What kind of examples? Like, say, when we first got into it? Our experimentations? Because I've had a few false starts, before diving in the deep end, myself.

I have a good bit to say on how the media portrays BDSM, everything they show is negative. In the news, you only hear about the so-called "master" who's "slave" escaped after their contract went south when it turned out the guy she/he met online wasn't into BDSM at all, they were just an abusive nutjob looking for an excuse. On TV shows, you never see the loving, gentle relationships or the real people behind the shiny patent leather. And you sure never see the negotiations. Not to mention that the patent leather and the attitudes are all ramped up on steroids, not everyone into BDSM dresses or acts like that, but there seems to be one "Stock-Dom(me)" in all of TV with the "Dom(me)-tude" perpetually on. Only once, on Supernatural, in a portion of an episode intended as a joke, have I seen a character into BDSM drop the "Dom-tude" to act like a normal guy and ask about safewords.

Do you still need answers for this? I know this is an old topic...