This post gives some excellent advice and an example "coming out" letter that i think is really awesome.
It is originally posted
HERE but you need to belong to the site in order to log in and access the writing, which i think is well worth doing. As it's not something i wrote, i'm not comfortable copy-pasting, but it's not too complicated to sign up on Fetlife and there's other benefits of doing so. i recommend it. Anyway, i haven't read it but i've heard/seen it recommended a number of times and the author of the post i linked recommends a book called "When Someone You Love is Kinky" by Dossie Easton and Catherine Liszt, available
HERE on Amazon. Unfortunately, EF doesn't seem to carry it. The description of the book on Amazon is: "When Someone You Love Is Kinky to help "non-kinky" folks understand and communicate with their kinky friends, partners, and relatives. Included are guidelines for dealing with the emotional turmoil of the coming-out process; brief and non-threatening descriptions of the commonest kinks (and ideas about why people enjoy them); suggestions for how to talk to your kinky friend or relative in ways that promote good communication; explanation of how kinky people keep themselves safe while exploring diverse sexualities; a glossary of commonly used terminology from the kink communities; a resource guide to help the reader find further information and support."
i think asking them if they would like more information is a good place to start. In general, i assure people i "come out" to that my relationships and practices are safe and consensual and ask them if they would like to know anything else. Let them know you can recommend books or answer their questions as they prefer. i think it's very important to be as open as you can and answer any questions they have as thoroughly and honestly as possible. Hope this helps. Good luck!
