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Contributor: Pixel Pixel
My sadist loves to bite/do rough body play, and I usually end up with bruises, scratches and whatnot after we've had a scene. I usually try to wear clothing that covers them, but sometimes we aren't as careful as we could be or it's just too hot to wear long sleeves, so they show.

I've found that telling people who ask about the marks "Oh, I do MMA (you could substitute self defense classes, etc)!" seems to make any awkward questions go away.

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10/31/2012
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Contributor: charletnarouh charletnarouh
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Originally posted by Pixel
My sadist loves to bite/do rough body play, and I usually end up with bruises, scratches and whatnot after we've had a scene. I usually try to wear clothing that covers them, but sometimes we aren't as careful as we could be or it's just ... more
Most of my bruises and marks are usually on my thighs and my bum. i don't usually have my bare bum and upper thighs on display. Once in a while i've had a dance or fitness class where some cane marks on my thighs showed but either no one noticed or no one wanted to ask about the marks lining my thighs. More often, i've been sitting very gingerly or wincing as i sat and someone noticed but if asked, i usually just say "Oh, i have a bruise" and don't really offer more info. Most people don't push for info, unless they are friends, and then most of my friends know that i'm involved in BDSM or, if they don't, i don't have a problem telling them.
10/31/2012
Contributor: gsfanatic gsfanatic
I've made sure never to bruise my sub in a visible place, and she usually wears pants and long sleeve shirts. Otherwise, she goes with bumping into something
10/31/2012
Contributor: Genderfree Genderfree
My girlfriend had a few scars on her back from when she was a younger child. She was never able to identify where they came from, but it looks like three big slashes. When she want to a meetup with a few other people they would avoid her back and asked a whole bunch of questions about me because they assumed that I slashed her. I've never even bruised her, except for the inside of her thighs (oops). I'm super gentle in our BDSM play, but having to explain those scars away...
11/01/2012
Contributor: - Kira - - Kira -
Most of my marks are on my butt and sometimes my thighs. Not usually showing those off to people, so it's never been an issue.

I'm super clumsy and live with bruises all over, so even if someone saw one I doubt they'd ask any questions.
11/01/2012
Contributor: spineyogurt spineyogurt
I hide them
11/01/2012
Contributor: inkky inkky
My Marks Are Usually Easily Hidden. If Anybody Were To Ask About A Visible Mark, I'd Normally Say I Fell Down The Stairs Or Something.
11/04/2012
Contributor: Lacey- Lacey-
I have a bit a reputation as being clumsy, and being proud of my bruises (no matter the cause, they are pretty).. so people don't really ask about most of the marks anymore, which is nice, and when they do I've always been fine with being like "oh I bumped into something" if its just one noticeable one, or "I'm a clumsy drunk" when there's more.
11/05/2012
Contributor: Supervixen Supervixen
Most of mine end up under clothing, though I have had a few elsewhere...I like to be like, "oh, I have no idea where I got that! Weird!" It's fun to play innocent.
11/05/2012
Contributor: cj89 cj89
Quote:
Originally posted by Pixel
My sadist loves to bite/do rough body play, and I usually end up with bruises, scratches and whatnot after we've had a scene. I usually try to wear clothing that covers them, but sometimes we aren't as careful as we could be or it's just ... more
lmao. new years eve two years ago i believe. i had a relatively noticeable hickey on my neck from my girlfriend, and i had pretty long, curly hair at the time so i figured thatd help me out. nope, her family noticed. then we made a few excuses like "magic birth marks" and "straightener burns" haha. neither worked, but funny to think about
11/08/2012
Contributor: Mitzuki Mitzuki
My partner and I always make sure to be careful with placement of bite marks, where bruises might occur, etc. If the occasional spot occurs where I can't cover it, I have to use makeup. I'd rather not explain that to my boss, lol. My family and friends don't mind the marks at all though, and don't question them anymore. XD
11/08/2012
Contributor: WhoopieDoo WhoopieDoo
Weirdly, nobody's ever asked.
11/08/2012
Contributor: RomanticGoth RomanticGoth
Nobody has ever asked, but I tend to have plenty of bruises from dizzy spells already.... *shrugs*
11/09/2012
Contributor: Oriens Angelic Oriens Angelic
Once my partner and I first began playing rough, we were careless with bruise/bite placements and it led to her being questioned at work regarding potential domestic abuse. Oops!

Now that we're much more careful, I only bite towards the back of her neck, where her long hair or a collar will cover it. As for bruising, it's scarcely intentional, but she bruises so easily that I'm certain to only be rough where clothing can cover it so she doesn't have to explain herself to begin with.

Unfortunately, I recently got carried away and she's sporting a big bruise on her lower forearm. Good thing it's long-sleeve friendly weather.
11/09/2012
Contributor: Innocent Mathias Innocent Mathias
being and a guy i go with my wife hit me and most people just laugh as if is was joking and move on lol fun but true
11/17/2012