I would approach it like any other crush. When I was in school, I wasted a lot of time worrying about how others would perceive me to the point that it stopped me from doing so many things that I wanted to do. There were lots of times that I just wanted to run up to a guy I liked and say “Hey, I really like you” but I was so worried about what my peers would think and say and that he might look at me and say something bad in reply, that I never did. Then later I would find out that he had a crush on me too and I would be so mad at myself! So after I went to college, I decided “to hell with it and I don’t care what others think. I’m going to say what I want to, when I want to”. It works for me! Of course I think my mom is the only one who doesn’t like it, Lol! She says that I’m too outspoken for my own good sometimes.

I would be straight forward and tell your crush that you have feelings for him but that you have no expectations. You just needed for him to know that these feelings had been developing all along and you wanted to share with him as he had shared with you. At that point, I would think he would say whether he was attracted to men or women because it would be an appropriate response to your shared news with him. It may be uncomfortable but I would definitely talk to him in person if possible (if you had been previously too). It’s too hard to tell how people are feeling from texts and if it’s in person, he will feel more obligated to have to address the questions of whether he likes men, women or both and most importantly, whether he has feelings for you. But if it’s over text or online, he may try to avoid answering stuff like that without you being forced to directly ask him. But my advice is to definitely seize the day!!! Tell him how you feel!!!!! Now versus later!!!!

Hello everyone! Thank you all for taking the time to respond to my inquiry. And so quickly too! Well, I did it. I took the plunge and asked. He's into men, so there's nothing that can happen between us. It hurts, but I'm glad I know now. Things seem to be awkward between us now. I think he may have detected I had a crush on him, but maybe I'm overthinking.

:sighs:

Well....it's back to the drawing board for me.

Sorry about his answer. But I'm glad you didn't follow my advice!! I bet you are overthinking it. Let's hope!!!

Do not feel disheartened for it is better to know than to live not knowing and regret. Chin up, in time you will look back on this moment and both laugh as friends. Give it time.

Nicely said! and great advice!!

Where did you get the Totally Stupid Idea that Post-Op people only live 10 Years!!!???