Definitely. And teach them the different ways to use it (traditionally, as a dental dam, etc.). If I were to have children, I'd definitely like to keep them informed, aware of their bodies, and unashamed of their sexualities.
Would you give a condom to your teen kid?
05/13/2012
I don't have teen children yet, but I know I will. If I have a daughter she will be a BC as well. I will have long awkward talks with my children and discuss how important everything is. They will think I'm crazy and too involved, but that's better than a pregnant teen.
05/14/2012
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Yeah because I would rather talk to them about condom use than have a conversation about having a baby or something awful like that
Originally posted by
chantalgiardina
my sons are starting to get curious and I think it might be time to be on the safe side rather than sorry.. would you give a condom to your teen kid?
05/20/2012
I don't have any kids, but if I did, there is no question that I would make sure they had condoms and understood how to use them, as well as general safe-sex information. Sexual situations will inevitably present themselves to teens and I would much rather prepare them to be safe than have them end up with HIV, Hep C, Syphillis, or other STDs.
Ideally, they would wait until they were emotionally mature and in a stable relationship before engaging in any sexual activity, but this is NOT an ideal world.
Ideally, they would wait until they were emotionally mature and in a stable relationship before engaging in any sexual activity, but this is NOT an ideal world.
05/20/2012
Absolutely. I brought my older daughters to Planned Parenthood so they could get condoms and decide what other forms of birth control they would also use.
I know some families in our neighborhood who think talking about birth control will "encourage" their kids to have sex.... they are all grandparents to unmarried teens kids now.
It's been proven that talking to kids about sex and birth control does NOT "encourage" them to have sex. They are going to be having sex anyway, better to be pro-active than wind up a grandparent in your late 30s and go, "WTF happened?"
A neighbor couple of ours had both their teen daughters pregnant the same year! Both boys left the girls, the one girl is now living with an other boy and her 3 year old, the other girl abandoned her baby with her parents, moved out of state and no one has any idea where she is or what she is doing. This family is VERY active in our local Evangelical Mega Church. I have no idea what they told their fellow Evangelicals. Probably "At least the girls didn't have abortions." But, these girls never made it to college, neither can keep a man for more than a few months and their lives are ruined, and one of the babies has already been abandoned. Both of the girls and both their babies are on welfare and WIC. (The abandoned baby lives with her grandparents, but they got the baby on Public Aid, despite being able to afford the child's care, and the last time this baby's mother was spotted she was on PA in California.)
Think what a trip to Planned Parenthood could have done for this family. Maybe their girls could be working good jobs or be in Grad School, like my girls, who are the same age... but who were smart enough to use birth control.
I know some families in our neighborhood who think talking about birth control will "encourage" their kids to have sex.... they are all grandparents to unmarried teens kids now.
It's been proven that talking to kids about sex and birth control does NOT "encourage" them to have sex. They are going to be having sex anyway, better to be pro-active than wind up a grandparent in your late 30s and go, "WTF happened?"
A neighbor couple of ours had both their teen daughters pregnant the same year! Both boys left the girls, the one girl is now living with an other boy and her 3 year old, the other girl abandoned her baby with her parents, moved out of state and no one has any idea where she is or what she is doing. This family is VERY active in our local Evangelical Mega Church. I have no idea what they told their fellow Evangelicals. Probably "At least the girls didn't have abortions." But, these girls never made it to college, neither can keep a man for more than a few months and their lives are ruined, and one of the babies has already been abandoned. Both of the girls and both their babies are on welfare and WIC. (The abandoned baby lives with her grandparents, but they got the baby on Public Aid, despite being able to afford the child's care, and the last time this baby's mother was spotted she was on PA in California.)
Think what a trip to Planned Parenthood could have done for this family. Maybe their girls could be working good jobs or be in Grad School, like my girls, who are the same age... but who were smart enough to use birth control.
05/20/2012
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Depends on so many things. My childs maturity level, why Im giving it to them, how much we've talked about it, how well they understand the whole "big picture"
Originally posted by
chantalgiardina
my sons are starting to get curious and I think it might be time to be on the safe side rather than sorry.. would you give a condom to your teen kid?
05/20/2012
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Why would you have a double standard for your children? and would you give your 16 year old daughter a condom, or would you still say NO WAY? what if it was a 13 year old son? I understand than no 13 year old should be having sex, but neither should a 16 year old.
Originally posted by
Badass
If my 16 y/o son said, I think I'm going to start having sex.. yes I would.
If my 13 y/o daughter said that, I would say NO WAY! NOT HAPPENING.
