Do you differentiate kinky play and sex from each other? Or is kinky play a form of sex to you?
Is play different from sex
07/26/2012
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diff to me. play often leads to sex or can be sexual. but so much more to it than that. especially if its sensory play, being deprived orgasm, assigned tasks etc.
07/26/2012
I'm with Vanillafree on this one. In my mind, bondage (without stimulation) is a good example of kinky play that's not a form of sex. That being said, I don't think there's a simple hierarchy between sex and play, so the fact that certain things just don't strike me as being sex doesn't detract from them.
07/26/2012
I use sex as a broad terms to describe all kinds of kinky play. The only difference is that I use "play" when I'm trying to sound upbeat and casual. However, in actuality I do consider play to be sex.
07/26/2012
I use sex as a broad terms to describe all kinds of kinky play. The only difference is that I use "play" when I'm trying to sound upbeat and casual. However, in actuality I do consider play to be sex.
07/26/2012
I use sex as a broad terms to describe all kinds of kinky play. The only difference is that I use "play" when I'm trying to sound upbeat and casual. However, in actuality I do consider play to be sex.
07/26/2012
I often use the term "play" when I'm talking about a sexual encounter just as shorthand for "there were kinky things involved".
But really, I can have "play" encounters (impact, service, etc.) without sex, and sex without any kind of kinky component (I for one do not hate on the vanilla).
I usually blend the two, and when I do there's often a point where the "play" turns into sex - like going through an impact scene and then getting fucked at the end.
That said, anything that is on the surface "just" play and doesn't involve penetration or orgasm is still inherently sexual. For example, I've made a cake the day before a visit from Sir. On the surface, that's not a sexual act, but knowing that I'm making it for Him feels sexy even though I'm just working in the kitchen. Baking may not even be "play" in a strict sense, but it can feel like it for me if I have the ultimate goal of doing something FOR Him.
Good topic though! My (kinky) brother and I were talking about this and his take was that he enjoys "play" (impact, etc.) and often gets annoyed when people assume the end goal is sex! Sometimes a guy just wants a fun flogging scene, right?
But really, I can have "play" encounters (impact, service, etc.) without sex, and sex without any kind of kinky component (I for one do not hate on the vanilla).
I usually blend the two, and when I do there's often a point where the "play" turns into sex - like going through an impact scene and then getting fucked at the end.
That said, anything that is on the surface "just" play and doesn't involve penetration or orgasm is still inherently sexual. For example, I've made a cake the day before a visit from Sir. On the surface, that's not a sexual act, but knowing that I'm making it for Him feels sexy even though I'm just working in the kitchen. Baking may not even be "play" in a strict sense, but it can feel like it for me if I have the ultimate goal of doing something FOR Him.
Good topic though! My (kinky) brother and I were talking about this and his take was that he enjoys "play" (impact, etc.) and often gets annoyed when people assume the end goal is sex! Sometimes a guy just wants a fun flogging scene, right?
07/26/2012
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This is really well stated, and echos my own thoughts on kinky play vs sex! *applauds*
Originally posted by
MissMori
I often use the term "play" when I'm talking about a sexual encounter just as shorthand for "there were kinky things involved".
But really, I can have "play" encounters (impact, service, etc.) without sex, and ... more
But really, I can have "play" encounters (impact, service, etc.) without sex, and ... more
I often use the term "play" when I'm talking about a sexual encounter just as shorthand for "there were kinky things involved".
But really, I can have "play" encounters (impact, service, etc.) without sex, and sex without any kind of kinky component (I for one do not hate on the vanilla).
I usually blend the two, and when I do there's often a point where the "play" turns into sex - like going through an impact scene and then getting fucked at the end.
That said, anything that is on the surface "just" play and doesn't involve penetration or orgasm is still inherently sexual. For example, I've made a cake the day before a visit from Sir. On the surface, that's not a sexual act, but knowing that I'm making it for Him feels sexy even though I'm just working in the kitchen. Baking may not even be "play" in a strict sense, but it can feel like it for me if I have the ultimate goal of doing something FOR Him.
Good topic though! My (kinky) brother and I were talking about this and his take was that he enjoys "play" (impact, etc.) and often gets annoyed when people assume the end goal is sex! Sometimes a guy just wants a fun flogging scene, right? less
But really, I can have "play" encounters (impact, service, etc.) without sex, and sex without any kind of kinky component (I for one do not hate on the vanilla).
I usually blend the two, and when I do there's often a point where the "play" turns into sex - like going through an impact scene and then getting fucked at the end.
That said, anything that is on the surface "just" play and doesn't involve penetration or orgasm is still inherently sexual. For example, I've made a cake the day before a visit from Sir. On the surface, that's not a sexual act, but knowing that I'm making it for Him feels sexy even though I'm just working in the kitchen. Baking may not even be "play" in a strict sense, but it can feel like it for me if I have the ultimate goal of doing something FOR Him.
Good topic though! My (kinky) brother and I were talking about this and his take was that he enjoys "play" (impact, etc.) and often gets annoyed when people assume the end goal is sex! Sometimes a guy just wants a fun flogging scene, right? less
07/26/2012
To me, it'd probably be the same, but I understand how it's not for others
07/26/2012
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Well said! This is pretty much how I use the term, too. There is blend and overlap, but play still has a certain distinct meaning.
Originally posted by
MissMori
I often use the term "play" when I'm talking about a sexual encounter just as shorthand for "there were kinky things involved".
But really, I can have "play" encounters (impact, service, etc.) without sex, and ... more
But really, I can have "play" encounters (impact, service, etc.) without sex, and ... more
I often use the term "play" when I'm talking about a sexual encounter just as shorthand for "there were kinky things involved".
But really, I can have "play" encounters (impact, service, etc.) without sex, and sex without any kind of kinky component (I for one do not hate on the vanilla).
I usually blend the two, and when I do there's often a point where the "play" turns into sex - like going through an impact scene and then getting fucked at the end.
That said, anything that is on the surface "just" play and doesn't involve penetration or orgasm is still inherently sexual. For example, I've made a cake the day before a visit from Sir. On the surface, that's not a sexual act, but knowing that I'm making it for Him feels sexy even though I'm just working in the kitchen. Baking may not even be "play" in a strict sense, but it can feel like it for me if I have the ultimate goal of doing something FOR Him.
Good topic though! My (kinky) brother and I were talking about this and his take was that he enjoys "play" (impact, etc.) and often gets annoyed when people assume the end goal is sex! Sometimes a guy just wants a fun flogging scene, right? less
But really, I can have "play" encounters (impact, service, etc.) without sex, and sex without any kind of kinky component (I for one do not hate on the vanilla).
I usually blend the two, and when I do there's often a point where the "play" turns into sex - like going through an impact scene and then getting fucked at the end.
That said, anything that is on the surface "just" play and doesn't involve penetration or orgasm is still inherently sexual. For example, I've made a cake the day before a visit from Sir. On the surface, that's not a sexual act, but knowing that I'm making it for Him feels sexy even though I'm just working in the kitchen. Baking may not even be "play" in a strict sense, but it can feel like it for me if I have the ultimate goal of doing something FOR Him.
Good topic though! My (kinky) brother and I were talking about this and his take was that he enjoys "play" (impact, etc.) and often gets annoyed when people assume the end goal is sex! Sometimes a guy just wants a fun flogging scene, right? less
07/27/2012
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