depression after orgasam

depression after orgasam

Super Pink Cheeks Super Pink Cheeks
i always get really depressed after i orgasam does this happen to anyone else if so how do you deal with it
04/23/2016
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Quote:
Originally posted by Super Pink Cheeks
i always get really depressed after i orgasam does this happen to anyone else if so how do you deal with it
Hi SPCheeks. This is posted in the BDSM section. Does your question then mean get depressed after an O during a BDSM session ? Anyway. no, hasn't happen to either of us. Thank goodness.
04/23/2016
Super Pink Cheeks Super Pink Cheeks
Quote:
Originally posted by OH&W, Lovebears
Hi SPCheeks. This is posted in the BDSM section. Does your question then mean get depressed after an O during a BDSM session ? Anyway. no, hasn't happen to either of us. Thank goodness.
it doesnt matter what kind of play if i orgasm i get depressed its worse after a d/s sence but it happens even when we dont have a d/s semce
04/23/2016
Inquisitor Inquisitor
I have a friend this also happens to. I've asked her if she is getting the aftercare she needs.

Super Pink Cheeks, you might want to do a little self reflection and figure out what this is and possibly talk to a mental health professional if the issues you are facing end up being too much for you to handle on your own. There is no shame in asking for help. What are you dissatisfied/concerned /scared/uneasy about in your life and how if at all can you fix it?

Remember, sex is supposed to be a fun activity between one or more participants.
04/24/2016
OH&W, Lovebears OH&W, Lovebears
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Originally posted by Super Pink Cheeks
it doesnt matter what kind of play if i orgasm i get depressed its worse after a d/s sence but it happens even when we dont have a d/s semce
Is it like feeling guilty or something like that ? Like feeling remorse for doing it or a certain act ? That has happened to us a few times.
04/24/2016
Andykh Andykh
Have u had bad sexual experiences in the past? What I mean by it is did u have sex and have feelings for the person u had sex with and they basically used u for a one night stand?
04/24/2016
DancerKittyKat DancerKittyKat
I'm sorry to hear that you get depressed after orgasms! I don't get depressed after every orgasm, but I sometimes feel sad after BDSM play.

Aftercare is definitely important! Sometimes when I am in a submissive head space and I am taken out of that mindset, I find myself feeling very lonely. This probably also has to do with the fact that I am in a long distance relationship, and it is very hard to get snuggles through Skype. Sometimes just talking to my Dom afterwards and telling him how I feel does wonders. Talking with someone, whether that person is your partner, a health professional, or a close friend, can be helpful when sorting out your own body and emotions.

I want to say that every person is different and reacts to situations and stimuli in a vary of ways, and that your reaction is okay. But at the same time, orgasms are supposed to be sources of pleasure! Definitely, a sense of shame or a pressure associated with sex can impact the way you respond after orgasms. I hope that you can find a solution!
04/24/2016
Vnessa Vnessa
I'm not a Therapist, but there's a chance you could be holding in too much unresolved emotion inside of you. Whether, sadness, stress, or whateve the case may be. When you finally reach your orgasm, youR body is finally free and relaxed at that moment, then your emotions come flooding out . This could cause you to break into tears, shut down, or just go into a depression. Either way, something seems to be troubling you that you are having a difficult time either recognizing or coping with. Talking with someone, I think, will help to shed light on it and bring it to the surface.

Good luck. I wish you well.
04/29/2016
MrClark MrClark
So a lot of good advice here, but I would definitely seek help of a medical professional... it could be emotional in which case having someone to talk to in a safe medical setting might be helpful.

Also, I believe we all interact with the chemicals that release during sex differently... it is possible that the chemicals that are supposed to leave you feeling content/pleasant after an orgasm actually are having the inverse interaction with your brain chemistry. Again, talking through the problem and seeing if this is a possible issue w/ a medical professional who could determine if this is the case as well would be best.

I know if I was in your position I would definitely discuss this with my doctor and therapist to get their insight.
06/04/2016
Inquisitor Inquisitor
Also, are you playing with multiple partners or just one and what is the level of attachment to said partner/partners? What was negotiated vs what are you getting? Little things like this you might want to revisit and discuss with your partner/partners. These could be a contributing factors to your situation.
06/05/2016
Super Pink Cheeks Super Pink Cheeks
thank you so much for responding i recently came off an antidepressant and my therapist seemed to think it was just my body readjusting to not taking a mood suppressor
06/11/2016
Inquisitor Inquisitor
Thank you for the update.
06/13/2016
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