A couple months before I turned 21.

I sent a goodbye letter to a friend, and drama happened, then a 2nd friend was like, "Why don't you talk to that other friend anymore?" I was like, "Oh, we're over. I sent a goodbye letter."

I showed that friend the letter, because I sent it via facebook

She was like, "Dang, you know that's no reason to have bad communication in a relationship? There's a whole community full of that. Loads of people like that."

I was like, "Really?"

And we went to a munch/ play parties and I learned there's words for the things I've felt/ liked for years, but just never knew about them