My husband and I are perfect together in this aspect of our relationship! I am by far the dominant one on a day to day basis...and he is extremely submissive, yet when you get us in the bedroom the rolls automatically reverse! During our everyday lives I call all the shots, I run the house, the bank account, I tell him where his money goes...even the little things like how he folds the towels and puts them away, I control all of it...but in the bedroom...he ties me up and teases me and he takes complete control! I LOVE IT! And it works out great bc that is the one place where he loves to take control as well!!
Relinquishing Control
01/18/2010
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"Do this...ok?" hahahaha thats so cute!
Originally posted by
Alan & Michele
And Alan & I are pretty much in the same boat too in that we share the role and I'm the creative one.
The one issue we have had to work through though is, the female thing who he was with before me gave a new meaning to the word prude. ... more
The one issue we have had to work through though is, the female thing who he was with before me gave a new meaning to the word prude. ... more
And Alan & I are pretty much in the same boat too in that we share the role and I'm the creative one.
The one issue we have had to work through though is, the female thing who he was with before me gave a new meaning to the word prude. You know; missionary style once or twice a month and NEVER willing to do anything she considered "nasty" (which was everything). He was young, and her training stuck, so it's always been hard to get him to initiate anything new... that's my job. It was laughable when we first started playing with dominance years ago, because he'd tell me to do something and then a few seconds later he'd say "Ok?" LOL. less
The one issue we have had to work through though is, the female thing who he was with before me gave a new meaning to the word prude. You know; missionary style once or twice a month and NEVER willing to do anything she considered "nasty" (which was everything). He was young, and her training stuck, so it's always been hard to get him to initiate anything new... that's my job. It was laughable when we first started playing with dominance years ago, because he'd tell me to do something and then a few seconds later he'd say "Ok?" LOL. less
01/18/2010
This is a really intresting thread to read. Im pretty sub. but we have yet to experiment much, although i intend too
01/19/2010
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I'm new to being submissive. I enjoy being submissive in bed and having him take control of my body. However, what I enjoy the most being mentally/physically submissive. I love sitting at my Dom's feet while he's reading or working. Not having to do anything but be his Pet. It quiets me and makes me feel safe and protected.
Originally posted by
VieuxCarre
How do you enjoy giving up control if you are a submissive type? How do you enjoy your bottom to relinquish control if you are a Dominant type? Do you enjoy giving up/taking control all the time or do you just prefer to in the bedroom?
For ... more
For ... more
How do you enjoy giving up control if you are a submissive type? How do you enjoy your bottom to relinquish control if you are a Dominant type? Do you enjoy giving up/taking control all the time or do you just prefer to in the bedroom?
For me, I enjoy the feeling of being strung up to a St. Andrew's Cross or held down in place by my partner when we're playing in bed. I just love the feel of being at his mercy and knowing that I'm not going anywhere unless he releases me less
For me, I enjoy the feeling of being strung up to a St. Andrew's Cross or held down in place by my partner when we're playing in bed. I just love the feel of being at his mercy and knowing that I'm not going anywhere unless he releases me less
Once I lied on the ground and let his rest his feet on my back. I was a bit squirmy, trying to get comfortable enough to fall asleep when he placed his foot on the back of my neck. It was very deliberate. While it got me very excited, feeling, truly under his feet, I fell asleep that way.
02/26/2010
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Bad Bad Girl, that sounds AWESOME. I'd love to have that opportunity with my Sir. I'm his pet but we don't have that kind of time or environment.
Originally posted by
Bad Bad Girl
I'm new to being submissive. I enjoy being submissive in bed and having him take control of my body. However, what I enjoy the most being mentally/physically submissive. I love sitting at my Dom's feet while he's reading or working.
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I'm new to being submissive. I enjoy being submissive in bed and having him take control of my body. However, what I enjoy the most being mentally/physically submissive. I love sitting at my Dom's feet while he's reading or working. Not having to do anything but be his Pet. It quiets me and makes me feel safe and protected.
Once I lied on the ground and let his rest his feet on my back. I was a bit squirmy, trying to get comfortable enough to fall asleep when he placed his foot on the back of my neck. It was very deliberate. While it got me very excited, feeling, truly under his feet, I fell asleep that way. less
Once I lied on the ground and let his rest his feet on my back. I was a bit squirmy, trying to get comfortable enough to fall asleep when he placed his foot on the back of my neck. It was very deliberate. While it got me very excited, feeling, truly under his feet, I fell asleep that way. less
Count me pleasantly jealous.
