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Contributor: Not Here Anymore f/k/a Happy Lady Not Here Anymore f/k/a Happy Lady
I have recently moved from light play (light spankings) to definitely more serious & intense play (heavy physical & psychological acts). I am the dominate person in this situation.

I need a book, or some other source of advice, not only on serious BDSM play safety, but something that also address good aftercare techniques.

Your thoughts?
04/28/2009
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Contributor: Carrie Ann Carrie Ann
Quote:
Originally posted by Not Here Anymore f/k/a Happy Lady
I have recently moved from light play (light spankings) to definitely more serious & intense play (heavy physical & psychological acts). I am the dominate person in this situation.

I need a book, or some other source of advice, not ... more
I can't recommend a book cuz I've read very few and liked even less but I can recommend a terrific blog site for beginners to BDSM. link The blog has quite a few articles on beginner stuff and a PHENOMENAL article on aftercare.
04/28/2009
Contributor: Not Here Anymore f/k/a Happy Lady Not Here Anymore f/k/a Happy Lady
Quote:
Originally posted by Carrie Ann
I can't recommend a book cuz I've read very few and liked even less but I can recommend a terrific blog site for beginners to BDSM. link The blog has quite a few articles on beginner stuff and a PHENOMENAL article on aftercare. ... more
Thank you Carrie Ann! That is an awesome site. Really good information...
04/29/2009
Contributor: Carrie Ann Carrie Ann
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Originally posted by Not Here Anymore f/k/a Happy Lady
Thank you Carrie Ann! That is an awesome site. Really good information...
Most welcome.
04/29/2009
Contributor: TinyTease TinyTease
Cool site!
04/29/2009
Contributor: Perish Perish
The site was pretty entertaining lolz
04/29/2009
Contributor: lexical lexical
Happy Lady, I know the *perfect* book for you! It's one of my absolute favorites. It's called "Screw the Roses, Send me the Thorns" by Molly Devon and Philip Miller, I think...I'm bad at remembering authors' names, lol. Please do look into purchasing it! It's a great reference to have on hand. I read it from cover to cover and I will never get rid of my copy
05/06/2009
Contributor: Viv Viv
I'm a fan of The Loving Dominant by John Warren. covers a wide range of topics.
05/07/2009
Contributor: Jessica Elizabeth Jessica Elizabeth
I also suggest Screw the Roses, Send me the Thorns. Also however, the best source of information will be your submissive. Taking things one step at a time, and being sure to listen and gauge their needs.

I am a submissive myself, so if you want to ask questions of me, feel free to contact me.
05/13/2009
Contributor: Not Here Anymore f/k/a Happy Lady Not Here Anymore f/k/a Happy Lady
Thank you everyone!

I've ordered a couple of books and looked at the website Carrie suggested. If I get time maybe I'll review the books.
05/13/2009
Contributor: Rayne Millaray Rayne Millaray
The only BDSM book I've read was The Loving Dominant. I liked it when I read it. I was a beginner back then.

Now? Now it doesn't apply to us at all. But it's a good jumping off point, I think.
08/12/2009
Contributor: Juliettia Juliettia
I've heard great things for S&M101 and really enjoyed "The New Bottoming Book"
08/12/2009
Contributor: VieuxCarre VieuxCarre
I just finished SM 101 and loved it. Jay Wiseman is a fabulous author and brings a lot of things to light that most people don't think of when starting out with more intense play
08/13/2009
Contributor: Bill Ditchburn Bill Ditchburn
(Leatherbeaten)
Quote:
Originally posted by Not Here Anymore f/k/a Happy Lady
I have recently moved from light play (light spankings) to definitely more serious & intense play (heavy physical & psychological acts). I am the dominate person in this situation.

I need a book, or some other source of advice, not ... more
These guys have the best list of droolworthy BDSM books. Not sure if they'll sell to the general public, but they may. You can always email them and ask.

link
08/13/2009
Contributor: Dragon Dragon
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Originally posted by Bill Ditchburn
These guys have the best list of droolworthy BDSM books. Not sure if they'll sell to the general public, but they may. You can always email them and ask.

link ... more
One dead link... I wonder what it was.
05/09/2010
Contributor: Lady Evyl Lady Evyl
Well the links are now dead....I have read quite a few. Here are my faves:

The Art of Sensual Domination by Claudia Varrin...my first intro to bdsm reading
Female Domination...Elise Sutton...controversial but essential
Wild Side Sex by Midori...light but good pointers
Family Jewels by Hardy Haberman
Bondage for Sex by Chianta Rose...my first bondage basics books, voers safely the essentials
05/16/2010
Contributor: Glinteye Glinteye
Hope everything worked out!
04/20/2012
Contributor: ScarletFox ScarletFox
I am a fan of SM 101.
07/30/2012
Contributor: Zandrock Zandrock
I do not have any books, but the internet and your local community are great resources
07/30/2012
Contributor: gsfanatic gsfanatic
If you want to learn about knot tying, either Complete Shibari by Douglas Kent or Two Knotty Boys should get you ready
08/02/2012