The Fine Art Of Erotic Talk - book discontinued by Bantam - review by Woman China

"The Fine Art of Erotic Talk: How to Entice, Excite and Enchant Your Lover with Words" by Bonnie Gabriel is a 213 page, kind of a self help book for people who want to explore arousing their partners with words alone. Now, I don't know about you, but I find when buying books, the back cover is helpful. So here is what the back cover says, "A whipered term of endearment, a flirtatious phrase, a secret suggestion, a cry of passion-- words can be the most intimate gift to lovers share. This guide to their sensual power invites us to explore the erotic potential in verbal communication, as sexuality counselor and seminar leader Bonnie Gabriel shows how words can arouse desire, reveal and fulfill fantasies, and infuse lovemaking with romance and fire."

Now the chapter and chapter breakdown- or parts as in the book:

Part 1 Initiation Erotic Talk
The magic of making love with words and Sensual Speaking

Part 2 Seduction
The gentle art of seduction, verbal encouragement: building a safe environment for the expression of your sexual desires, negotiating safe sex erotically

Part 3 Mastery
Increasing your sensitivity to words tuning up exercises for singles and couples, erotic wordplay sensual games for couples

Part 4 Enhancement
Talking dirty, fantasy talk and role play, words of dominance and surrender, sensual words that nurture and heal, erotic afterglow words to leave your lover wanting more

The first three parts, reminded me a lot of when I studied conflict mediation and effective communication in high school. It is not just about what you say, but how and what you say that is important. These first three parts discuss how to relax and work your voice and bodies parts associated with speaking. Then discusses various methods of communication to put your partner in the mood by using various phrases and techniques.

Part 4 is probably what most people want this book for. There are various activities and various vocabulary sections that enable you to expand your erotic talk from just saying pussy and snatch to other words as well. This part also discusses addressing your fantasies to your partner, words that can be used for some more kinkier bedroom fun as well.

I am a little torn on this book to be honest. For starters, anyone with any lick of sense, anyone who has been through mediation, conflict resolution, communication or some psychology classes... the first three chapters I found kind of useless. It basically talks about how it is not just what you say, but HOW you say what you want to say is the key. Now to be fair about this book, there are a few good points in here that are helpful, and no. I am not going to tell you what they are that would be cheating!!!

Part 4 as I mentioned above, is probably why most people would purchase this book. There are some games mentioned that you can play, granted, some of them are cheesy, but what I find cheesy many might find fun!!! I also greatly appreciated where Bonnie Gabriel talked about fantasies and exploring your fantasies. There was a poll done, and they discovered that many people share the same fantasies. I know if I was just starting out in exploring my sexuality further than just vanilla sex, knowing that others out there share similar or the same fantasies as me would settle my mind in assuring me that these are common.

So... where does that leave us? Right! Score card. How would I rate this book? I think knowing what I know about communicating effectively, I would say this book is not for all people. I was hoping that this book would cover more phrases and terminology for things like phone sex and since this is the twenty-first century, sex texting and such for more fun. So I think I am going to give this a three star rating.