I have a friend this also happens to. I've asked her if she is getting the aftercare she needs.

Super Pink Cheeks, you might want to do a little self reflection and figure out what this is and possibly talk to a mental health professional if the issues you are facing end up being too much for you to handle on your own. There is no shame in asking for help. What are you dissatisfied/concerned /scared/uneasy about in your life and how if at all can you fix it?

Remember, sex is supposed to be a fun activity between one or more participants.

Have u had bad sexual experiences in the past? What I mean by it is did u have sex and have feelings for the person u had sex with and they basically used u for a one night stand?

I'm sorry to hear that you get depressed after orgasms! I don't get depressed after every orgasm, but I sometimes feel sad after BDSM play.

Aftercare is definitely important! Sometimes when I am in a submissive head space and I am taken out of that mindset, I find myself feeling very lonely. This probably also has to do with the fact that I am in a long distance relationship, and it is very hard to get snuggles through Skype. Sometimes just talking to my Dom afterwards and telling him how I feel does wonders. Talking with someone, whether that person is your partner, a health professional, or a close friend, can be helpful when sorting out your own body and emotions.

I want to say that every person is different and reacts to situations and stimuli in a vary of ways, and that your reaction is okay. But at the same time, orgasms are supposed to be sources of pleasure! Definitely, a sense of shame or a pressure associated with sex can impact the way you respond after orgasms. I hope that you can find a solution!

I'm not a Therapist, but there's a chance you could be holding in too much unresolved emotion inside of you. Whether, sadness, stress, or whateve the case may be. When you finally reach your orgasm, youR body is finally free and relaxed at that moment, then your emotions come flooding out . This could cause you to break into tears, shut down, or just go into a depression. Either way, something seems to be troubling you that you are having a difficult time either recognizing or coping with. Talking with someone, I think, will help to shed light on it and bring it to the surface.

Good luck. I wish you well.

So a lot of good advice here, but I would definitely seek help of a medical professional... it could be emotional in which case having someone to talk to in a safe medical setting might be helpful.

Also, I believe we all interact with the chemicals that release during sex differently... it is possible that the chemicals that are supposed to leave you feeling content/pleasant after an orgasm actually are having the inverse interaction with your brain chemistry. Again, talking through the problem and seeing if this is a possible issue w/ a medical professional who could determine if this is the case as well would be best.

I know if I was in your position I would definitely discuss this with my doctor and therapist to get their insight.

Also, are you playing with multiple partners or just one and what is the level of attachment to said partner/partners? What was negotiated vs what are you getting? Little things like this you might want to revisit and discuss with your partner/partners. These could be a contributing factors to your situation.

thank you so much for responding i recently came off an antidepressant and my therapist seemed to think it was just my body readjusting to not taking a mood suppressor

Thank you for the update.