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Does anyone in your close family know you are into anal play?

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Contributor: Bignuf Bignuf
Moms, dads, brothers, sisters all know you do vaginal or penis play...after all, that is what you are "supposed to do". Oral, I think, has become so vanilla and mainstream that everyone, including old grandma, expects you are doing that too...since grandma and grandpa sure do ("yap...it's bean even betta since yo' old granny lost her teeths, ya know")....

But what about anal play? It seems to still be "taboo" enough that friends rarely discuss it (at least without giggles), and I suspect even many anal fans hide it from anyone but their sexual partner.

So...what about you?
Answers (private voting - your screen name will NOT appear in the results):
Some in my immediate family do know I am into anal play.
3
No...they don't know and never will.
16
My immediate family has no clue what I do in the bedroom, and it is none of their business.
18
Other?
2
Total votes: 39 (32 voters)
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12/01/2012
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Contributor: Falsepast Falsepast
No one knows and I don't want them to
12/01/2012
Contributor: Gunsmoke Gunsmoke
We don't talk about sex at all with family - what ever they imagine is fine with me. My guess is that they have no idea how much fun we really have!
12/01/2012
Contributor: sXeVegan90 sXeVegan90
No one knows and there's no way I want them to.
12/01/2012
Contributor: GirlOnGirl GirlOnGirl
I don't discuss much about my sex life with my family and they spare me the details as well!!
12/01/2012
Contributor: Rossie Rossie
We don't discuss our sex life with them, and I'm sure they're not interested in what we do in our bedroom also.
12/01/2012
Contributor: Stagger13 Stagger13
Quote:
Originally posted by Bignuf
Moms, dads, brothers, sisters all know you do vaginal or penis play...after all, that is what you are "supposed to do". Oral, I think, has become so vanilla and mainstream that everyone, including old grandma, expects you are doing that ... more
Sex life is private.
12/01/2012
Contributor: shorejen9 shorejen9
No one knows any of that. Heck they don't even know I have an Eden store or blog. They wouldn't be okay with it. This makes things like having a store ppl actually buy things at very difficult for me. I just don't want to deal with the judgement and questions and such. That's why I'm here with my Eden family! Hoping to drum up sales here and they my blog and twitter and FB. My Eden friends don't judge.
12/01/2012
Contributor: Lioncub Lioncub
No it's not something I share with them.
12/01/2012
Contributor: Incendiaire Incendiaire
I'm the token gay one in the family, so I imagine there's an assumption that I get up to that sort of thing, but I certainly have no intention of ever confirming it with anyone.
12/01/2012
Contributor: Gone (LD29) Gone (LD29)
I don't speak to my family often as it is, let alone about my sex life. There's no reason to discuss it.
12/01/2012
Contributor: libbyv libbyv
Quote:
Originally posted by Bignuf
Moms, dads, brothers, sisters all know you do vaginal or penis play...after all, that is what you are "supposed to do". Oral, I think, has become so vanilla and mainstream that everyone, including old grandma, expects you are doing that ... more
i don't feel it's appropriate for anyone outside of the bedroom to know what goes on inside
12/01/2012
Contributor: Two Grand Two Grand
No one knows about my anal play, except my wife who found my "stash' of toys and happened to mention one night at dinner, And I thought I really hid them well, In the closet on the top shelf, I dont what she was doing looking up there she had to get a ladder to find them.
12/02/2012
Contributor: sillylilkitten sillylilkitten
Nope, no one knows except my partner and my best friend. My family doesn't want to know about my sex life, and I don't want them to.
12/02/2012
Contributor: K101 K101
Quote:
Originally posted by Bignuf
Moms, dads, brothers, sisters all know you do vaginal or penis play...after all, that is what you are "supposed to do". Oral, I think, has become so vanilla and mainstream that everyone, including old grandma, expects you are doing that ... more
Well, I don't do any kind of anal play, but just as I don't talk in detail about my sex to my family, I doubt I'd ever feel the need to let them know I take it up the rear. Just a little TMI there, and I'm usually all for TMI. But here, I just don't see any reason my family would ever need (or want!) to know that.

