Insightful topic debates on Strap on dildo:

Strap-On Advice
My girlfriend and I have been considering getting a strap-on to change up some of our sexual experiences. We are no beginners to toys and the like,...

FAIRNESS IN THE USE OF STRAP-ONS
If you are in a relationship that is evolving to the world of anal play and only one wants to give and the other wants to give and receive, does it...

Femmes who like to strap
I'm feminine in my gender expression but i love to strap fuck my girl. I know how masculine I am and how feminine I am and although i identify as...

What part of your pelvis should you thrust with?
In other words exactly where should the dildo's base be pushing against on the harness wearer?

Strap on
What is the best strap on for a first time guy to introduce to his wife? I would love to have her use one on me but don't want to get some huge thing

The most important thing when looking for harnesses for me was comfort. Which led me to care more about material and how easily it could be adjusted.

Stability, comfort, durability, adjustibility. Get all of these and you will have a great, stimulating, long-lasting, easy to use harness.

Adjustibility and stability: look for a harness that has many adjustments, but also comes with latches that allow you to adjust them once and leave them adjusted. It's no fun spending 15+ minutes adjusting everything every single time. Also lookj for secure attachments between the straps and a sturdy, wide design so things aren't pulling/twisting on one small section. Get one with replaceable O-rings and a removable pad (if it has a pad) to accomodate a wide variety of toys. Get one that can be adjusted to ride low or high depending on your preference.

Comfort: Soft is good. Make sure there aren't any hard, poking, sharp edges.

Durability: Good quality leather, nylon, vinyl, or vegan leather. You'll be spending a lot for a good harness, so you might as well get one that will last.

Don't mess with "Vac-U-Lock" or the like - go straight to a good O-ring harness for flexibility.

Agree on all of the above points. I'd also say something that holds dildos well because some will cause a pull away which makes them hard to use. It's hard to tell from looking at them. You'd have to read through the reviews.

Something no one has mentioned but that is a big factor for me is appearance. I like my harness to look sexy. I have a Joque harness that is comfortable and holds things wonderfully. It's not very sexy looking though so it's not my favorite despite how well it works just because of that. It also doesn't hold dildos above about 1.75" which is a pain.