The New Intimacy

To Honor, Serve and to Obey

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Contributor: Kynky Kytty Kynky Kytty
I was thinking...

Nowaways, the obedience vow is often taken out during weddings, but is it common to include the vow to obey in your wedding vow as a direct wink to a submissive personality, especially when it is part of a BDSM lifestyle?

Is that something you would promise with a twinkle in your eye, or as serious and dutiful as can be?

Just wondering about your thoughts
06/09/2010
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Contributor: El-Jaro El-Jaro
Of the last five or so weddings I've been to the only one that didn't have it in there was the one most likely to have a BDSM element to it. Isn't that ironic? Of all the places to have it in today's world of feminism, equal rights, and a better than 50/50 shot of divorce, the most apropos situation didn't have it in there...huh...

Nowadays, I think that phrase is kinda quaint and chuckle to myself when I hear it. A little bachelor voice in my head says "sucker" in the kind of way when you hear about someone signing a 5 year car loan on a 5 year old car with 75,000 miles.

To each their own though.
06/09/2010
Contributor: Gunsmoke Gunsmoke
Sorry I don't get the connection. I don't see marriage vows as some sort of BDSM pact - but religious content has been hijacked for many honorable and not-so-honorable causes - why not!
06/09/2010
Contributor: Sir Sir
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Originally posted by Gunsmoke
Sorry I don't get the connection. I don't see marriage vows as some sort of BDSM pact - but religious content has been hijacked for many honorable and not-so-honorable causes - why not!
It's not marriage vows in general that KynkyKytty was talking about. It's the quoted vows.

And yes, I would have my partner vow this to me. And I would probably grin as she said it, too. A marriage, however, might not be the best place - a collaring seems like a more fitting setting.
06/09/2010
Contributor: Kynky Kytty Kynky Kytty
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Originally posted by Sir
It's not marriage vows in general that KynkyKytty was talking about. It's the quoted vows.

And yes, I would have my partner vow this to me. And I would probably grin as she said it, too. A marriage, however, might not be the best ... more
Yup, I just meant the promise to 'Obey', and I do not consider the whole concept of marriage as a BDSM pact. You can still be very serious about the vows you make, and still have an inside joke to being willing to obey in more ways than one.

Now consider me clueless, but what's a collaring? How does it work?
06/09/2010
Contributor: Sir Sir
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Originally posted by Kynky Kytty
Yup, I just meant the promise to 'Obey', and I do not consider the whole concept of marriage as a BDSM pact. You can still be very serious about the vows you make, and still have an inside joke to being willing to obey in more ways than ... more
Collaring is the bestowing of a collar onto a submissive, slave, partner, or lover. It's when a Dominant or Master/Mistress puts a collar (be it lifetime, 24/7 or only during scenes) on their partner in a way of saying, "You're mine, I own you, you submit to me now and give your everything to me." Everyone does it differently, and it's almost like a marriage in a sense. Some couples actually consider the collaring their formal marriage ceremony, as opposed to a "regular" marriage ceremony. And some, it's just a little thing between the Dominant and their submissive, that only the two of them know, in the convenience of their home.
06/09/2010
Contributor: Kynky Kytty Kynky Kytty
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Originally posted by Sir
Collaring is the bestowing of a collar onto a submissive, slave, partner, or lover. It's when a Dominant or Master/Mistress puts a collar (be it lifetime, 24/7 or only during scenes) on their partner in a way of saying, "You're mine, I ... more
Wow, I knew about the collars, and the symbol of ownership, but I did not know how ceremonial it could be. Thanks.
06/09/2010
Contributor: Sir Sir
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Originally posted by Kynky Kytty
Wow, I knew about the collars, and the symbol of ownership, but I did not know how ceremonial it could be. Thanks.
You're very welcome. To some people, I will admit, a collar is just a thing that isn't too deep - you know, it's just something to lead the partner around and all of that. But there are many people in the lifestyle, me included, that see it as a much more..symbolic and loving thing.
06/09/2010