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Contributor: lustylusty lustylusty
I am trying this sex dominate thing out on my man. Well I am not crafty and I cant think of any sex things to do. I was trying to go for humilation but I cant get used to the idea, just really weird. Another thing I tried was to try and "train" him, as in his body. Like I want him to think that if he cums its going to hurt. So everytime he cums or is about to cum his body tells him it is going to hurt. I cant think of anything else to do.

Anybody have any ideas?
06/23/2012
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Contributor: 12345678 12345678
Just so you know, dominant is the proper term. Dominate is a verb and is the action word here. A lot of people on bdsm websites conflate the two...
06/23/2012
Contributor: TheSinDoll TheSinDoll
You might want to try reading about domination and submission. In fact, Googling Jay Wiseman and reading just about anything that he's written will probably give you a good starting point. SM101 is a good place to start.

You really need to communicate with him and see what fetishes that he wants to explore. If you have similar ones - then explore those together! It can be a fun and rewarding journey. Good luck!
06/24/2012
Contributor: Mitzuki Mitzuki
Google will be your best friend to research! Sadly I don't have many tips, I don't know how my dom learned. Good luck and have fun!
06/27/2012
Contributor: SubmissiveFeminist SubmissiveFeminist
There are some great books on here that can help you. One I suggest is the New Book of Topping.

I'd also say to try some light flogging or restraining toys and just have fun with it during sex.

Best of luck!
06/27/2012