Dom or sub?

Dom or sub?

Madi2013 Madi2013
Where do you fit in and why ?
Feb 12, 12:37 am
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poetprincess poetprincess
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Originally posted by Madi2013
Where do you fit in and why ?
Mine is always depending on who I am with, I am usually the Dom, but once in a while I like to mix it up and sub for a bit.. it keeps things interesting..
Feb 13, 11:53 pm
Gunsmoke Gunsmoke
I'm basically a sub - but my wife surprised me the other day - asking me to tie her wrists. Knowing that's she's not a true sub - I kept my impacts and tactics playful. It worked out fantastic - gotta know your audience!
Feb 14, 12:39 am
whenitallfails whenitallfails
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Originally posted by Madi2013
Where do you fit in and why ?
I am very dominant and my partner is very submissive. We both started fairly in the middle but as we have explored and experimented with each other we have found that we prefer certain roles. I have some sadistic desires during sex which led me to become a dominant. My partner on the other hand is turned on by masochism.
Feb 15, 2:50 pm
jen1447 jen1447
I'm pretty much totally dominant but it does depend on who I'm with as to how much. With the girls for the most part, its more of a just-girls being girly type thing tho in the end I almost always bring the dick, but with my BF there's always a distinct element of domme play, even outside sexual situations. It's just the way it is between us.

I do have one GF who gives me a run for my money in the authority department so we usually have an element of dominance competition together where we fight for control. She's about the only one who can challenge me tho.
Feb 15, 3:00 pm
Mistress Stefana Mistress Stefana
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Originally posted by Madi2013
Where do you fit in and why ?
I am a Dominant I am this way in all parts of my life. I enjoy control and I enjoy the responsibility. In all my relationships even back to my teenage years I was the lead. Maybe part of it was that I have always been open minded and to get others in on my mischievous ways I had to take the lead.

Someone told me the other day I come in a room like a bolt of lightning. I am high energy and a bit aggressive. I have also been told by a guy that like me I was intimidating and I think its just the fact that I am outspoken and semi unpredictable.

I think part of finding where you fit in is your natural way. If you enjoy control than I wouldn't see why it wouldn't spill over to the bedroom. It does for me. I have tried to switch roles but I always wind up taking over.

Now I do have to say I know plenty people who are in control of everything but when it came to the bed game over.

For me though I have been the Dom in male and female relationships. My friendships almost seemed like love affairs because my girl and guy friends followed me like puppies.

Sometimes I wish I could switch like I am afraid I am going to run out of ideas but so far so good. A Dom has to have a creative way as well. It just really comes down to what makes you happy and comfortable.
Feb 16, 9:31 pm
mikeysPlace mikeysPlace
Mostly DOM but I like to switch sometimes. I feel like it's more work to always be dom. Sometimes just relaxing to let someone else have the control.

tried to find a smiley for this subject....but not really. :p
Feb 17, 12:31 pm
OH&W, Lovebears OH&W, Lovebears
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Originally posted by mikeysPlace
Mostly DOM but I like to switch sometimes. I feel like it's more work to always be dom. Sometimes just relaxing to let someone else have the control.

tried to find a smiley for this subject....but not really. :p
And it nice to share. Nice switch to receive too. Also helps partner's sex esteem. I think you know what I mean
Feb 17, 2:27 pm
Devz Devz
Both i guess, Switching roles once a while
Feb 22, 12:48 pm
OH&W, Lovebears OH&W, Lovebears
I'm whatever she wants me to be. (bowing )
Feb 22, 2:54 pm
jen1447 jen1447
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Originally posted by OH&W, Lovebears
I'm whatever she wants me to be. (bowing )
I love it when men embrace their role as a woman's bitch.
Feb 22, 3:34 pm
OH&W, Lovebears OH&W, Lovebears
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Originally posted by jen1447
I love it when men embrace their role as a woman's bitch.
And I love having such a loyal loving hard working dutiful man servant

And sometimes wish I had 2 or 3
Feb 23, 2:55 pm
GingerMeggie GingerMeggie
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Originally posted by Madi2013
Where do you fit in and why ?
I have yet to convince my partner to experiment but I would say I feel I identify with both. I am 12 years younger than him. He has most of himself put together but also is far less mature. He had a tamer upbringing than I did. I may not always have myself together but I am scrappier because I had to deal with a lot more and learn to look out for myself at a younger age. He was the youngest of his siblings who have told me he was intensely coddled and babied because his parents knew he would be the last child. with that said, he generally prefers to act childish with me. I find myself taking the "mommy" role with him frequently and he relishes forcing me into this in public. He is 6'2" and loves to walk around with shoelaces untied. this drives me crazy and I usually cannot help but scold him for it and insist he tie them before he gets hurt. I am beginning to see he does this on purpose and its not the only example of him making me be "mommy". But there is a part of me he will probably never know that just wants to give up and would like not to have to be the one taking care of things nonstop. I would like to just give in and behave more submissively and just stop letting my mind run over everything I have to get done and just have someone tell me what they want and what to do for them. I have tried to implement such behavior in our relationship by giving him control of plans and everything day to day but that really didn't seem to help because when I give him control he still works me into my busy "mommy" role and just wears me out some more. I feel like a dominant woman wanting but unable to act on more submissive wishes.
Feb 23, 5:31 pm
dominatrixNY dominatrixNY
I am dominant and i love it.
Sep 21, 11:30 am
Lena Eden Lena Eden
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Originally posted by dominatrixNY
I am dominant and i love it.
Have you ever tried to switch?
Sep 22, 8:28 am
DownTheRabbitHole DownTheRabbitHole
I haven't tried anything yet, but I would probably be mostly submissive since I hate being in control. I really, really hate being in control. When I was little, most of my cousins were fighting over who would drive the toy cars while I just hopped a ride in the passenger seat and actually gave my turn driving to someone else. I also have a more mischievous side that probably couldn't help messing with my partner just to get a reaction. I'm that annoying friend that will sometimes take the opposite side of an argument just because it will get you worked up. I seriously can't help myself during those situations. They look so mad and I'm just dying from laughter on the inside.
Dec 4, 7:18 pm
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