It really depends on the child him or herself, age, and what they plan on doing with the condom.
If my 13 y/o daughter said that, I would say NO WAY! NOT HAPPENING.
It really depends on the child him or herself, age, and what they plan on doing with the condom.
05/21/2012
I think I would...I agree...better safe than sorry.
05/21/2012
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What he said LOL
Originally posted by
jmex83
Depends on so many things. My childs maturity level, why Im giving it to them, how much we've talked about it, how well they understand the whole "big picture"
05/21/2012
yes....they need to be safe
05/21/2012
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The specific reason that I would more than happily buy my teenager (when I have them) condoms or other birth control methods. I was a teen not THAT long ago, and I was a good kid, but I still had sex. I was safe about it, and my parents were lucky because they taught abstaining from sex rather than preventing pregnancy, I had to go out and get it myself. I don't want my kids to have to do that on their own. It was scary and embarrassing because I'd been taught that it was wrong, and felt that they'd look at me funny when I asked for birth control.
Originally posted by
P'Gell
Absolutely. I brought my older daughters to Planned Parenthood so they could get condoms and decide what other forms of birth control they would also use.
I know some families in our neighborhood who think talking about birth control will ... more
I know some families in our neighborhood who think talking about birth control will ... more
Absolutely. I brought my older daughters to Planned Parenthood so they could get condoms and decide what other forms of birth control they would also use.
I know some families in our neighborhood who think talking about birth control will "encourage" their kids to have sex.... they are all grandparents to unmarried teens kids now.
It's been proven that talking to kids about sex and birth control does NOT "encourage" them to have sex. They are going to be having sex anyway, better to be pro-active than wind up a grandparent in your late 30s and go, "WTF happened?"
A neighbor couple of ours had both their teen daughters pregnant the same year! Both boys left the girls, the one girl is now living with an other boy and her 3 year old, the other girl abandoned her baby with her parents, moved out of state and no one has any idea where she is or what she is doing. This family is VERY active in our local Evangelical Mega Church. I have no idea what they told their fellow Evangelicals. Probably "At least the girls didn't have abortions." But, these girls never made it to college, neither can keep a man for more than a few months and their lives are ruined, and one of the babies has already been abandoned. Both of the girls and both their babies are on welfare and WIC. (The abandoned baby lives with her grandparents, but they got the baby on Public Aid, despite being able to afford the child's care, and the last time this baby's mother was spotted she was on PA in California.)
Think what a trip to Planned Parenthood could have done for this family. Maybe their girls could be working good jobs or be in Grad School, like my girls, who are the same age... but who were smart enough to use birth control. less
I know some families in our neighborhood who think talking about birth control will "encourage" their kids to have sex.... they are all grandparents to unmarried teens kids now.
It's been proven that talking to kids about sex and birth control does NOT "encourage" them to have sex. They are going to be having sex anyway, better to be pro-active than wind up a grandparent in your late 30s and go, "WTF happened?"
A neighbor couple of ours had both their teen daughters pregnant the same year! Both boys left the girls, the one girl is now living with an other boy and her 3 year old, the other girl abandoned her baby with her parents, moved out of state and no one has any idea where she is or what she is doing. This family is VERY active in our local Evangelical Mega Church. I have no idea what they told their fellow Evangelicals. Probably "At least the girls didn't have abortions." But, these girls never made it to college, neither can keep a man for more than a few months and their lives are ruined, and one of the babies has already been abandoned. Both of the girls and both their babies are on welfare and WIC. (The abandoned baby lives with her grandparents, but they got the baby on Public Aid, despite being able to afford the child's care, and the last time this baby's mother was spotted she was on PA in California.)
Think what a trip to Planned Parenthood could have done for this family. Maybe their girls could be working good jobs or be in Grad School, like my girls, who are the same age... but who were smart enough to use birth control. less
05/22/2012
It's better safe than sorry so I'm sure when the time comes we will.
05/22/2012
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I agree, this double standard bugs me, as does the age gap. Certainly, 13 is young for a kid to start, but it's far from unheard of (someone I know lost their virginity at 14 - not far off!), and it's about the age when curiosity's going to kick in for most kids.
Originally posted by
indiechick
Why would you have a double standard for your children? and would you give your 16 year old daughter a condom, or would you still say NO WAY? what if it was a 13 year old son? I understand than no 13 year old should be having sex, but neither should
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Why would you have a double standard for your children? and would you give your 16 year old daughter a condom, or would you still say NO WAY? what if it was a 13 year old son? I understand than no 13 year old should be having sex, but neither should a 16 year old.
