole butt thing for him & he freaked out so that's a no go lmao !! I can slap or grab his butt while having sex but anything more & he would hop up & run away.
09/27/2011
Contributor: poetprincess poetprincess
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Originally posted by NaughtyNikkie
Ok so one of my friends & I had a long talk today about how some guys seem very uncomfy about taking it to different levels of exploring sex but us girls are crazy & wanting to always try new things!! Now she was blown away about how open my ... more
mine wont talk about anything, I got him to admit that he likes porn and what kind. but he will not even try toys out with me. I hide my toys when he is around cause I know it makes him uncomfortable that I have them..
09/28/2011
Contributor: Emma Emma
I feel like my husband and I are really open. Although i know men do have their fantasy secrets. I love my husband alot but i know for a fact its not that kind of "love comes first" love. We are open to conversations and in our sexual desires. I feel like he'll do anything for me only because he has to not because he loves me. my love is never enough, never was.
10/04/2011
Contributor: Sex'и'Violence Sex'и'Violence
Super open. but it depends on the topic. there are certain things that he's just dead set against.
10/04/2011
Contributor: unfulfilled unfulfilled
He's not open, but I'm working on him.
10/13/2011
Contributor: Vanille Vanille
My girlfriend is very open to trying new things. We discuss new things pretty often. Lately it's been strap-on sex because I made a huge joke about the Magnum dildo.
10/13/2011
Contributor: - Kira - - Kira -
We are both pretty open. If one of us wants to try something we bring it up and discuss. Then we research it a bit (lame, I know) and decide if it's something we really want to do or not. If so, then we try away. Some things get taken off the table in the research phase. Some get knocked out after three or four failed attempts. We are never scared to say something we might like to try though.
10/13/2011
Contributor: Kitka Kitka
We are both very open to trying new and crazy things. We're quite involved with the bdsm "scene" around where we live and have made some good friends in the process.
10/13/2011
Contributor: jenn g jenn g
He is totally open and so fun and will do anything... except he doesn't like toys... think he just wants him in me.
10/18/2011
Contributor: CreamySweet CreamySweet
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Originally posted by NaughtyNikkie
Ok so one of my friends & I had a long talk today about how some guys seem very uncomfy about taking it to different levels of exploring sex but us girls are crazy & wanting to always try new things!! Now she was blown away about how open my ... more
Hummm....Well my husband makes the girls at our local adult toy store giggle and blush... They are quite shocked I guess having a guy talk that freely. The same when I shop for thongs and stuff... he will be digging around on the racks and bringing them up to me.
10/18/2011
Contributor: slynch slynch
My wife is willing to try anything with me. She now enjoys anal, watersports, fisting and pegging.
10/18/2011
Contributor: Herzer Herzer
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Originally posted by NaughtyNikkie
Ok so one of my friends & I had a long talk today about how some guys seem very uncomfy about taking it to different levels of exploring sex but us girls are crazy & wanting to always try new things!! Now she was blown away about how open my ... more
Responding as a guy I'm actually the open one in our relationship. Trying something new is always a processes of easing my wife towards an idea.
02/28/2013
Contributor: Firemenlafd2 Firemenlafd2
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Originally posted by NaughtyNikkie
Ok so one of my friends & I had a long talk today about how some guys seem very uncomfy about taking it to different levels of exploring sex but us girls are crazy & wanting to always try new things!! Now she was blown away about how open my ... more
At first she kind of hide how she was but then just told me to start getting things and now love trying new things
03/02/2013