Dom or sub?

Mine is always depending on who I am with, I am usually the Dom, but once in a while I like to mix it up and sub for a bit.. it keeps things interesting..

I am very dominant and my partner is very submissive. We both started fairly in the middle but as we have explored and experimented with each other we have found that we prefer certain roles. I have some sadistic desires during sex which led me to become a dominant. My partner on the other hand is turned on by masochism.

I am a Dominant I am this way in all parts of my life. I enjoy control and I enjoy the responsibility. In all my relationships even back to my teenage years I was the lead. Maybe part of it was that I have always been open minded and to get others in on my mischievous ways I had to take the lead.

Someone told me the other day I come in a room like a bolt of lightning. I am high energy and a bit aggressive. I have also been told by a guy that like me I was intimidating and I think its just the fact that I am outspoken and semi unpredictable.

I think part of finding where you fit in is your natural way. If you enjoy control than I wouldn't see why it wouldn't spill over to the bedroom. It does for me. I have tried to switch roles but I always wind up taking over.

Now I do have to say I know plenty people who are in control of everything but when it came to the bed game over.

For me though I have been the Dom in male and female relationships. My friendships almost seemed like love affairs because my girl and guy friends followed me like puppies.

Sometimes I wish I could switch like I am afraid I am going to run out of ideas but so far so good. A Dom has to have a creative way as well. It just really comes down to what makes you happy and comfortable.

And it nice to share. Nice switch to receive too. Also helps partner's sex esteem. I think you know what I mean

I love it when men embrace their role as a woman's bitch.

And I love having such a loyal loving hard working dutiful man servant

And sometimes wish I had 2 or 3

I have yet to convince my partner to experiment but I would say I feel I identify with both. I am 12 years younger than him. He has most of himself put together but also is far less mature. He had a tamer upbringing than I did. I may not always have myself together but I am scrappier because I had to deal with a lot more and learn to look out for myself at a younger age. He was the youngest of his siblings who have told me he was intensely coddled and babied because his parents knew he would be the last child. with that said, he generally prefers to act childish with me. I find myself taking the "mommy" role with him frequently and he relishes forcing me into this in public. He is 6'2" and loves to walk around with shoelaces untied. this drives me crazy and I usually cannot help but scold him for it and insist he tie them before he gets hurt. I am beginning to see he does this on purpose and its not the only example of him making me be "mommy". But there is a part of me he will probably never know that just wants to give up and would like not to have to be the one taking care of things nonstop. I would like to just give in and behave more submissively and just stop letting my mind run over everything I have to get done and just have someone tell me what they want and what to do for them. I have tried to implement such behavior in our relationship by giving him control of plans and everything day to day but that really didn't seem to help because when I give him control he still works me into my busy "mommy" role and just wears me out some more. I feel like a dominant woman wanting but unable to act on more submissive wishes.