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And gender shouldn't even be an issue. Anybody sexually active, male or female, should have the sense to keep some condoms on them (assuming that's the method of birth control in play).
05/22/2012
I'd just have a drawer with a bunch of condoms and refill it as needed. I would also do the talk and make sure they knew how to put one on, etc.
05/22/2012
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That's a REALLY good idea! That way they can get them on their own, without feeling awkward about a parent handing them out. After "the conversation," all you'd have to do is show them where they are. I like it!
Originally posted by
gsfanatic
I'd just have a drawer with a bunch of condoms and refill it as needed. I would also do the talk and make sure they knew how to put one on, etc.
05/22/2012
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My girls know they don't even have to ask. I have shown them where my condoms are kept. I would prefer to know they are sexually active so that I can be there for them emotionally as well as physically but I mostly want them to be using condoms. If I have to allow them free reign to get them to do that then I will do what I have to.
Originally posted by
chantalgiardina
my sons are starting to get curious and I think it might be time to be on the safe side rather than sorry.. would you give a condom to your teen kid?
05/22/2012
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You would be surprised how teenagers who have parents who are open to the idea of teen sex do NOT feel as though they are encouraged to have sex. That's backward thinking. Being open and accepting that the decision isn't up to you empowers your kids to make a decision they won't regret later, especially if they know you won't freak out when they look for guidance. I never encourage my kids to have sex by telling them how to protect themselves, instead they feel as though I am arming them to make decisions that won't have negative lasting consequences. I remember feeling the same when condom usage and safer sex practices were discussed with me by a member of my church. Far from feeling like she was saying, "Here have some sex!" I felt like she was saying, "While it would be better for you to wait, I really want you to be safe. So if you are determined to do this do it safely." It took away the pressure and I actually waited far longer than I was prepared to wait before talking with her.
Originally posted by
deltalima
I don't know what I would do if my kids told me they'd be having a kid. So safe is good. But then I don't want to encourage it?
05/22/2012
I would, along with a talk on safer sex and relationships, plus I'd point out some good sources for more info, if he was interested.
05/22/2012
It really depends on the situation, If the kid is sexually active then maybe but if not talk to him about sex and all the risks involved.
05/24/2012
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Absolutely.
Originally posted by
chantalgiardina
my sons are starting to get curious and I think it might be time to be on the safe side rather than sorry.. would you give a condom to your teen kid?
05/28/2012
I don't have children, but I prefer safe sex to abstinence in educating children.
05/28/2012
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I remember thinking that I wasn't gonna be like my parents and not info my children about sex, leaving them to learn about it from their friends. One day my son, came to me wanting some answers to some questions. I know he was already having sex and was currently dating serious. He asked about how condoms should fit. He said that he was having all kinds of problems with the condoms. We talked, and in the end I ended up going to the local drug store to buy condoms that "fit" him properly. Magnums XXL...sure they had to be the difficult to find & expensive! so, in order to prevent grandchildren at this early stage of his life. I even buy condoms for him.
Originally posted by
chantalgiardina
my sons are starting to get curious and I think it might be time to be on the safe side rather than sorry.. would you give a condom to your teen kid?
05/28/2012
My mom would have Never given me condoms as a teen/young adult. She never even gave me the sex talk growing up. It's total taboo in the household. Which could have gotten me in a lot of trouble.
So if I know myself, then I know my kid would go out and explore just like I did. So I would definitely give him/her some condoms. Along with a good long open discussion about sex, and being safe and emotionally ready for it.
Condoms and knowledge go hand in hand.
So if I know myself, then I know my kid would go out and explore just like I did. So I would definitely give him/her some condoms. Along with a good long open discussion about sex, and being safe and emotionally ready for it.
Condoms and knowledge go hand in hand.
07/09/2012
Yea for sure if they r sexually active better than getting a nasty std
07/09/2012
Yes. Especially if I know they are sexually active.
07/09/2012
absolutely theyre gonna have sex whether u want them to or not at least make sure they know how to protect themselves and the girl theyre with
07/09/2012
One of the presents that I gave my son on his nineteenth birthday was a box of three dozen condoms.
07/09/2012
Absolutely. It's better to give kids the tools and ability to make educated decisions rather than leaving them to figure it out on their own.
07/09/2012
yes
07/10/2012
I would rather give my kid a condom than have him go and sneak behind my back without one and end up with a kid themselves. I wouldn't encourage them but would encourage using a condom though. If it going to be done, they are going to do it either way.
07/10/2012