Male Hetero Anal Play

Wow, you have got a lot of people on here who could help you and your friend out! She is lucky to have you as a source!

I hope a lot of people pipe in, I unfortunately have no help to offer. My guy is not open to anal at all, I will just have to be patient until he comes around...and he will

Good luck to you and your friend

My wife does me about once a week. We both love it. Nothing gay about anal play between a man and a woman. I love being fucked with a strap on dildo, but the last thing I wnat is a real dick in my ass.

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I definitely agree. Pegging does not equal gay.

I'd talk about different harnesses/dildos and comfort.

I'd wait a while before bringing up pegging at all, and avoid calling the dildo "cock" "dick" or the like. Choose non-realistic dildos for any props.

For stuff to bring up in the introduction: Talk about G-spot stimulation and what it does to a woman's orgasm. Have some of the participants discuss their experience with G-spot play (don't disclose it then, but when the time is right point out that the G-spot is the female prostate, and if it works good for the girls then...)

Second, talk about blowjobs. All guys like them, no one thinks that enjoying a blowjob makes you gay. Point out that "all guys like them" also means that both straight and gay guys like them, and thus sexual activities do not have any bearing on sexual orientation.

Third (and sadly this is the hardest myth to deal with), address the "unsaid myth", the one that the "gay myth" covers up - penetration = emasculation. I'm not positive about how to do this, but give it your best shot because you need to.

Address the "dirty butt" problem and talk about it (not usually dirty, you can check first, if you want you can use a water enema but you don't have to). Most guys don't want to get their girls dirty.

Then go into mechanics - what feels good, how the different toys work, things to look for (not too big, curves, gentle textures or smooth to start). Discuss lubes and make sure to tell them to test out a couple to see what works best and make sure they don't have any sensitivities. Talk about the best toy to start with - fingers - and finger care (short nails or cotton balls, gloves are great for cleanliness or smoothness, how to play at the butt and how to find the prostate - remember, a boner makes for an easier to find prostate).

If you go into pegging (that might be good for an "advanced anal play" one if you're splitting), make sure you discuss sizing, why middle-long toys are better (5.5"6.75" for starters), and talk about adjusting the toy so it rubs the prostate even if that makes it point down. Discuss positioning.

I have never had gay sex, but I know I would like it, so I accept that I am bi. I had multiple female partners before entering an almost 25 year to date, monogamous relationship with my wife.

Given my sexuality, and from your description, I would be fascinated and fearful of such a seminar. With our 25 year hetero marriage, we'd benefit in that aspect, but if the selling point is "dispel the deeply ingrained cultural myth that liking anal play makes you secretly gay or bi"....

My wife and I use toys to preserve our monogamous relationship, she peggs me with as realistic as possible penis dildos and I've learned from many female EF'ers the joys of fellatio practice on dildos. Although I know I would be a swallower and would enjoy a spasming/ejaculating penis inside me, I accept that I'll never have those pleasures, my relationship is too important. (Since she's a squirter, I still get to swallow). Since my wife has accepted my sexuality and helps me simulate, day to day life is much more pleasant and less physically stressful than it was while repressing my sexuality like I did for 40 yrs or so.

Would I be a threat to the success of the seminar by making it harder to sell the hetero males that they aren't bi?

To be clear, my "bi-ness" is subservient to my hetero-ness. I'm not sure I could be as faithful to a gay partner, I really crave monogamous cunnilingus, vaginal penetration and my female lover's orgasm. I don't really have any desires to penetrate anyone anally, so I guess in the gay world I'd be a "bottom".

I'd do it for my wife if she wanted and would reap any benefits it provided to her orgasm, but she hasn't so far and I don't feel anything is missing.