What is feederism?
Feederism is the reason gluttony is one of the Seven Deadly Sins. (laughs) Though people express it in many different ways, most of feeders agree that food is sensual; eating or watching others eat is erotic, and that fat or distended bellies and bodies are hot.
I saw these terms on your site: “stuffies,” “stuffers,” “feeders,” “gainers.” Could you explain?
The “feeder” is the person doing the feeding (me!) and the “feedee” is the person being fed. “Stuffies,” “stuffers,” and “stuffer boys” are terms I made up for myself before I discovered what the “right” terms were through the Internet, and I still use them with people I really love. “Gainers” are people who gain weight because they’re turned on by getting fatter or think a fatter body is more attractive.
You mention on your blog that you didn’t realize your fetish had a name until you were 21. How long were you aware of it?
I guess “since puberty” is the best description. Earliest memory is seeing the cartoon version of Charlotte’s Web, where Templeton the Rat goes a little nuts on the fairground trash and gets a huge belly . I can’t even tell you why I liked it so much, except there was happy and color and swelling. I’ve since learned lot of people into feederism had a similar “awakening” with this cartoon or others featuring gluttony/inflation scenarios.
God, isn’t that a ridiculous place to start your sexuality? I wish I’d had better porn growing up.
What was food like growing up? Did they use food as punishment or reward? Was dinnertime special family time? Did your parents make you clean your plate?
Now that’s something I’ve never thought about it in conjunction with my fetish! Food was never used as reward/punishment, and I don’t remember being told to clean my plate, but I don’t have many pleasant memories of food in childhood. Family dinner was an extremely boring time for me when I had to sit still for what felt like 1,000 hours and eat horrible food—mushy veggies, bland entrees and mainly packaged food—until the last couple years, when I taught myself how to cook out.
Ironically, my early experiences with badly prepared food might make me *less* receptive to food than a lot of feederists. A lot of the homemade feederism erotica I read has long descriptions of each dish and I usually skip over those. “Where’s the bit where he’s stuffed and hard, dammit?” Most of the stories I write for myself start after the gorging, instead of having that as the lead-up to the climax.
Do you like to cook?
I love it. Right now I’m reading Vegan With a Vengeance and I want to master Indian food.
What about eating out?
I love that too, especially for sushi!
Are you dating or partnered with someone right now?
To quote an erotica author I read recently: “He wants a boyfriend and a girlfriend, but so far has only succeeded in being a huge slut.”
What are YOU like physically? Are you a big person?
Like a feedee, I can get turned on by the sensation of being full, but it doesn’t happen all the time (depends on what I’ve been eating, what I’ve been thinking of, etc.). I can easily become uncomfortable if I eat too much, which ironically is a bit of a boner killer when I’m experiencing it personally. I’m a size 18—big for a normal chick, small by the standards of some boys I’ve talked to!—but I see it more as a fortunate accident than something I’ve aspired to.
Are you attracted to people who are bigger than you or smaller?
I’ve been on both sides of the size equation when it comes to who I’m attracted to. I enjoy being bigger than someone in that they can lay on top of me or sit in my lap easily, and I have the illusion of being more physically powerful than they are because I’m bigger. I’ve also had a couple of experiences where I’ve been with someone larger (a BHM with a magnificent belly comes to mind), and I really enjoyed being able to bury myself in him and feel tiny and girly for a change.
What’s your biggest favorite body type?
Though I like all different types of people, my favorite ever is sometimes called the “ex jock.” The story behind it is usually about a boy that was a super athlete who had all these dietary restrictions, then an accident or his own gluttony got the better of him and he lets himself go for a life of pleasure. You then have this wonderful combination of tummy, fat, and muscles: “sculpted chubby,” which I find the most delicious. But really, any adorable boy with a little extra weight around the tummy area is good. I think love handles are cute.
What’s your take on food and sex? Both are such pleasure outlets.
And yet, I don’t think many people naturally think to put them together? One of the things I got out of reading Kate Harding’s blog is the weird relationship even healthy people have with food, in that some foods are moral or immoral, and I think that keeps them from being paired sometimes (and might be the whole reason gluttony is a fetish). There was an eating scene in Queer as Folk that was a big, “Oh!” moment for me: Wow, other people think food can be hot, too!
One of my dreams is to have someone hot gorge themselves and then have sex with them. Having sex “in” the food, however, is not one of my turn-ons.
(Next time, the conclusion of everything you always wanted to know about Feederism—from soups to nuts and beyond.)