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Contributor: want2try want2try
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So I know this is not what I should be worrying about when it comes to strapping it on for my partner, but as good as this harness sounds, I am worried it will make me look like a sumo wrestler.

Any users out there on the heavier side? (I'm a size 22 and carry a lot of my weight in my belly.) How do you feel in this harness?

Maybe I would feel less like worried if I bought the all white one...
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08/02/2010
Contributor: paralax paralax
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Originally posted by want2try
So I know this is not what I should be worrying about when it comes to strapping it on for my partner, but as good as this harness sounds, I am worried it will make me look like a sumo wrestler.

Any users out there on the heavier side? ... more
im right where you are hun. i am always uneasy wearing it. not from the act but that i wont look good enough for him. but if your partner cares about you or crap even just cares about getting it on, it wont matter. i never thought of a sumo before. i always just thought it made me look like a overweight jock.
09/09/2010
Contributor: gone77 gone77
I have one of those harnesses and I'm a bigger girl than you are. Granted, I don't have a partner to play with, but I think your partner will be more interested in you using it on them rather than how you look in it. Be confident and secure as you wear it and I bet you'll be--and look--just fine. ;-) Confidence = sexy.
09/09/2010
Contributor: Liz Liz
Speaking from my own experience, you probably have nothing to worry about-- I was incredibly self-conscious about how I looked the first time I put on a harness, but my partner was way more interested in bending over and taking it than staring at me.
09/09/2010
Contributor: silversnowleopardess silversnowleopardess
I know I don't look the greatest in my harness (I'm also a size 22 and have a belly left over from having kids), but my husband not only doesn't seem to mind, but he also says I look sexy. I think he looks at the whole "package", not how the harness fits on me, so I don't think you have anything to worry about, either. :}
09/13/2010
Contributor: MissApple MissApple
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Originally posted by want2try
So I know this is not what I should be worrying about when it comes to strapping it on for my partner, but as good as this harness sounds, I am worried it will make me look like a sumo wrestler.

Any users out there on the heavier side? ... more
I am so glad that you asked about this! My partner has wanted me to get one for some time now and I've always been a little hesitant about sealing the deal and purchasing one.
11/01/2010
Contributor: collaredcouple collaredcouple
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Originally posted by gone77
I have one of those harnesses and I'm a bigger girl than you are. Granted, I don't have a partner to play with, but I think your partner will be more interested in you using it on them rather than how you look in it. Be confident and secure ... more
When you and your partner care about each other enough to have an extended relationship, don't worry -- they will LOVE the look of you in a harness, with a thick member sticking out waiting to go in them.

Remember also that beauty is in the eye of the beholder, and I am certain that your lover will love every inch of you with or without the harness on.
06/27/2011
Contributor: Milk & Honey Milk & Honey
Quote:
Originally posted by want2try
So I know this is not what I should be worrying about when it comes to strapping it on for my partner, but as good as this harness sounds, I am worried it will make me look like a sumo wrestler.

Any users out there on the heavier side? ... more
I am a size 24/26, I have this harness in black. My partner tells me I look hot, gets excited whenever I wear it, and he loves the way it accentuates my ass. I feel sexy when wearing it, and I like the way it looks and makes me feel.

When you are in love with someone they love you for you, flaws and all, and they are attracted to you regardless of imperfections. My partner has some extra weight in the belly area, but this doesn't make me any less attracted when he is wearing nothing but a cock ring and we are ready to get it on. He is sexy to me and I love all of him, belly, and love handles included.

A word of advice for us bigger girls: buy a slightly longer dildo to use in your harness if you carry a lot of weight in the belly and/or thighs. I suggest at least 7" or bigger otherwise the belly/thighs might get in the way and you might not have as much length to work with as you had planned.
06/27/2011
Contributor: Pinkhare Pinkhare
I love mine . I'm about a size 20 . I was worried about the same thing and I found that once i put it on I looked pretty darn hot in it .
06/27/2011
Contributor: kelticshaman kelticshaman
my lady is a size 18 but she is always sexy. Sexy is in the attitude not how you compare to Barbie. I have given her permission to take charge whenever she likes. To signal this she wears bright red lipstick and then I know she has playtime on the mind and SHE will be IN CHARGE!! A favorite outfit is the red lipstick and a white longsleeved man's shirt unbuttoned. Believe me, she looks dynamite!!! and the effect is electric!!
06/30/2011
Contributor: punktx punktx
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Originally posted by Pinkhare
I love mine . I'm about a size 20 . I was worried about the same thing and I found that once i put it on I looked pretty darn hot in it .
Hey, I'm about a size 20 too... what size did you get? I'm wondering if the size A will be too small but I don't want it too big either. Thanks!
09/12/2011
Contributor: T&L T&L
Quote:
Originally posted by want2try
So I know this is not what I should be worrying about when it comes to strapping it on for my partner, but as good as this harness sounds, I am worried it will make me look like a sumo wrestler.

Any users out there on the heavier side? ... more
From a mans point of view...Any lady would look good with this harness on! Plus you are not going to find a better one out there, this is the one to have. Get it and you and your partner will not be disapointed.
03/30/2012
Contributor: Nacht Stern Nacht Stern
No matter what size you are a jock style harness always makes everyone's ass look fantastic~!
06/30/2012
Contributor: HusbandandWife HusbandandWife
I agree with kelticshaman, it's about attitude. Also, like the others said your partner will probably be more focused on the act. Go for it and have FUN!
07/11/2012
Contributor: T&L T&L
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Originally posted by gone77
I have one of those harnesses and I'm a bigger girl than you are. Granted, I don't have a partner to play with, but I think your partner will be more interested in you using it on them rather than how you look in it. Be confident and secure ... more
Nail on the head! Coming from a mans perspective I can tell you that you are 100% correct. My thoughts are always about the use and not so much the look. Your advice "Be confident and secure as you wear it and I bet you'll be--and look--just fine" is perfect advice and could not be said any better!!!! Confidence does = sexy!!!!
08/15/2012
Contributor: The Kitty The Kitty
Quote:
Originally posted by want2try
So I know this is not what I should be worrying about when it comes to strapping it on for my partner, but as good as this harness sounds, I am worried it will make me look like a sumo wrestler.

Any users out there on the heavier side? ... more
ths hrness sits very low and for the mot part should be below the belly, no good for hiding our flaws but fabulous for its intended purpose
09/03/2012
Contributor: konicaguy konicaguy
Quote:
Originally posted by want2try
So I know this is not what I should be worrying about when it comes to strapping it on for my partner, but as good as this harness sounds, I am worried it will make me look like a sumo wrestler.

Any users out there on the heavier side? ... more
Great info!
09/09/2012