This toy is discreet and can be used in public while out on the town. It has a good variety of vibrations for beginners and a powerful set of vibrations for experienced users. I used this with my wife to spice up the day and get her ready for the night. I would suggest using this toy in the bedroom for the first few times so she will know how it feels and can tell if it starts to slip out. I also found that you can do double penetration with this toy as you slide in, which increases the pressure and pleasure she will receive from you and the toy.