I know a lot of you responded to my other post so I thought I would give an update. We got a rabbit toy last night in the mail. He was intrigued. At first it was very intimidating b/c with the base and everything the darn thing was 12" but the insertible part was not. Anyway, he used it on me! I'll write a review later, but the toy itself wasn't good. Anyway, after playing with the toy we talked more and I told him I was not using toys to replace him that I was trying to find something to help me. I wanted him there with me see what they were all about. He even looked through the toy catalog that was sent with the toy and pointed out the bswish bgee beginners g-spot toy. I think he's getting it. YAY!@!