Suggestions for BDSM Beginners?

Contributor: little miss kinky little miss kinky
I've been interested in BDSM (as a submissive) for years but never found the right person to play with in that way. Lately I've been thinking that when I do find that person, I should probably have an inkling about the safety of what I'm doing/is being done to me!

What books, websites, etc would you suggest to a newbie with some surprisingly extreme fantasies?

Thanks in advance
05/21/2012
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Contributor: M.O.'s Girl M.O.'s Girl
You might want to do a few google searches, looking up the terms RACK (Risk Aware Consensual Kink), and SSC (Safe, Sane and Consensual). It might also be helpful to search the area in which you live and see if there are any BDSM groups. These groups often hold casual meetings called Munches, where kinksters can meet each other in a vanilla setting, and they might also hold classes where people new to the world of BDSM can learn about safety.

Hope this helps.
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