my first Domme was an abusive, alcoholic. She was not a good candidate for Domme-hood, even though she had lots of experience. She hurt me emotionally, very badly, with long lasting effects, though thankfully all the physical pain was the good kind, no actual injuries.

my current relationship started as a regular dating relationship, though i made pretty plain from the beginning that i wasn't vanilla and never would be. W/we made the switch to add a D/s dynamic fairly early but certainly not from the get go. It's been a little tricky to change habits as W/we've added rules and protocols to our relationship but so far it's going well overall. W/we're making the change gradually, adding in protocols a few at a time to see how it works, building a contract slowly as W/we find what fits and suits U/us and what doesn't. She is still my Girlfriend, which helps when we're in the company of vanillas or "muggles" but i also call her Mistress or Ma'am now. it has been a wonderful journey so far and i'm so blessed and lucky to be Hers. It has been an experience of opening up, communicating and bonding in ways neither of U/us has never experienced in past relationships. i believe it's helping U/us build a stronger relationship with crisply defined, black and white boundaries and expectations and it all makes me very happy.