Boyfriends and Toys

Contributor: chicmichiw chicmichiw
I'd like to introduce toys to my relationship (Boyfriend, this is we-vibe...). Any tips on gentle advice for the less-than comfortable partner? Any specific toys you'd recommend first?
12/20/2012
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Contributor: CollegeFun2014 CollegeFun2014
I'd start with a smaller toy first so he doesn't have any worries about his size. If he saw your toys were larger than him he might feel inadequate.
12/20/2012
Contributor: (k)InkyIvy (k)InkyIvy
CollegeFun2014's advice is probably best, honestly.
12/20/2012
Contributor: CaliGirl CaliGirl
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Originally posted by CollegeFun2014
I'd start with a smaller toy first so he doesn't have any worries about his size. If he saw your toys were larger than him he might feel inadequate.
Exactly lol
12/20/2012
Contributor: Gracie Gracie
A small clit vibe is probably a nonthreating place to start. My faves are mimi by jejoue and tango by wevibe. The wevibe 3 might be a little complicated for a first toy.
12/21/2012
Contributor: pandasauce pandasauce
If it's a we-vibe, which is pretty non-threatening to start with, you might try lubing it (and him!) up and try using it during a handjob to introduce him to it, then show him how else to use it.
01/03/2013
Contributor: MrWill MrWill
I would also consider sitting him down and explaining the facts on women and orgasming from penetrative sex.

A loooot of women can't orgasm from just penetration.


Try to make it as little of a "blow" to his confidence as possible. Explain that you want to orgasm every time, just as he does (hopefully you haven't been faking it!)
01/03/2013
Contributor: thesexiebunnie thesexiebunnie
I was nervous about talking to my boyfriend about using toys. I just talked to him when we were discussing a past sexcapade and mentioned how hot it would be if we used a toy or 2 and we even picked out toys together. Worked for me. I think just being honest is key.
01/03/2013
Contributor: KissTheSkyBaby KissTheSkyBaby
When I introduced toys to my relationship I was experienced and he wasn't. I took more of a "babe, I want to put on a show for you" approach. More like mutual masturbation, because what man doesn't get masturbation. Eventually he wanted to be the one controlling it. I also make sure to always remind him how much more I prefer the real deal to any toy. The toys just add spice.
01/03/2013
Contributor: streepeddler streepeddler
as a guy i have never had problems with my partners toys. i have had some that arent into toys some that love toys. def dont intimidate him with size to quickly. start with toys he can use during sex, or warm up toys on you. its never been an issue with me. i no im not the biggest thing out there, if she wants to get off on something bigger lets use it lol

my wife enjoys toys but isnt into them, mostly bullets and then restraints. i recently got her a g spot vibrator. i think im more into them than her lol
01/22/2013
Contributor: libbyv libbyv
Quote:
Originally posted by chicmichiw
I'd like to introduce toys to my relationship (Boyfriend, this is we-vibe...). Any tips on gentle advice for the less-than comfortable partner? Any specific toys you'd recommend first?
just be honest
01/22/2013
Contributor: TheirPet TheirPet
Just talk to him. Get his feelings for it and start off small if he wants to. Many guys enjoy playing with toys.
01/22/2013
Contributor: ThorHah ThorHah
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Originally posted by chicmichiw
I'd like to introduce toys to my relationship (Boyfriend, this is we-vibe...). Any tips on gentle advice for the less-than comfortable partner? Any specific toys you'd recommend first?
Toys are better than boyfriends. Enough said.
01/26/2013
Contributor: RedGlitter RedGlitter
I have about 6 toys I'm going to show to my boyfriend soon!
Thankfully, he's fine with it...I just wanna show him how to use them all when we're playing together! I JUST showed him my glass g-spot toy..he liked how it looks, but I need to tell him how it should be used! Good luck!!
01/26/2013