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Contributor: TheSinDoll TheSinDoll
This is a D/s question primarily for submissives, but anyone an feel free to chime in.

I used to be late, for everything. I would always tell myself that it wouldn't take *that* long to do 'this' or 'that' and before I knew it I was 15, 20, 30, sometimes even an hour late.

Then I became involved in a relationship with a dominant and although we are no longer together, let's just say... he fixed that issue. Even today, I plan out *plenty* of time to get ready before I need to go somewhere.

So my question is: What are some of your "Lessons Learned"?
02/26/2012
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Contributor: Andre SanThomas Andre SanThomas
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Originally posted by TheSinDoll
This is a D/s question primarily for submissives, but anyone an feel free to chime in.

I used to be late, for everything. I would always tell myself that it wouldn't take *that* long to do 'this' or 'that' and before I knew ... more
Can I send my hubby to your Dom? I'm the submissive but hubs is perpetually late. I remember shortly after we were married, we went to a backyard BBQ at my SIL's. We got there and she said "What are you doing here?" I said, "Uh, I thought we were invited." She said, "Oh, absolutely, but Hubs is NEVER on time!" I said, "Well, it is a new day at our house." Joint activities, we are on time. His own stuff, good luck.
02/27/2012
Contributor: Princess-Kayla ♥ Princess-Kayla ♥
I tend to take a while to get ready, but I always make sure I have enough time, because I know I tend to zone out for no reason sometimes.
02/27/2012
Contributor: Chilipepper Chilipepper
I learned to stop mentioning my ex-husband when actually talking. Still trying to work on that online, but Master trained me to never speak of him. (A very simple statement did it: "Talking about the ex is inappropriate.") Hence, he's hardly mentioned at all when I talk with people now.
02/27/2012
Contributor: Loriandhubby Loriandhubby
I have only been with two men. Both my husbunds ( at diffrent times of course LOL ) My first husband was very dominate and went over the edge towords abuse. I never let myself explore the sub side of my personality with him. With my current husband we are just begining this journey after 17 years of marriage. Although just a life style I have been very submissive to him and my children. My role has always be the very happily house wife and servant to the family. ( In a very good way. This has been my honor in live. ) But anyhow, I have learned a lot from both men and grown drasticly over the years. I do not know that if they were not in my life if I would have learned to be a better person (a blanket way to say it all).

So my experiances with a Dom may be diffrent.
02/28/2012
Contributor: unfulfilled unfulfilled
I haven't been in a relationship where I was controlled by a dominant. I'm more dominant than my husband, but I do cater to his and the kids needs before mine.
02/28/2012
Contributor: Antipova Antipova
My goodness. I have learned so many things.

One that was probably most formative was the partner who had to spend several weeks teaching my that asking "how was your day?" is not offensive, and, in fact, is a way of showing care and concern for someone. (I had a *very* reserved, reticent family life).

I'm so much better at conversation---and hence, interacting with humans outside my biological family---thanks to him.
02/28/2012
Contributor: LusciousLollypop LusciousLollypop
I know I have learned so much from my current Master.. the only Master i've ever been serious with. But I'm more of the type of person who makes lists. Yeah.. I am one of those lists girls. I CANNOT be late. If I mess up.. I fix it. Lesson learned in my eyes. An example.. tying up tits with rope. I would do it a million times on my own to really know what I was doing and finally getting it perfect. I know it sounds kind of OCD but it really just means I have a lot of dedication to his dominance and making HIM happy.
02/29/2012