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Secrets of a Sex Writer: Is Social Media Ruining Your Sex Life?

Anya Garrett
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When it comes to sex and dating, social media is a double-edged sword. On the one hand, it’s, well, social, and therefore, has the potential for fun, flirting, meeting people and getting to know dates, significant others, fuck buddies and those who hold the potential to fall into those categories.


Penelope Trunk  

Hi, Rachel. You bring up a lot of interesting social media/dating issues.

The Farmer does, actually, have a blog. But one of the things that attracted me to him from the start was that he didn't want to use me to get more traffic to his blog. He doesn't even want me to tell people where his blog is.

When I was dating people -- lots of social media people -- I found that there was an added layer of dating problems when one person could send the other person a ton of traffic. For example, if someone posted "I just had a one-night stand with [famous person]" they would get a lot of traffic to their blog. I wrote about this issue on this post:




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