03/09/2010
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That's how my partner is with me as well! I love it, and I love beginning foreplay way before the actual act begins - the antipation is a huge turn on for me as well!
Originally posted by
VieuxCarre
Foreplay happens with us ALL THE TIME. For real. He could be at work installing a fountain and say "I want to see you spread out for me" and I'll puddle.
It's ridiculous. Seriously. LOL.
It's ridiculous. Seriously. LOL.
Also, as far as control goes - my partner and I have only recently brought bondage and control into our sex lives so we've been experimenting with who is in control. He definitely does it better than me - but I feel that it may be my bashfulness that makes me wary of taking control sometimes. Ha ha
03/10/2010
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I am a dominant woman in love with two very dominant guys. For Sigel and I the reason we are so dominant is fear. Both of us fear being out of total control...and have good reason to fear this. Of the three of us Arch is much more emotionally and sexually healthy and he loves to play both roles. He is a very dominant personality so he relishes the times he can relinquish control and just immerse himself in the experience. He is slowly teaching Sigel and I to enjoy the same and trust each other...and him.
Originally posted by
VieuxCarre
How do you enjoy giving up control if you are a submissive type? How do you enjoy your bottom to relinquish control if you are a Dominant type? Do you enjoy giving up/taking control all the time or do you just prefer to in the bedroom?
For ... more
For ... more
How do you enjoy giving up control if you are a submissive type? How do you enjoy your bottom to relinquish control if you are a Dominant type? Do you enjoy giving up/taking control all the time or do you just prefer to in the bedroom?
For me, I enjoy the feeling of being strung up to a St. Andrew's Cross or held down in place by my partner when we're playing in bed. I just love the feel of being at his mercy and knowing that I'm not going anywhere unless he releases me less
For me, I enjoy the feeling of being strung up to a St. Andrew's Cross or held down in place by my partner when we're playing in bed. I just love the feel of being at his mercy and knowing that I'm not going anywhere unless he releases me less
For most people the assumption is that the submissive has no power and is the weaker of the two. This is not true at all, lots of times it is true weakness when the Dom/Domme CAN'T submit because of very real fear and trust issues. Still it's something that can, in a very real sense help abuse survivors regain or build for the first time their ability to trust and release their fears. To find a dominant personality that can lead you through those dark paths is a powerful and amazing thing.
03/10/2010
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I identify as a daddy's girl & service submissive. I like to think I give up control to a lot of things, the way I dress, how and when I cook etc. I let my boyfriend (Dominate) call as many shots as possible. It can be difficult sometimes as we are long distance and I’m a student (which is first priority). If I don't do what is asked of me there aren’t any repercussions but I feel guilty. A lot of my submission is mental and I feel its most rewarding. I am submissive in the bedroom also, he is my top; very rarely do I top him, and even then I’m just following orders
Originally posted by
VieuxCarre
How do you enjoy giving up control if you are a submissive type? How do you enjoy your bottom to relinquish control if you are a Dominant type? Do you enjoy giving up/taking control all the time or do you just prefer to in the bedroom?
For ... more
For ... more
How do you enjoy giving up control if you are a submissive type? How do you enjoy your bottom to relinquish control if you are a Dominant type? Do you enjoy giving up/taking control all the time or do you just prefer to in the bedroom?
For me, I enjoy the feeling of being strung up to a St. Andrew's Cross or held down in place by my partner when we're playing in bed. I just love the feel of being at his mercy and knowing that I'm not going anywhere unless he releases me less
For me, I enjoy the feeling of being strung up to a St. Andrew's Cross or held down in place by my partner when we're playing in bed. I just love the feel of being at his mercy and knowing that I'm not going anywhere unless he releases me less
04/27/2010
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I’m into a lot of the same things you are, I enjoy the mind fuck, which is difficult to say because, no one wants to put themselves through any sort of distress but I would wear a chastity belt if asked lol. I also love covert bondage not just on myself but on other submissives. I like knowing there is something different about a person I’m with that no one else will notice.
