Who first suggested anal sex in your current relationship?

Contributor: Beck Beck
(If single most current)
Answers (private voting - your screen name will NOT appear in the results):
Both, we talk about things together.
44  (38%)
Him, he asked til I gave in.
20  (17%)
Me, had it before it was awesome!
22  (19%)
No one I do not do anal.
9  (8%)
Other, incase I missed one.
21  (18%)
Total votes: 116
Poll is closed
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07/23/2011
Contributor: Gunsmoke Gunsmoke
I've been gently pushing the idea for years. We've gotten to anal play - but not anal sex.
07/23/2011
Contributor: froggiemoma froggiemoma
He kept askin i finally gave in and was glad i did.
07/23/2011
Contributor: Lucky21 Lucky21
She told me to do it! The funny thing is, she had unsuccessfully tried it in other relationships. We'd discussed it, and it was kind of a non-starter, so it really surprised me when she asked for it.
07/25/2011
Contributor: Ryuson Ryuson
No anal for us! We have no real interest!
07/25/2011
Contributor: padmeamidala padmeamidala
Quote:
Originally posted by Beck
(If single most current)
He asked and then I finally gave in. I was very reluctant about it. Took me a long time to enjoy anal.
07/25/2011
Contributor: babyrock babyrock
i'm the more curious one in the relationship.
07/25/2011
Contributor: indiglo indiglo
He brought it up, but he did not "ask till I gave in", so I voted we both talked about it. He brought it up and left it at that. I considered it, and decided I was open to trying it. We talked about it together a lot first.
07/25/2011
Contributor: LadyEarlGrey LadyEarlGrey
When my husband and I were first dating, he randomly blurted out, "Would you ever have anal?!" I thought for a moment and said sure, I'm up for almost anything. We didn't try it right then and still don't do it that often since the time just never seems to be right but we both do enjoy it.
07/25/2011
Contributor: P'Gell P'Gell
Quote:
Originally posted by Beck
(If single most current)
Again, I can't really answer the poll the way it was worded. *sigh*

My Man was the first one to mention it. BUT, it wasn't "he asked until I gave in"

That implies that women only perform receptive anal sex as a way of "giving in."

My Man and I worked on it for more than a month, making sure we were both enjoying ourselves the entire time, until we were able to have totally enjoyable mutually satisfying anal sex.


It was originally his idea. I didn't "give in." I gave it serious thought, and we worked it out, as we both wanted it. I don't see having ANY type of consensual sex as "giving in." It really degrades the experience to think this way, IMO.
07/26/2011
Contributor: Bella-Sunshine (Couple Account) Bella-Sunshine (Couple Account)
Both
07/26/2011
Contributor: Liz2 Liz2
I enjoy anal sex and had anal with former partners. When my present b/f suggested it, I was very hesitant as he has a big head which presented a challenge for both of us. With patience, communication and tons of lube; now awesome for both of us. But I need a good warmup like wearing and playing with a butt plug.

Somehow unequal as when I peg him, he chooses the dil that is the most comfortable for him at the time.
07/26/2011
Contributor: tickle me pink tickle me pink
He was the one who brought it up first, and when he did I was totally against anal play of any kind. Now I'm the one always suggesting it!
07/26/2011
Contributor: Bignuf Bignuf
Quote:
Originally posted by Beck
(If single most current)
Always discussed things together...then went on to try them. Only things we never tried were things we BOTH went...no way, to.
07/30/2011
Contributor: Bignuf Bignuf
Quote:
Originally posted by tickle me pink
He was the one who brought it up first, and when he did I was totally against anal play of any kind. Now I'm the one always suggesting it!
Great story...just goes to show the old adage..."try it, you'll like it" has some truth to it!
07/30/2011
Contributor: Bignuf Bignuf
Quote:
Originally posted by Ryuson
No anal for us! We have no real interest!
We honestly would love to know something. The anus is kind of "right there" next to the scrotum in guys and the vagina in woman. Do folks that really have zero interest in anal sex kind of just avoid that area completely? How can you not, even if not aiming for it, fail to occassionally rub, caress...etc, the anal opening, if nothing else, just from OTHER kinds of sex? If that happens, do folks who don't want anything anal just "ignore" the touch, or pretend it didnt happen?
07/30/2011
Contributor: Anjulie Anjulie
Quote:
Originally posted by babyrock
i'm the more curious one in the relationship.
Same here.
07/30/2011
Contributor: PassionQT PassionQT
I had bad anal experience in the past, so of course when my current partner asked I was like "no way"..Eventually, after ten long years, I gave in and now I enjoy anal because he is gentle and listens to me.
07/30/2011
Contributor: LostBoy988 LostBoy988
We always keep open communication on things like that.
07/30/2011
Contributor: thebest thebest
him
07/30/2011
Contributor: briluminary briluminary
sadly i encouraged it
08/01/2011
Contributor: Shellz31 Shellz31
I'm not in an actual relationship, but my Master brought up the anal discussion. He didn't have to push at all - I was more than happy.
08/01/2011
Contributor: shySEXXaddict shySEXXaddict
Quote:
Originally posted by Beck
(If single most current)
I have always been the one to suggest it first .I like anal as long as its with someone im interested in and feel completely comfortable with.As the only was to enjoy it is to be relaxed I found.O and ALWAYS use protection with anal
08/07/2011
Contributor: DashO'Roark DashO'Roark
Quote:
Originally posted by Beck
(If single most current)
It kind of happened by accident in the shower; him from behind, too much soap and OOPS. But we took to it like ducks to water.
08/29/2011
Contributor: IslandGoddess IslandGoddess
None of us..We don't even talk about it
08/29/2011
Contributor: frisky069 frisky069
Quote:
Originally posted by Beck
(If single most current)
i actually brought it up, but i had never done it before, i just wanted to try it, and i loved it!
08/29/2011
Contributor: NewEnglandCouple NewEnglandCouple
He bugged me and I finally gave in. I didn't like it and will never do it again.
08/31/2011
Contributor: caligaliber caligaliber
My partner suggested it, She said she knew I would like it, and she wasnt wrong
08/31/2011
Contributor: Ms. Spice Ms. Spice
i tried it and i don't want to do it again. so in my next relationship, it's not going to happen
08/31/2011