Who takes the lead when it comes to suggesting sex in your relationship?

Contributor: spiced spiced
Are you always the one who suggests having sex, or is it your partner who takes the lead? Do you both suggest it sometimes? With my wife and me, I'm always the one.
Answers (private voting - your screen name will NOT appear in the results):
I always take the lead
9  (29%)
My partner always takes the lead
4  (13%)
We both take the lead sometimes
18  (58%)
Total votes: 31
Poll is closed
11/22/2012
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Contributor: Trysexual Trysexual
I do
11/22/2012
Contributor: js250 js250
I let my hubby take the lead and then I take it from there...but I do put on my hottest and sexiest outfits when I am definitely ready for romance!! He gets the hint.
11/23/2012
Contributor: The Mother of a SiNner The Mother of a SiNner
Quote:
Originally posted by spiced
Are you always the one who suggests having sex, or is it your partner who takes the lead? Do you both suggest it sometimes? With my wife and me, I'm always the one.
we both do
11/23/2012
Contributor: sXeVegan90 sXeVegan90
Both but it's me most of the time.
11/23/2012
Contributor: <3BF <3BF
Mostly myself, both in suggesting and initiating it.
11/23/2012
Contributor: malantha malantha
Quote:
Originally posted by spiced
Are you always the one who suggests having sex, or is it your partner who takes the lead? Do you both suggest it sometimes? With my wife and me, I'm always the one.
Both of us do
11/23/2012
Contributor: deltalima deltalima
Quote:
Originally posted by spiced
Are you always the one who suggests having sex, or is it your partner who takes the lead? Do you both suggest it sometimes? With my wife and me, I'm always the one.
I think I do but we're both really conservative.
11/23/2012
Contributor: jr2012 jr2012
all on me. I'm the one with the higher sex drive so I have to feel out of he is interested at any given moment. I usually try to keep it light (ie, can it be sextime please?) because often I do get a no! I don't mind nos, but hate it if I get all worked up first!
11/23/2012
Contributor: MrWishyWashy MrWishyWashy
Both of us...depends.
11/24/2012
Contributor: spiced spiced
Quote:
Originally posted by jr2012
all on me. I'm the one with the higher sex drive so I have to feel out of he is interested at any given moment. I usually try to keep it light (ie, can it be sextime please?) because often I do get a no! I don't mind nos, but hate it if I ... more
I guess higher sex drive is the key factor, isn't it? And I guess some people are more sensitive to rejection than others. I'm lucky that my wife almost always says yes. If she asked me, or even hinted, I'd definitely say yes unless I was just exhausted. But she expects me to always ask and I guess your partner expects the same from you.
11/24/2012
Contributor: nosrslylol nosrslylol
It really depends.
11/24/2012
Contributor: hmb12 hmb12
It used to be mostly my boyfriend, but I find myself being the one starting it now.
11/26/2012
Contributor: nova2014 nova2014
This might sound selfish? But I like it when my bf initiates since he's not very demonstrative of his feelings and it makes me feel desired..but I initiate too every so often
11/30/2012
Contributor: spiced spiced
Quote:
Originally posted by nova2014
This might sound selfish? But I like it when my bf initiates since he's not very demonstrative of his feelings and it makes me feel desired..but I initiate too every so often
Interesting point about feeling desired. I can't help but wonder if that's at least part of why my wife usually waits for me to start things. Thanks!
12/01/2012
Contributor: APaleBlueDot APaleBlueDot
I always take the lead, but we're got an established BDSM dynamic.
12/01/2012
Contributor: No-nita No-nita
The closest my husband has come is "Hey, I don't have to get up early for work tomorrow so..." He implies, but leaves it up to me to initiate it.
12/01/2012
Contributor: TattooMan TattooMan
i do
12/01/2012
Contributor: Claire-Bear Claire-Bear
We both do.
12/01/2012