I'm trying to get ready for anal sex by playing with some toys by myself. I use System Jo anal lube, but when I insert the tip of any toy, no matter how skinny, I get a burning sensation that's just plain uncomfortable. Is this normal?
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Why do I get a burning sensation when I insert even just the tip of my anal toy?
11/27/2012
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what kind of toys are you using? what are they made from?
11/27/2012
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Seconded. You could be having a reaction to the toy materials or you may be allergic to the lubricant.
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what kind of toys are you using? what are they made from?
11/27/2012
could be the lube
11/27/2012
We had a "jelly" dildo that we'd used without a condom cover. I washed it with soap and hot water. It must have absorbed the soap because the very last time that I used it, it burned something crazy. I threw it out. I'll not buy anything but silicone, metal or glass now.
11/27/2012
Sorry for that. Yep, sounds like an allergic reaction to either the toy or lube. I hope I am not getting too personal but have you tried inserting a finger with the lube on your finger to see if it produces the same symptons? If so, then it could be the lube. If not, could be the toy, just a hunch.
11/27/2012
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Good idea MrWishyWashy, you must have a background in product testing.
Originally posted by
MrWishyWashy
Sorry for that. Yep, sounds like an allergic reaction to either the toy or lube. I hope I am not getting too personal but have you tried inserting a finger with the lube on your finger to see if it produces the same symptons? If so, then it could be
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Sorry for that. Yep, sounds like an allergic reaction to either the toy or lube. I hope I am not getting too personal but have you tried inserting a finger with the lube on your finger to see if it produces the same symptons? If so, then it could be the lube. If not, could be the toy, just a hunch.
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11/27/2012
If at least one of those toys is silicone, glass or metal (and is clean) I'd be very suspicious of the lube. If they're all jelly or similar then it could be either, but try changing the lube first because it's cheaper (you can also try a condom).
There are other reasons it might burn (not enough foreplay is one), but lube is a good candidate. I've never had a problem with Probe (had problems with others), and Sliquid is also highly recommended.
There are other reasons it might burn (not enough foreplay is one), but lube is a good candidate. I've never had a problem with Probe (had problems with others), and Sliquid is also highly recommended.
11/27/2012
Lube has done that to me before.
11/27/2012
ID Lube has caused both me and a past partner a very unpleasant burning sensation before.
11/28/2012
Get rid of the jelly, rubber, latex, etc. Stay with silicone, steel and glass. Obviously clean them well after each use. When in doubt use alcohol ot bleach to disinfect.
11/28/2012
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Don't use alcohol or bleach if they're not silicone or glass - porous materials can retain the bleach or alcohol and cause problems later. Do keep in mind that there are many organisms that alcohol can't kill as well.
Originally posted by
Gunsmoke
Get rid of the jelly, rubber, latex, etc. Stay with silicone, steel and glass. Obviously clean them well after each use. When in doubt use alcohol ot bleach to disinfect.
You need to be careful about prolonged exposure of stainless steel to bleach as well - it can cause pitting. Spray and rinse is the safe way to go for sanitizing stainless.
Pain at insertion is not likely to be caused by microorganisms on the toy, anyway. Chemical sensitivity is much more likely.
11/28/2012
It could be the material. It could just be that you aren't warmed up. I have this sometimes. Is it a chemical burning or a my skin is stretching burning.
11/28/2012
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No, that should not happen if all is well. I am seriously into anal, and not into pain at all. Pain means something isn't as it should be. Don't ignore pain.
Originally posted by
Lucy Lace
I'm trying to get ready for anal sex by playing with some toys by myself. I use System Jo anal lube, but when I insert the tip of any toy, no matter how skinny, I get a burning sensation that's just plain uncomfortable. Is this normal?
Start with lube. It may be that lube is just not the ideal one for you.
Second, a finger, rather then a toy, gives you a lot more sensitivity, and feedback as to what is going on. A lovers finger might be a great starter, and if not, your own finger would be the ideal teaching tool.
HOW you lube, may be key. Try lubing inside, by using a "lube shooter" or make your own by getting an enema bottle (like FLEETS) or an enema bulb, both of which have slim nozzles, and after making sure they are clean and empty...filling them up with a good lube and then inserting the well lubed (outside) nozzle in, just a bit,and then squeezing lube along the way, all the way past the anal sphincter valve and into the rectum, where you can squirt some more lube even (maybe a few teaspoons full). that way you are well lubed inside and out. It can help... a lot, when new at this.
As said below, it could also be the toy. Try something silicone or better yet, a small metal or glass toy, which eliminates the chance of any reaction and are super smooth.
Good luck.
12/01/2012
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Yes, but I cannot see that being "instantaneous either. Sounds like "mechanical" pain from opening a sensitive sphincter that may not be totally relaxed or she may have a cartilaginous ring, preventing wide opening of the sphincter, or even a possible anal/rectal fissure.
Originally posted by
ScottA
Don't use alcohol or bleach if they're not silicone or glass - porous materials can retain the bleach or alcohol and cause problems later. Do keep in mind that there are many organisms that alcohol can't kill as well.
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Don't use alcohol or bleach if they're not silicone or glass - porous materials can retain the bleach or alcohol and cause problems later. Do keep in mind that there are many organisms that alcohol can't kill as well.
You need to be careful about prolonged exposure of stainless steel to bleach as well - it can cause pitting. Spray and rinse is the safe way to go for sanitizing stainless.
