Hi all,
I hope you can help me with the following situation, since I am totally at a beginner's level with strap on sex. I am bi, but when I was with women in the past it was mostly the "you don't have it, you don't need it" policy Now I have met a woman (great sex, great chemistry) and for whatever reason we're both very, very eager in trying out strap on sex. She has next to zero and I have, as I said, zero experience with it. We have done a bit of research, so maybe you have feedback on the following:
Harness: Clit stimulator harnesses - do they really work? I was looking at the Tantrus Flame Kit, for example, but it seems that feedback is mixed about it.

Dildos: I understand that there is such a thing as a squirting dildo (=^_^=), but there don't seem to be many on the market, or harness-compatible ones. Honestly, I find the idea totally hot! What is your experience with them, are there some that would be compatible with the e.g. Tantrus?

Thanks in advance!