For my wife it was a progressive trip from normal size dildos to large toys (2-3" girth). She is a size queen but accepted that was what she needed and enjoys. This was not a overnight change but occurred over years of sexual discovery by experimenting with different things and finding out what worked for her. The results enabled her to be extremely satisfied from our foreplay and sex together, she still looks forward to the intimate time we share. It was a fun journey and very rewarding. There's more to life than just vanilla ice cream. Don't put limits on your pleasure. Stretch the boundaries, pun intended. less

I wish I’d found this site years ago. Or any one like it. 47 is way too old to not have had a real toy by now. I am enjoying the new experiences that these toys are giving me. I’m getting quite the butt plug collection going. I’m looking for that. “Perfect one.” I haven’t found it yet but I will. I have every intention of “stretching my boundaries” (pun also intended) and I’m going to enjoy every minute of it less

I am relatively new to toys and this site, a couple months maybe? Really wish I’d found ya’ll sooner....
I have learned a couple things about myself that for some reason are surprising to me. The main one is that I would have SWORE that “the biggah the bettah” was my motto. I’m 47, I’d think I know what I like ...... Not so, lol, not so. ...... I like a larger penis, most do, but the toys I find I need smaller. Maybe because of the give a real penis? I ordered a very large flesh colored dildo and the purple Big Banger. I am baffled that they’re too big really. I nevah would have thought it. I also purchased the Big Boy butt plug and damn that’s one big boy. A little to big for my bum but I give him another try on occasion. I am now downsizing my choices much to my surprise. You learn something new every day less

Dear Lisset, it's not about the size eventually, isn't it? It's about you enjoying yourself. Being a size queen is not a privilege - it's just a preference, like any other thing people like in our community. And boy do they like a lot

You can be a self-proclaimed queen of butt plugs! Why the hell not? less

Softer formulations of silicone make larger dildos easier to use and much more enjoyable. They designed to simulate the 'give' of a real penis - where as the harder formulations tend to be more like battering rams.

For us hard=small and soft=large less

Yes I must admit to being at the graduate level when it comes to toys - I shocked myself by adding up the cost of various toys that I've purchased over the past few years - it's nearly $7k

For sure there are some failures in there - the worst performing expensive purchases were the Fun Factory Enis Pulsator and the Lelo Sona . I also paid a lot for the large Lelo Wand - but wife says the head it too large for her - it's a good product, just not good for us.

Some of my greatest purchases were done as experiments including the Njoy Pure Wand & Eleven - I was even skeptical of the 1st Womanizer - and in less than a year I've upgraded it.

Happy hunting and don't be afraid to experiment. less