Now if I were just in a discussion about anal sex, such as here, and if I actually did have anal sex, I wouldn't just shy away about talking about it. I mean, if I'm going to engage in any kind of activity, I'm not going to be ashamed to admit it, at the right time and place of course. So I'd probably only disclose that info if I were in a healthy discussion about it already.
12/02/2012
Contributor: HannahPanda HannahPanda
My mother found out accidentally and wasn't bothered. I'm kind of open about that kind of thing, anyway.
12/02/2012
Contributor: Zandrock Zandrock
No one knows and I like it that way
12/02/2012
Contributor: SecretKinksters SecretKinksters
We both enjoy anal play, neither one of our families know...or will ever know.
12/02/2012
Contributor: satinlady550 satinlady550
Quote:
Originally posted by Bignuf
Moms, dads, brothers, sisters all know you do vaginal or penis play...after all, that is what you are "supposed to do". Oral, I think, has become so vanilla and mainstream that everyone, including old grandma, expects you are doing that ... more
My friends and family know.
12/02/2012
Contributor: AmethystSmoke AmethystSmoke
I've never discussed details of my sex life with anyone except my partner - neither family nor friends... Until I found EF. lol But, as I'm sure most would agree, anonymous posts on an internet forum does not a conversation make.
12/03/2012
Contributor: indiglo indiglo
I do NOT want to hear anything (or know anything) about any of my family members' sex lives. And I pay them the same courtesy. That seems really over the boundaries of what is appropriate to me - not to mention gross. But, I guess every family is different.

Just like Gunsmoke, I am certain they have no idea how much fun we really have... and they probably don't care! I know I don't care about what they're doing.
12/03/2012
Contributor: Suisei Suisei
My mother knows I'm gay, but she also knows I've never been in a relationship, so she probably assumes I've done nothing, anally speaking.
In any case, I've never told anyone I currently know in person about my affinity for anal play. I don't think anyone would want to know such a thing about me, anyhow.

However, I just envisioned a funny scenario. Picture it, Tantus A-Bomb in plain sight, discovered by friend or family member.
"W...What is this?", they say, with a hint of alarm and suspicion.
Possible responses:
1) "It's... A football! A really small football! I secretly like sports! Please don't tell anyone."
2) "Oh no, a bombshell! Run and take cover!"
3) "Oh, that? I really like sticking it in my butt."

Most people I know would be more likely to believe the first two responses, coming from me.
12/03/2012
Contributor: MrWill MrWill
My immediate family has no idea. Hell, they don't even know that I get a package once every couple of weeks with toys just for me.

I do have a cousin that knows everything though, and we occasionally talk to each other about different toys.

She is bisexual and didn't really have anyone to talk to about ANYTHING she was going through, and when visiting one day stumbled across my drawer of goodies. Finding a drawer full of anal toys when you know your male cousin isn't dating anyone kinda opened a box full of questions, and as embarrassed as I was when she first said something... It's great to have a friend/family member that I really can discuss ANYTHING with, and not be judged.
12/03/2012
Contributor: table38792 table38792
Nope, it's not a topic that really comes up.
12/03/2012
Contributor: RonLee RonLee
I cannot figure out why my parents or siblings would want or need to know anything about my bedroom activities. I certainly would not consider it to be "hiding".
12/03/2012
Contributor: Supervixen Supervixen
Nope. I don't discuss my sex life with my family. It's none of their business, just as theirs is none of mine.
12/04/2012
Contributor: lainebug lainebug
Quote:
Originally posted by Bignuf
Moms, dads, brothers, sisters all know you do vaginal or penis play...after all, that is what you are "supposed to do". Oral, I think, has become so vanilla and mainstream that everyone, including old grandma, expects you are doing that ... more
it's private
12/06/2012