EdenKink - Types of BDSM Relationships - Wednesday, November 16th, 2011 @ 8pm ET

I'm guessing that is where the two sides switch occasionally - instead of being in a strict D/s or Master/slave relationship.

That is how my partner and I started out until we settled into the comfort of the roles. At first, I wasn't sure about switching because I thought that the BDSM community looked down on switch relationships for some reason. So I thought we were supposed to automatically fall into our roles while we were experimenting with BDSM in the beginning and that made it awkward at first. Now we are mostly D/s unless he asks me to take control every once in a while. less

This all seems odd to me. (NOt you in particular, but the whole switching thing) Because in any 'normal' relationship, doesn't it go back and forth like that anyways? I mean, I wear the pants in our relationship.... anyone can tell you that, but there are days when I don't WANT to be in charge of everything... you know? So how is a swith BDSM relationship any different? less

Hah! I want a dildo tree for Christmas. I would send it to a friend of mine who would understaaaaaaaaaand.

If only I had the money to make a dildo tree. (giggles)

Though seeing as I can get kegel balls out without a retrieval cord it seems kinda pointless to have one on a dildo. I could eject a dildo eaaaaaaasy. /tmi

Okay, switch/switch!

Switches are kinky people who are capable of both submitting and dominating. They can either switch with one partner or they will have multiple partners, some of whom they dominate and some of whom they'll submit to. A switch/switch relationship would in my opinion look like two open-minded people who love experimenting and are willing to do that with each other. It allows for my favorite game, which is of course "I make you submit!" "Oh yeah?" "YEAH!" (wrestle)

I enjoy the dynamic because I'm a competitive person and I love making someone submit, and knowing I have a chance at losing. Switch/switch seems more fun and less formal... like an extension of play partners, except between two people already in a relationship who know what they want. less

This all seems odd to me. (NOt you in particular, but the whole switching thing) Because in any 'normal' relationship, doesn't it go back and forth like that anyways? I mean, I wear the pants in our relationship.... anyone can tell you that, but there are days when I don't WANT to be in charge of everything... you know? So how is a swith BDSM relationship any different? less

This all seems odd to me. (NOt you in particular, but the whole switching thing) Because in any 'normal' relationship, doesn't it go back and forth like that anyways? I mean, I wear the pants in our relationship.... anyone can tell you that, but there are days when I don't WANT to be in charge of everything... you know? So how is a swith BDSM relationship any different? less

Hah! I want a dildo tree for Christmas. I would send it to a friend of mine who would understaaaaaaaaaand.

If only I had the money to make a dildo tree. (giggles)

Though seeing as I can get kegel balls out without a retrieval cord it seems kinda pointless to have one on a dildo. I could eject a dildo eaaaaaaasy. /tmi

Okay, switch/switch!

Switches are kinky people who are capable of both submitting and dominating. They can either switch with one partner or they will have multiple partners, some of whom they dominate and some of whom they'll submit to. A switch/switch relationship would in my opinion look like two open-minded people who love experimenting and are willing to do that with each other. It allows for my favorite game, which is of course "I make you submit!" "Oh yeah?" "YEAH!" (wrestle)

I enjoy the dynamic because I'm a competitive person and I love making someone submit, and knowing I have a chance at losing. Switch/switch seems more fun and less formal... like an extension of play partners, except between two people already in a relationship who know what they want. less

This all seems odd to me. (NOt you in particular, but the whole switching thing) Because in any 'normal' relationship, doesn't it go back and forth like that anyways? I mean, I wear the pants in our relationship.... anyone can tell you that, but there are days when I don't WANT to be in charge of everything... you know? So how is a swith BDSM relationship any different? less

In our relationship, M always wants to be in charge, and I never want to be in charge. He takes control in everything. There are some things I'm allowed to lead the way in, but that is only because he's taught me which way to go and trusts me to follow the path he's pointed out. less

This all seems odd to me. (NOt you in particular, but the whole switching thing) Because in any 'normal' relationship, doesn't it go back and forth like that anyways? I mean, I wear the pants in our relationship.... anyone can tell you that, but there are days when I don't WANT to be in charge of everything... you know? So how is a swith BDSM relationship any different? less

In our relationship, M always wants to be in charge, and I never want to be in charge. He takes control in everything. There are some things I'm allowed to lead the way in, but that is only because he's taught me which way to go and trusts me to follow the path he's pointed out. less