My guy is the "Dom" in the relationship. That is, while we don't have a total BDSM lifestyle, in the bedroom, we love it. I love for him to call me his slut, his whore, his girl, his slave, his pet, his sex kitten, and baby (not BDSM related, I know, but it comes out once in a while. )

I'd love to choose a name for him that would indicate his dominance, but I'm not sure how to go about it. I've asked him what he thought about me responding to his demands with "yes, sir" and he said that sounds wonderful. So, Sir seems to be the name for him for now, though we won't get a chance to use it in the bedroom until we're reunited in January. I've considered others...but Master seems like it might not work for us. I can't quite put my finger on why...maybe just because this is still new to me, and I'm not used to it yet. Daddy is out of the question; I had an ex that liked being called that. He was much older than me, and in a position of authority. At the time, I loved how much it turned him on, but now that is associated with him, and I don't ever want to think of him in the bedroom again, especially with my new lover.

What do you call your Dom? Is there another term that I'm not thinking of? Other than the feminine forms of those titles, of course, such as Madam, Mistress, and...I guess Mama? I've never heard of it, but someone out there somewhere must call their Lady "mama."

Also, how did you choose what to call him/her? Did something just come out of your mouth and it stuck? Were you told to address them in such a way? Did you think it through and try different ones out until it "felt right?"