Unfulfilled Fantasies

Contributor: Ansley Ansley
(Does anyone else type Fantasys, instead of Fantasies now?)

This is a question I've been thinking about quite deeply for a few months now on a semi-regular basis. And I'm still unsure which side of the fence I'm on, so I turn to you guys to find out your opinions on the matter.

If fantasizing and role-playing is a large part of your lovemaking, have you ever felt like you've taken it as far as you can go and the only thing left to do is actually experience those fantasies in real life?

In the last couple of months, I've kind of had this feeling come over me that we're strong enough, we're into each other enough (more than enough, really) that maybe experiencing some of the things we talk about would be more beneficial than just continuing with the same themes of pillow talk night after night. Not that it's boring, but because we only have limited real world experience, we can only go so far. Like not fulfilling the fantasy somehow deprives of us of the ability to move onto things that might be even more fun. I don't know...what do you guys think?
10/19/2011
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Contributor: AndroAngel AndroAngel
I think it depends on the fantasy, some fantasies can be fulfilled without harm and others cannot... And some fantasies can be given the appearance of fulfillment without actually taking risks. For instance, a gang bang fantasy can be fulfilled without an actual gang-bang with a creative partner (with some acting talent), a blindfold, an assortment of realistic dildos, and the power of suggestion. Guided Fantasy scenes are fascinating to me, because they give the illusion of doing something that you might not otherwise be able to do.
10/19/2011
Contributor: AngelvMaynard AngelvMaynard
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Originally posted by Ansley
(Does anyone else type Fantasys, instead of Fantasies now?)

This is a question I've been thinking about quite deeply for a few months now on a semi-regular basis. And I'm still unsure which side of the fence I'm on, so I turn to ... more
I think if you both feel you are strong enough and you define what is ok and what is not in clear terms go into it with care. For me I have found that some fantasies, once realized were not as exciting as I thought they would be. But we experienced things together so if was fun to have the experience. You can always dip your toe slowly into things and if it begins to feel uncomfortable for either of you don't keep going.
10/27/2011