“Fetish Sex” by Violet Blue|Fetish Sex by Violet Blue is an excellent and non-judgmental introduction to the world of fetish. It is a useful book for the merely curious, and for those trying to understand their own or a lover’s fetish. The book combines intelligent discussion of fetishes with short vignettes that illustrate some of the more common fetishes.

The first chapter is dedicated to exploring and defining the concept of “fetish.” Chapters 2 and 3 cover working fetishes into play with a partner, and dealing with some of the difficulties of fantasy or “impossible” fetishes.

The following chapters focus on specific fetishes and ways of practicing them: role-play, fetish dressing, human animals, cross-dressing and sissies, and medical play and adult babies, and fetishes involving specific parts of the human body. There is also a section that lists and explains a world of fetishes--from foot worship to scat play to hair fetish to smearing your body in messy substances or sitting on cheesecakes. The book finishes up with a valuable section for rules on fetish play, and a fairly comprehensive resource section for fetishists, divided by chapter and type of fetish.

The book is clear and easy to read, and quite informative. My favorite aspect of the book is that it treats all fetishes with respect and does not deride any of them. Adult babies and pony play are given the same respect as corset fetish, the author’s own weakness. Even fetishes like necrophilia and zoophilia are not treated with disdain, just a warning that these fetishes are most often illegal. She demonstrates that most fetishes can be boiled down to dominance, submission, or the opportunity to pamper or be papered and cared for or admired.

The resources section of the book is quite comprehensive--it includes everything from more books for further reading to websites, blogs, shopping resources and fan/support groups.

Overall, I think “Fetish Sex” by Violet Blue is an excellent introduction to the world of fetish|BDSM and fetish stories for those who would like to understand more about this form of sexuality. It is well-written, quite informative, and always respectful.

I really like to experiment, but I have yet to find one particular thing that really “does it” for me. My husband, on the other hand, has several pronounced fetishes, so we read this as a couple for me to try to gain a better understanding of why he likes what he likes. His fetishes are mostly dressing fetishes--he goes wild over stockings and corsets, two things I HATE to wear. This book has helped me understand why he has the desires he does, and hopefully will enhance our sex lives in the future. If I can better understand his fetishes, the more willing (and eager) I will be to accommodate them!