I enjoy a lot of things with a partner, actually. I am a 24/7 Dominant, though, so I do not really know how to answer this question. No matter what we do to or with each other, there is always the underlying ownership and Domination of my partner. I feel that no matter what we are doing, being playful, being silly, even making love, I am always her Dominant and her Master.

I'm not sure if that is considered being "tied up" in my dominant role, but I do not find it to be. I also do not find being my partner's Dominant to be selfish. I am very giving, all of the time, because I honestly love to pleasure my partner, it gives ME pleasure to do so, to see her reaction to my movements or touches. Maybe that's "out of role," but I do not find it to be. Being a Dominant does not mean that the person completely ignores the needs of their submissive..it usually means that they need to pay even MORE attention to their needs in order to have the submissive be obedient and good in their service. This is usually how I lead my relationships. I love to please and be pleased. I feel that it's a give and a take, like any relationship.

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MsTryska you said: "that's essentially my question for other tops - are your needs as...complicated... as your bottom's needs are?"

I think sometimes Him getting His orgasm needs met are put on the back burner, but not usually complicated. If he's concentrating on me and the scene is basically revolving around me, yeah, sometimes I almost forget, "Oh, yeah, he has to get off, too." But, he gets off on seeing ME orgasm, and he's said for him, often that's better than coming himself. We've had scenes which lasted so long and took me so long to orgasm the first time, that on occasion he gets exhausted and says, "You can suck me off in the morning. OK? I'm going to sleep." That works for us sometimes, too.

But, we have enough quickies, where He gets His, and my favorite is when he's servicing me, and I've gotten off, and lying on my back and he knees over me with his cock hanging down right in front of me, and he's completely in control.

So, it varies, depending on what we're doing. I have to say, I think he probably gets off more often than I do, due to the quickies we have at least once or twice a day. While I tend to be able to orgasm more (and more than once at one time) when we have more time, and things are set properly, and he can totally work on what he wants to do to me.

But, no, not as complicated. I'm a woman, as well as a Sub, so getting him off is fairly simple.....unless he wants to make it difficult. Which can be quite fun.

Of course there are many needs that aren't orgasm related, and, yeah, that can get somewhat convoluted. I don't really think about it most of the time, things just flow, and afterward, I sometimes think, "Damn, that was something." He's also, on occasion, commented, good naturedly, that, "This is a lot of fucking work, you know that?"

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