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Contributor: charletnarouh charletnarouh
i have a pretty severe phobia of needles, especially in medical applications. i'm terrified, not just nervous, but to the point of an uncontrollable panic attack. This has been a life long problem for me. Medical professionals have never been very understanding, most of them just tell me "Oh, you'll be fine" and dismiss my fears out of hand, or treat me very condescendingly, or even roll their eyes at me even as i am shaking and sobbing and clenched muscles. My panic can be alleviated somewhat by having someone with me to help me focus but it's still always horrible. i realize that an adult woman shouldn't be a total train wreck over a blood draw but i've had some very bad past experiences and less bad experiences have usually involved insulting, unsympathetic treatment from the professionals involved.

So i have to go have some blood work done and i've asked my Mistress to go with me. She brought up having me wear my collar and i think that it's very possible that if i'm wearing my collar and She's got Her hand in my collar and is asserting her "Domliness" that i might be able to get through it a little easier, especially if She's guiding me through it with a generous handful of "good girl's".

Thoughts? Have you ever practically applied BDSM or D/s to get yourself through a difficult life experience.
11/12/2012
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Contributor: Roz W Roz W
I think that's a neat idea. I think what you really have in that scenario is a specific type of emotional support, and if you look at it that way, that's a big positive thing to have.

(And here I thought this thread was about using BDSM to cure a phobia -- by involving the phobia trigger in play -- which is something I've heard to be extreeeeemely cautious with, and I take those warnings seriously.)
11/12/2012
Contributor: gsfanatic gsfanatic
It's nice to do to help someone develop confidence or discipline, as long as it's done careful and with a lot of preparation.
11/12/2012
Contributor: MissMori MissMori
I think that's a great idea! I haven't used BDSM to get through any phobias, but I have used it practically to get through other difficult life things - I guess it relates in a "moral support" kind of way.

My main reason for commenting is that I HATE it when medical folks act that way! I draw blood all day, and when people are nervous (or worse) I offer for them to lie down if they want (we have a room with a table just for people who get fainty), and then walk them through breathing and relaxation before I do anything, and try to get them talking or at least thinking of something totally unrelated to needles. If they have someone with them, I always let them bring whoever it is back so they can have some support.
I know I'm getting a bit ranty, but if you're in any sort of job that involves caring for people being rude about their feelings is totally out of line. It really annoys me!
11/13/2012
Contributor: - Kira - - Kira -
I have a ton of phobias as well as general anxiety. When possible, Sir helps me through things. Just having him near when something makes me nervous is a huge relief. If he sees me start to lose it he'll say "don't shut down on me" or "calm down" which will nearly always bring me down some.

If he's not there and something make me nervous I'll usually fiddle with my collar. It helps calm me down as well.

We're in the process of moving right now which is VERY stressful for me. He's been giving me lots of little orders when he sees me start to get overwhelmed. They help focus me and keep me from thinking about too many things at once.
11/13/2012
Contributor: KrissyNovacaine KrissyNovacaine
I am extremely claustrophobic. My Dom intentionally uses that during play, and I have noticed that I am able to stand small spaces better since he started having me face it during play.

Also, I am not collared, but when I get upset he places his hand on the back of my neck with a light but firm grip which helps center me.
11/13/2012
Contributor: Gdom Gdom
That sounds like a great idea, especially if your physician is kink-friendly.
11/13/2012
Contributor: charletnarouh charletnarouh
Quote:
Originally posted by MissMori
I think that's a great idea! I haven't used BDSM to get through any phobias, but I have used it practically to get through other difficult life things - I guess it relates in a "moral support" kind of way.

My main reason for ... more
i've yet to have a single medical professional show even an ounce of compassion for this problem. They all act like i'm ridiculous or like i'm just totally overreacting. Meanwhile, oddly enough, i can get pierced with comparatively little difficulty. my piercer (i always go back to the same one because she's just so good at this) is completely able to calm me down and walk me through the relaxation techniques to get me in the right frame of mind. It takes a while, usually at least 15 minutes before i'm calm enough to handle it, but she understands and treats me with compassion and understanding. The medical folks just let me sit there and sob and shake while they do their thing and then give me the "There, that wasn't so bad, was it" type of treatment. It upsets me and does absolutely nothing for my phobia or making future experiences more tolerable. And i've had medical offices refuse to let me have my support person in the room with me. In which cases, i always walk out.
11/13/2012
Contributor: GONE! GONE!
Quote:
Originally posted by Roz W
I think that's a neat idea. I think what you really have in that scenario is a specific type of emotional support, and if you look at it that way, that's a big positive thing to have.

(And here I thought this thread was about using ... more
Me too. I've always wished I knew someone willing to do a scene involving needles with me to see if it would help me not freak out so much over the pain when getting, say, blood work.
11/14/2012