Women and Anal

Contributor: Lindz86 Lindz86
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I realize there are a few guys out there wondering how to get women interested in anal...my perspective on it is that I enjoy anal...however it scares me a little because I know a lot of men/women find this sexual act more than a little disgusting. I'm just wondering (men or women can answer, but I'm more wondering what a man's take on this is)if you're in a new relationship and your partner wants anal, should they come right out and ask, or leave it alone until you approach it? And ladies, if it was you in a new relationship and you enjoyed anal, how would you go about getting your point across???
12/09/2010
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Contributor: ~LaUr3n~ ~LaUr3n~
I just tell it like it is. I like anal play. I ask for it. End of story.

Guys, in my experience, like to be told what's up. So...just tell them.
12/09/2010
Contributor: Liz2 Liz2
Perhaps not the first time but tell them. Guys usually want to know your boundaries.
12/09/2010
Contributor: ScottA ScottA
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Originally posted by ~LaUr3n~
I just tell it like it is. I like anal play. I ask for it. End of story.

Guys, in my experience, like to be told what's up. So...just tell them.
Yep, tell them. Guys often don't get the hints.
12/09/2010
Contributor: Gunsmoke Gunsmoke
Never had a girl ask for anal or even express any interest in it. I did meet an old girlfriend years later who mentioned that she loved to have done it but thought I was to much of a prude - ironically I didn't ask for the same reason - I figured she'd be turned off! So I'd say if you want it, ask for it!
12/11/2010
Contributor: Emma (Girl With Fire) Emma (Girl With Fire)
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Originally posted by ScottA
Yep, tell them. Guys often don't get the hints.
You are not exaggerating. That actually made me laugh. I definitely boss a man around in the bedroom, and I generally do not get complaints. I am much more open than most of my male partners have been ans therefor far more willing to discuss what works and doesn't and what I want.
12/11/2010
Contributor: Yoda Yoda
If you want to, say so. I think most men would love this.
12/16/2010
Contributor: PassionQT PassionQT
Lots of men enjoy it, but there are just as many who can take it or leave it. I enjoy some ass play, gentle, nothing rough though.
12/16/2010
Contributor: seaofneptune seaofneptune
I'd probably be open and ask my partner for it. I first got interested in trying it after I read a section in one of my sex books about it. I figured if it can be pleasurable - why not try it out and see if I like it or not. Well, I had to talk it out with my partner first because before I read the book, I was not interested in trying it at all.

Talking helps, we tried it and we both enjoy it very much. No one's a mind reader - if there is something you need or want, talk about it.
12/16/2010
Contributor: Shellz31 Shellz31
I'm open and would just come straight out and say "I love anal - how do you feel about giving or receiving?".
12/16/2010
Contributor: dv8 dv8
The first time we had sex, my gf begged me to fuck her ass. That made knowing she was into anal pretty obvious.
01/03/2011
Contributor: Airen Wolf Airen Wolf
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Originally posted by Lindz86
I realize there are a few guys out there wondering how to get women interested in anal...my perspective on it is that I enjoy anal...however it scares me a little because I know a lot of men/women find this sexual act more than a little disgusting. ... more
In a relationship a person should be free to ask for what they want regardless of the topic. You can be refused but if you don't ask you won't give your partner the ability to say yes either! You might lose the relationship by asking for what you want or by being refused but if you aren't getting something that brings you pleasure then perhaps the relationship isn't worth being in after all.
01/03/2011
Contributor: Airen Wolf Airen Wolf
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Originally posted by ScottA
Yep, tell them. Guys often don't get the hints.
That was the first thing Arch told me. "If you want something ASK! I am terrible at reading minds and picking up on hints."
01/03/2011
Contributor: null null
I think both parties should be as open about it as possible. Missed hints lead to awkward situations and unfulfilled partners.
01/03/2011
Contributor: happeegrl03 happeegrl03
Here is my story.. For nearly 14 years I have beeen with my partner. She was never into anal play at ALL! So, I never brought it up. Recently, I have decided it was time to just be open. I don't know if it is because i'm almost 35 and in my prime sexual years or what, but I told her I wanted to do anal play. THANK GOD I did! I have NEVER in my life had such uncontrollable squirting orgasms, EVER! Now, she can't wait to do it to me. So, the moral to this story is, if you want something then ask, it won't hurt to ask. Now, i have a question for women about anal play.. Nothing, and i mean NOTHING has ever made me squirt like anal play does. is it just me? I always thought you had to stimulate the g spot for squirting to happen.
01/04/2011
Contributor: LavenderSkies LavenderSkies
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Originally posted by ~LaUr3n~
I just tell it like it is. I like anal play. I ask for it. End of story.

Guys, in my experience, like to be told what's up. So...just tell them.
Well put, I agree. Men love for you to be direct..
01/04/2011