Originally posted by
LiftedUp
I'm definitely the submissive of our duo, and my wife is the dominant. It may not appear that way outside the bedroom, or to the casual observer though. These positions just fit us both so naturally though. I LOVE being able to give up control
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I'm definitely the submissive of our duo, and my wife is the dominant. It may not appear that way outside the bedroom, or to the casual observer though. These positions just fit us both so naturally though. I LOVE being able to give up control to her, and just be obedient to her and her desires, and she LOVES the feeling she gets knowing the power she has over me.
As for my favorite methods, I do enjoy bondage and teasing a lot, but my FAVORITE has to be the long-term mental and physical bondage methods we sometimes use, hidden from the outside world. For example, my wife may request that I put on my neosteel chastity belt for an undetermined amount of time, and give her the keys. Being discretely locked up and unable to experience even the slightest touch while in public, or at work, is simply indescribable. Top that off with her requesting that I wear a pair of her panties with it, underneath my clothes to work, and I'm in a state of distracted arousal all day. Of course the dominant in her will further use this to her advantage to tease me, make me watch her masturbate, or even pleasure her, without letting me out. It's a vicious feedback cycle, and a complete mind game, but we both LOVE it. less
As for my favorite methods, I do enjoy bondage and teasing a lot, but my FAVORITE has to be the long-term mental and physical bondage methods we sometimes use, hidden from the outside world. For example, my wife may request that I put on my neosteel chastity belt for an undetermined amount of time, and give her the keys. Being discretely locked up and unable to experience even the slightest touch while in public, or at work, is simply indescribable. Top that off with her requesting that I wear a pair of her panties with it, underneath my clothes to work, and I'm in a state of distracted arousal all day. Of course the dominant in her will further use this to her advantage to tease me, make me watch her masturbate, or even pleasure her, without letting me out. It's a vicious feedback cycle, and a complete mind game, but we both LOVE it. less
04/27/2010
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It's good that you and your husband can switch roles and enjoy playing on both sides of the fence. I enjoy switching from time to time and find it satisfying. I'm glad that it works for both of you!
Originally posted by
spicywife
My husband and I share the dominant role. Neither of us is really more dominant than the other. It's perfect for us. We are able to switch back and forth we ease and we know exactly how much to do.
I bring more creativity and ideas to the ... more
I bring more creativity and ideas to the ... more
My husband and I share the dominant role. Neither of us is really more dominant than the other. It's perfect for us. We are able to switch back and forth we ease and we know exactly how much to do.
I bring more creativity and ideas to the bedroom though. I am more expressive in that way. less
I bring more creativity and ideas to the bedroom though. I am more expressive in that way. less
04/27/2010
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Mental bondage is fabulous. I agree with "there's just something about not being able to move because 'He says so.'" It's truly a relinquishing feeling to stay in place and know that that's where he wants you
Originally posted by
Rayne Millaray
Ooo St. Andrew's Cross! I wish we lived in a big enough apartment to use ours! Alas... it sits in the closet.
I've gotta say, the best bondage for me is mental. When he tells me to get into position and stay there. While I love being ... more
I've gotta say, the best bondage for me is mental. When he tells me to get into position and stay there. While I love being ... more
Ooo St. Andrew's Cross! I wish we lived in a big enough apartment to use ours! Alas... it sits in the closet.
I've gotta say, the best bondage for me is mental. When he tells me to get into position and stay there. While I love being physically bound or held in place, there's just something about not being able to move because "He says so." less
I've gotta say, the best bondage for me is mental. When he tells me to get into position and stay there. While I love being physically bound or held in place, there's just something about not being able to move because "He says so." less
04/27/2010
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I have never tried chastity before. Do you find that after you remove the chastity device that you feel more sensitive? Do you orgasm a lot sooner than without the chastity?
Originally posted by
LiftedUp
I'm definitely the submissive of our duo, and my wife is the dominant. It may not appear that way outside the bedroom, or to the casual observer though. These positions just fit us both so naturally though. I LOVE being able to give up control
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I'm definitely the submissive of our duo, and my wife is the dominant. It may not appear that way outside the bedroom, or to the casual observer though. These positions just fit us both so naturally though. I LOVE being able to give up control to her, and just be obedient to her and her desires, and she LOVES the feeling she gets knowing the power she has over me.
