I keep Brian locked in a male chastity device and only allow him out when I decided to. This works great because he is aroused all the time (I know, what guy isn't) but channels it in a positive way (keeping me happy). My big problem is that, for me, an orgasm just isn't the same without feeling his body pressed up against me while he is thrusting into me. The closeness combined with the sheer force is SOOO incredible. Anyway... where was I?

Oh yeah... When I am really getting into it, I don't want to stop just because he is at the point of orgasm, but I don't want him to get to that point either. So, we have been talking about using a strap-on to allow him to penetrate me, but without the risk of an accidental orgasm.

Does anyone have experience with harnesses designed to be worn by the guy? Also, I am not sure what type of dildo to get... is softer or harder better for this type of play? Any suggestions for a good dildo in the 6" x 1 1/2" size category? less

We have the Ultra Harness 2000 (the Doc Johnson male/female one). We don't use it often but it definitely works. If you buy it as a kit it comes with a good, firm dildo - unfortunately for us a big part of buying it was for me to use it on hubby but the dildo is too big for him to take anally. It's perfect for vaginal sex though and works well with hubby wearing it. It also comes with a butt plug attachment but that's big too so we don't use that. We've mentioned elsewhere that we're now considering the Rodeoh panty harness but are looking for more advice on that one ourselves. Still, you might consider both of those options yourselves less