Pain at insertion is not likely to be caused by microorganisms on the toy, anyway. Chemical sensitivity is much more likely. less
You need to be careful about prolonged exposure of stainless steel to bleach as well - it can cause pitting. Spray and rinse is the safe way to go for sanitizing stainless.
Pain at insertion is not likely to be caused by microorganisms on the toy, anyway. Chemical sensitivity is much more likely. less
12/01/2012
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Excellent points about the alcohol or bleach.
Originally posted by
ScottA
Don't use alcohol or bleach if they're not silicone or glass - porous materials can retain the bleach or alcohol and cause problems later. Do keep in mind that there are many organisms that alcohol can't kill as well.
You need to ... more
You need to ... more
Don't use alcohol or bleach if they're not silicone or glass - porous materials can retain the bleach or alcohol and cause problems later. Do keep in mind that there are many organisms that alcohol can't kill as well.
You need to be careful about prolonged exposure of stainless steel to bleach as well - it can cause pitting. Spray and rinse is the safe way to go for sanitizing stainless.
Pain at insertion is not likely to be caused by microorganisms on the toy, anyway. Chemical sensitivity is much more likely. less
You need to be careful about prolonged exposure of stainless steel to bleach as well - it can cause pitting. Spray and rinse is the safe way to go for sanitizing stainless.
Pain at insertion is not likely to be caused by microorganisms on the toy, anyway. Chemical sensitivity is much more likely. less
12/01/2012
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Wow. I guess I have been lucky to never have had a bad lube reaction. Just some not so good lubes!
Originally posted by
XxFallenAngelxX
Lube has done that to me before.
12/01/2012
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WOW...that is something to watch out for. I wonder what chemical in that brand did it to you?
Originally posted by
Genderfree
ID Lube has caused both me and a past partner a very unpleasant burning sensation before.
12/01/2012
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I use alcohol fairly frequently - but like any cleanser, adequate rising is required to remove the offending residue. We've never had any issues with alcohol disinfected toys.
Originally posted by
Bignuf
Excellent points about the alcohol or bleach.
12/01/2012
While I don't want to repeat all of the very useful advice already posted, my first suspicions were the lube, followed by the toy material. I only buy silicone, metal and glass toys, with the occasional nonporous plastics, so material has never presented an issue for me. Lubricant, on the other hand, is incredibly hit or miss. Even some of the top brands seem to have varieties that contain ingredients that disagree with me. Often, I end up buying "natural" varieties, like Sliquid's organic lubricants.
That being said, do take a look at the material as well.
A third suspicion, though... Would you consider yourself an anal beginner? Are you doing adequate warm-up first? If you're not properly relaxed and ready after some time of using your fingers, you could encounter pain and discomfort when you move along to using a toy.
In any case, I agree with first trying the lubricant without a toy to see if it provokes the same reaction.
That being said, do take a look at the material as well.
A third suspicion, though... Would you consider yourself an anal beginner? Are you doing adequate warm-up first? If you're not properly relaxed and ready after some time of using your fingers, you could encounter pain and discomfort when you move along to using a toy.
In any case, I agree with first trying the lubricant without a toy to see if it provokes the same reaction.
12/01/2012
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If you do this it's better to only put enough lube in for one use, because it can get contaminated. Don't fill it up and use a little bit over and over for a couple of months.
Originally posted by
Bignuf
No, that should not happen if all is well. I am seriously into anal, and not into pain at all. Pain means something isn't as it should be. Don't ignore pain.
Start with lube. It may be that lube is just not the ideal one for ... more
Start with lube. It may be that lube is just not the ideal one for ... more
No, that should not happen if all is well. I am seriously into anal, and not into pain at all. Pain means something isn't as it should be. Don't ignore pain.
Start with lube. It may be that lube is just not the ideal one for you.
Second, a finger, rather then a toy, gives you a lot more sensitivity, and feedback as to what is going on. A lovers finger might be a great starter, and if not, your own finger would be the ideal teaching tool.
HOW you lube, may be key. Try lubing inside, by using a "lube shooter" or make your own by getting an enema bottle (like FLEETS) or an enema bulb, both of which have slim nozzles, and after making sure they are clean and empty...filling them up with a good lube and then inserting the well lubed (outside) nozzle in, just a bit,and then squeezing lube along the way, all the way past the anal sphincter valve and into the rectum, where you can squirt some more lube even (maybe a few teaspoons full). that way you are well lubed inside and out. It can help... a lot, when new at this.
As said below, it could also be the toy. Try something silicone or better yet, a small metal or glass toy, which eliminates the chance of any reaction and are super smooth.
Good luck. less
Start with lube. It may be that lube is just not the ideal one for you.
Second, a finger, rather then a toy, gives you a lot more sensitivity, and feedback as to what is going on. A lovers finger might be a great starter, and if not, your own finger would be the ideal teaching tool.
HOW you lube, may be key. Try lubing inside, by using a "lube shooter" or make your own by getting an enema bottle (like FLEETS) or an enema bulb, both of which have slim nozzles, and after making sure they are clean and empty...filling them up with a good lube and then inserting the well lubed (outside) nozzle in, just a bit,and then squeezing lube along the way, all the way past the anal sphincter valve and into the rectum, where you can squirt some more lube even (maybe a few teaspoons full). that way you are well lubed inside and out. It can help... a lot, when new at this.
As said below, it could also be the toy. Try something silicone or better yet, a small metal or glass toy, which eliminates the chance of any reaction and are super smooth.
Good luck. less
Generally about 4-8mL is enough lube.
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