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Differnt terms and their meaning? top,bottom ect.

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Contributor: MrRainybowbow MrRainybowbow
I dont really understand what people mean when i read their a bottom or a top or a sub. Can someone explain all the terms of BDSM for me?
01/02/2011
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Contributor: PussyGalore PussyGalore
link and link

This is a good place to start. Deeper understanding comes from being involved. Also you can poke around BDSM websites for more information and personal experiences.
01/02/2011
Contributor: Sir Sir
Top or bottom basically is your position in the relationship - who's got the penis. Not literally necessarily, but I hope that that makes sense and that I explain that correctly.

Dominant or submissive (or Dom and sub) is who holds the whip.

You can be a Dom and a bottom, and you can be a sub and a Top. All combinations are possible.
01/02/2011
Contributor: MrRainybowbow MrRainybowbow
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Originally posted by Sir
Top or bottom basically is your position in the relationship - who's got the penis. Not literally necessarily, but I hope that that makes sense and that I explain that correctly.

Dominant or submissive (or Dom and sub) is who holds the ... more
The top and bottom is what i figured but the books called '' the top book and the bottom book'' just threw me for a loop. I couldnt wrap my mind around what it was about and every review wasn't clear enough.
01/02/2011
Contributor: Sir Sir
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Originally posted by MrRainybowbow
The top and bottom is what i figured but the books called '' the top book and the bottom book'' just threw me for a loop. I couldnt wrap my mind around what it was about and every review wasn't clear enough.
Ah, the topping book and bottoming book you mean? What they're talking about, if I'm correct, is how to be a top and how to be a bottom, or something like that. Maybe even erotic stories aimed towards tops or bottoms? I do not know.
01/02/2011
Contributor: ScottA ScottA
"Top" is in charge, "Bottom" officially does what the top wants (though a good T/B pair has plenty of communication going the other way, so the bottom really has at least half of the control). D=Top, s=bottom (though it sometimes stands for sadism).
01/03/2011
Contributor: TboyTy TboyTy
I had a lot of trouble with this concept too when I first entered the lifestyle. Someone cleared it up for me pretty quickly and concisely. Sexually The top is the pitcher and the bottom is the catcher, within a D/s scene the top is the Dominant and the bottom is the submissive. Someone mentioned already that just because someone is a submissive doesn't mean they cant pitch.
01/03/2011