As for my favorite methods, I do enjoy bondage and teasing a lot, but my FAVORITE has to be the long-term mental and physical bondage methods we sometimes use, hidden from the outside world. For example, my wife may request that I put on my neosteel chastity belt for an undetermined amount of time, and give her the keys. Being discretely locked up and unable to experience even the slightest touch while in public, or at work, is simply indescribable. Top that off with her requesting that I wear a pair of her panties with it, underneath my clothes to work, and I'm in a state of distracted arousal all day. Of course the dominant in her will further use this to her advantage to tease me, make me watch her masturbate, or even pleasure her, without letting me out. It's a vicious feedback cycle, and a complete mind game, but we both LOVE it. less
As for my favorite methods, I do enjoy bondage and teasing a lot, but my FAVORITE has to be the long-term mental and physical bondage methods we sometimes use, hidden from the outside world. For example, my wife may request that I put on my neosteel chastity belt for an undetermined amount of time, and give her the keys. Being discretely locked up and unable to experience even the slightest touch while in public, or at work, is simply indescribable. Top that off with her requesting that I wear a pair of her panties with it, underneath my clothes to work, and I'm in a state of distracted arousal all day. Of course the dominant in her will further use this to her advantage to tease me, make me watch her masturbate, or even pleasure her, without letting me out. It's a vicious feedback cycle, and a complete mind game, but we both LOVE it. less
I've been curious to experiment with chastity, just haven't found the right partner or time to try it!
04/27/2010
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Well, when it comes to giving up your authority, I would suggest doing it on your terms. Lay out what you aren't comfortable with, what you want to try, and just what your limits are. If at any time you feel that things are escalating too much or that you aren't ready for it, you can opt out and make sure that your partner understands that it takes time to feel comfortable with relinquishing control. I'd do it very slowly and gradually. Maybe not the entire weekend to start out with, but maybe for an evening or a day. See how you like it and progress from there. That's the best advice that I can give to you.
Originally posted by
Brownchique
Wow! Great question! I am an extremely dominant individual, so I find it very liberating to give up control and become a submissive in the bedroom...but only in the bedroom. I just can't see myself giving up my authority, but I really do want to
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Wow! Great question! I am an extremely dominant individual, so I find it very liberating to give up control and become a submissive in the bedroom...but only in the bedroom. I just can't see myself giving up my authority, but I really do want to try it out, at least for a weekend. Do you have any suggestions?
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04/27/2010
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Don't be bashful If he asks for it, let him have it. I'm glad that you and your partner are experimenting. It's always nice to add new things and dynamics to a relationship
Originally posted by
seaofneptune
That's how my partner is with me as well! I love it, and I love beginning foreplay way before the actual act begins - the antipation is a huge turn on for me as well!
Also, as far as control goes - my partner and I have only recently ... more
Also, as far as control goes - my partner and I have only recently ... more
That's how my partner is with me as well! I love it, and I love beginning foreplay way before the actual act begins - the antipation is a huge turn on for me as well!
Also, as far as control goes - my partner and I have only recently brought bondage and control into our sex lives so we've been experimenting with who is in control. He definitely does it better than me - but I feel that it may be my bashfulness that makes me wary of taking control sometimes. Ha ha less
Also, as far as control goes - my partner and I have only recently brought bondage and control into our sex lives so we've been experimenting with who is in control. He definitely does it better than me - but I feel that it may be my bashfulness that makes me wary of taking control sometimes. Ha ha less
04/27/2010
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I'm also a daddy's girl and a service submissive. I've been in the distance relationships before and have yet to find someone close to home to meshes well with my personality. Not saying that I am opposed to distance, just saying it would be nice to be closer to home. I've been through the challenges you face. It's tough, but rewarding. Kudos to you for maintaining a distance relationship!
Originally posted by
sqweak
I identify as a daddy's girl & service submissive. I like to think I give up control to a lot of things, the way I dress, how and when I cook etc. I let my boyfriend (Dominate) call as many shots as possible. It can be difficult sometimes as
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I identify as a daddy's girl & service submissive. I like to think I give up control to a lot of things, the way I dress, how and when I cook etc. I let my boyfriend (Dominate) call as many shots as possible. It can be difficult sometimes as we are long distance and I’m a student (which is first priority). If I don't do what is asked of me there aren’t any repercussions but I feel guilty. A lot of my submission is mental and I feel its most rewarding. I am submissive in the bedroom also, he is my top; very rarely do I top him, and even then I’m just following orders
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