I just wanted to offer my two cents about this. I am a strong advocate of clear, enthusiastic consent prior to any activity. I've had partners in the past who have done things 'for me' without making it clear to me that these activities didn't turn them on at all, and perhaps even wore on their nerves at times. And I just wanted to say that no one should ever feel obligated to do something for another person, just because they really like it, even if they can't get off without it. You should all remember that, and remember not to push your partner to do anything that they seem hesitant about. I'm 25 and for the first time able to honestly say that I have a partner I'm comfortable exploring just about anything with, but I know that I will never be obligated, and that's the whole reason I feel safe.

Pushing boundaries of consent can have serious consequences on someone's mind, and forcing yourself to do things just because you think you have to is a hard habit to break.

Please, take care of yourselves and your lovers. less