Hi everyone!
I wanted to ask some advice about getting into the lifestyle. Little background, I'm a 36 year old wife and mom, married for 9 years. I was always kind of not excited about sex, much to my hubby's disappointment. I had always had fantasies, but felt like it was taboo, and never brought them up. Recently a friend of mine turned me on to a fictional author who writes bdsm-themed books, and I realized some of my fantasies matched what I was reading. So I started reading (informational and educational, not fictional)to better educate myself, then took the plunge and told my hubby what I wanted to try. I'm pretty sure I'm a sub (versus a switch, definietely not complete Domme)in the bedroom (not so much outside, lol). So we've tried some lite bondage, me being handcuffed, clamps,anal play, spanking. I'd like to try a bit more, like flogging. He was into it with me.
So anyways, while all of that really turns me on, what turns me on even more is the intimate emotional relationship between a Dom and his sub. I'm not really there with my hubby. He's a typical "cum and leave" type. I'd like to try and educate him a bit more on being a Dom, to see if he clicks with it.But I'm not sure how to do it. I've never been to a club, dungeon, munch, etc. I don't know how comfortable he'd be going, to be honest. He's socially pretty shy sometimes. I'm not interested in cheating on him, but if he were to be open to a menage or something, I'd look into it further.
I live in Southern California, in the South Bay (not too far from LAX airport). I've tried to find places online,but the couple I've found don't sound like great places. I'd like to stay away from the sleazy ones, lol.
So I realize I've probably rambled on, and if you've read this far, lol, thanks!
I wanted to ask some advice about getting into the lifestyle. Little background, I'm a 36 year old wife and mom, married for 9 years. I was always kind of not excited about sex, much to my hubby's disappointment. I had always had fantasies, but felt like it was taboo, and never brought them up. Recently a friend of mine turned me on to a fictional author who writes bdsm-themed books, and I realized some of my fantasies matched what I was reading. So I started reading (informational and educational, not fictional)to better educate myself, then took the plunge and told my hubby what I wanted to try. I'm pretty sure I'm a sub (versus a switch, definietely not complete Domme)in the bedroom (not so much outside, lol). So we've tried some lite bondage, me being handcuffed, clamps,anal play, spanking. I'd like to try a bit more, like flogging. He was into it with me.
So anyways, while all of that really turns me on, what turns me on even more is the intimate emotional relationship between a Dom and his sub. I'm not really there with my hubby. He's a typical "cum and leave" type. I'd like to try and educate him a bit more on being a Dom, to see if he clicks with it.But I'm not sure how to do it. I've never been to a club, dungeon, munch, etc. I don't know how comfortable he'd be going, to be honest. He's socially pretty shy sometimes. I'm not interested in cheating on him, but if he were to be open to a menage or something, I'd look into it further.
I live in Southern California, in the South Bay (not too far from LAX airport). I've tried to find places online,but the couple I've found don't sound like great places. I'd like to stay away from the sleazy ones, lol.
So I realize I've probably rambled on, and if you've read this far, lol, thanks!
