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Contributor: Icecrystals12 Icecrystals12
I want to find out different opinions about the facts of leaving/getting bruises. (This can include biting, hickeys, spanking, etc.)

This is mainly because I feel really weird when my partner gets upset about leaving a particularly dark hickey or bruise from a bite on me. Personally, I would just have to say that in an artistic way, I feel like bruises look beautiful on skin if they were caused by a mutual loving act. And in an extremely possessive way, I like knowing that my partner has marked me. It's like being classified as theirs.

So that's why I'm wondering. Do other people have a similar view of bruising as me?
Answers (private voting - your screen name will NOT appear in the results):
I like giving bruises
16
I do not like giving bruises
14
I like getting bruises
25
I do not like getting bruises
16
Other (Please Specify if you would)
5
Total votes: 76 (48 voters)
Poll is closed
02/04/2013
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Contributor: Katelyn Katelyn
Wow, what an even poll. I have a few new bruises right now actually!
02/04/2013
Contributor: Zombirella Zombirella
I bruise easily enough just doing every day things. I'll barely run into something and get a bruise. I was told that I'm anemic the last time I went to the doctor. I'd rather not purposefully let it happen! Plus, I prefer an affectionate relationship, I'm not into getting hit or hitting.
02/04/2013
Contributor: captainsgirl captainsgirl
Quote:
Originally posted by Icecrystals12
I want to find out different opinions about the facts of leaving/getting bruises. (This can include biting, hickeys, spanking, etc.)

This is mainly because I feel really weird when my partner gets upset about leaving a particularly dark hickey ... more
i have never given or received bruises. but wouldnt mind. i have had a hickey in my younger days but do not prefer them. i have left scratch marks on my husband though.
02/04/2013
Contributor: Marie Hanna Marie Hanna
I like both giving and receiving marks. But I also like rougher sex so...
02/04/2013
Contributor: falalena falalena
Quote:
Originally posted by Icecrystals12
I want to find out different opinions about the facts of leaving/getting bruises. (This can include biting, hickeys, spanking, etc.)

This is mainly because I feel really weird when my partner gets upset about leaving a particularly dark hickey ... more
i do not like bruises anywhere that an ordinary article of clothing couldnt cover up.
02/04/2013
Contributor: A Good Girl A Good Girl
I am so conflicted when it comes to bruises. I enjoy the occasional bruise, because I like when something gets bumped up against and slightly hurts, which reminds me of the actions that put it there. However, I bothers me a little bit to see them. I bruise easily and if we're not careful I'm covered in them. If I were to leave a bruise on my partner I would probably feel bad.
02/04/2013
Contributor: sexxxkitten sexxxkitten
I'm not really into getting or giving bruises.
02/04/2013
Contributor: xGOLDx xGOLDx
I love giving and getting, they are fun little reminders. I always make sure they are in hideable spots though, no one else needs to know what I do for fun. Plus I work in an adult store, so just way too many ways it can backfire if a customer sees.
02/04/2013
Contributor: K101 K101
Quote:
Originally posted by Icecrystals12
I want to find out different opinions about the facts of leaving/getting bruises. (This can include biting, hickeys, spanking, etc.)

This is mainly because I feel really weird when my partner gets upset about leaving a particularly dark hickey ... more
Biting and hickeys are common likes and shows of "affection," but neither are for me.

Bruising is from actually injuring your blood vessels and that just scares me a little bit. I mean I usually have a few as I work out on my fitness pole, so I do get them and don't freak out because hey, accidents happen, but I don't think I'd like the idea of making them happen.

Bruising from a hit, not a hickey or something, is borderline abuse in my opinion and no, I am not okay with that. If someone is hitting me hard enough to leave a bruise, I'd have to take a step back and figure out if that was crossing over into the category of abuse rather than love.

I don't bruise super easily, but I do get them. I do not feel that bruises are beautiful. When I see them all over my legs it only reminds me that I am too rough on myself.

I guess I'm very opposite of most people where this is concerned because I'd have a problem with someone leaving a mark on me (again!) and I'd have an even bigger one with anyone getting the idea that I was their property to "mark." And when others see a battered & bruised female in public, the idea they get is usually not "oh, she's taken," but one of concern.

I am more of a light play kind of girl. My partner too. We don't thrive off of actually causing one another physical pain, but a little spanking and flogging can produce thrilling sensations.
02/05/2013
Contributor: hall5885 hall5885
If it's in a area that most people can't see I love'em. It reminds me of the kinky fun I had.
02/05/2013
Contributor: novanilla novanilla
I don't care much either way.
02/06/2013
Contributor: anon195 anon195
I never understood them.
02/07/2013
Contributor: charletnarouh charletnarouh
i love getting marks. Especially from impact, spanking, flogging, paddling, caning. And i love showing them off around people who will understand and appreciate them. Although i'm not a Top in the BDSM world, i do like leaving marks on my Mistress when i can get away with it, usually hickies or bite marks, but She mostly doesn't appreciate them and typically won't allow them unless it's really in the heat of the moment. Though She loves marking me. Alas, such a hard life i live. :-P
02/07/2013
Contributor: Leather & Lace Leather & Lace
I don't like them, think their tacky.
02/07/2013
Contributor: Kirill1171 Kirill1171
I like getting bruises
02/11/2013
Contributor: twelve13 twelve13
I actually think bruises are very pretty! Prefer receiving.
02/13/2013
Contributor: Aubrey M Aubrey M
Consensual bruising is really attractive, I think!
02/13/2013
Contributor: xscorpiox xscorpiox
i dont like giving or getting bruises
02/13/2013
Contributor: Sbmsvschoolgirl Sbmsvschoolgirl
Sometimes I get disappointed when I don't get a bruise! I like them I don't mind giving them as long as the other person doesn't mind receiving them.
02/20/2013
Contributor: lainebug lainebug
Quote:
Originally posted by Icecrystals12
I want to find out different opinions about the facts of leaving/getting bruises. (This can include biting, hickeys, spanking, etc.)

This is mainly because I feel really weird when my partner gets upset about leaving a particularly dark hickey ... more
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02/20/2013
Contributor: souviet souviet
Quote:
Originally posted by Icecrystals12
I want to find out different opinions about the facts of leaving/getting bruises. (This can include biting, hickeys, spanking, etc.)

This is mainly because I feel really weird when my partner gets upset about leaving a particularly dark hickey ... more
I don't like giving or receiving.
02/20/2013
Contributor: SMichelle SMichelle
I could really take them or leave them... Light, consensual bruising is okay with me, but I don't want any major bruises.
02/20/2013
Contributor: Lovesickalien Lovesickalien
I don't like any kind of pain. I like light spanking though, but nothing too rough. I think bruises are really unnecessary and not sexy.
02/20/2013