I was abstinent for 3 years WITHOUT toys. It was a refreshing break, but I started to need some relief. So I got a Hitachi. I haven't looked back since! Had sex once since with a close friend for a review of a cock ring. Was not really impressed. When I next have sex it will be because I love them.
Is abstinence still considered abstinence if you masturbate?
08/06/2011
Yes, of course.
08/06/2011
Really, what is the purpose of doing this? If it's to abstain from sexual pleasure, then it counts. If it's to not be with other people, then no, it does not.
08/10/2011
I vote "No". Because the people who are concerned about abstinence, consider masturbation to be one in the same with actual sex, something that's dirty and to be shunned.
Why else would this person ask this question unless they were seeking approval beyond their prudish peers?
Why else would this person ask this question unless they were seeking approval beyond their prudish peers?
08/10/2011
Yes. Masturbation =/= sex
09/12/2011
I know this is an old post, but I think the best way to describe it is:
If you want abstinence from sexual intercourse with another person, then yes, masturbating with toys is still abstinence from sexual intercourse. You are not "sleeping around", basically, but you are still sexually active. It's a helpful way of curbing your natural sexual appetite without the necessity of someone else being involved, which gives more power to you, ultimately.
However, if you want to be abstinent from all sexual desire, than no, using sex toys as a way to avoid your vow would not count as abstinence in this regard because you are still engaging in a sexual activity that your body gratifies from, one of which you wanted to avoid altogether from being consumed in.
So, if you want to abstain from sexual intercourse, toy usage still counts, but if you want to abstain from sexual desire altogether then it would not count, by definition.
Quite frankly, I think the former is fine, but the latter should be avoided since it leads to sexual frustration and unhealthy build up of stress. It's unnatural for the body to not crave sexual desire once in awhile, and if you want to curb it using toys, it should be no problem and since you were in a bad relationship, it can be very therapeutic for physical, mental, and emotional stress.
If you want abstinence from sexual intercourse with another person, then yes, masturbating with toys is still abstinence from sexual intercourse. You are not "sleeping around", basically, but you are still sexually active. It's a helpful way of curbing your natural sexual appetite without the necessity of someone else being involved, which gives more power to you, ultimately.
However, if you want to be abstinent from all sexual desire, than no, using sex toys as a way to avoid your vow would not count as abstinence in this regard because you are still engaging in a sexual activity that your body gratifies from, one of which you wanted to avoid altogether from being consumed in.
So, if you want to abstain from sexual intercourse, toy usage still counts, but if you want to abstain from sexual desire altogether then it would not count, by definition.
Quite frankly, I think the former is fine, but the latter should be avoided since it leads to sexual frustration and unhealthy build up of stress. It's unnatural for the body to not crave sexual desire once in awhile, and if you want to curb it using toys, it should be no problem and since you were in a bad relationship, it can be very therapeutic for physical, mental, and emotional stress.
09/12/2011