I've gotten very frustrated with a partner & short tempered over this before. *Face of shame* I don't react well to it. I get really pissy & upset. It hasn't happened in a long ass time, though.
Ladies, what is your reaction if you want to have an orgasm but can't/don't?
05/18/2011
keep trying till it happends
05/24/2011
Just keep trying, if it doesn't happen, oh well.
05/30/2011
I've never orgasmed from intercourse. I have to have clitoral stimulation to cum, so I'll get out my vibe after sex with or without him in the room. Usually he gets me off before sex though.
06/05/2011
funstuff4me
I get angry. I'm one of those lucky women who almost always has an orgasm. It's more difficult for me not to have one than to have one. If things aren't going as well as they should I ask (or order ) my partner to lay on their back and let me do the work. If they are unwilling to do that I feel perfectly justified in telling them it wasn't worth me pulling my clothes off.
06/17/2011
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Why not just enjoy the experience, the feel and the moment. As they say, it is the JOURNEY, rather then the DESTINATION that should be most enjoyable, since the most time is dedicated to it. If you are just focused on the orgasm, you may miss the incredible feelings along the way. Remember, the Orgasm is like the cherry on top of the cupcake. Even if there is no cherry...are you tossing out that yummy cupcake??? No way!!!
Originally posted by
P'Gell
As women, some of us don't have orgasms every time we have sex, or every time we want to. What is your reaction to NOT being able to come?
It never used to bother me, as I knew it would happen next time. Now, it's more difficult and I ... more
It never used to bother me, as I knew it would happen next time. Now, it's more difficult and I ... more
As women, some of us don't have orgasms every time we have sex, or every time we want to. What is your reaction to NOT being able to come?
It never used to bother me, as I knew it would happen next time. Now, it's more difficult and I cry, like a baby, sometimes or worry my ass off until the next time it happens. less
It never used to bother me, as I knew it would happen next time. Now, it's more difficult and I cry, like a baby, sometimes or worry my ass off until the next time it happens. less
06/17/2011
Ive had bfs in the past that would cum before me and that made me MAD!!!
However, current bf is ALOT better and I actually get to have multiple Os w/him!
However, current bf is ALOT better and I actually get to have multiple Os w/him!
06/17/2011
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Oh, honey, I always do enjoy the ride!
Originally posted by
Bignuf
Why not just enjoy the experience, the feel and the moment. As they say, it is the JOURNEY, rather then the DESTINATION that should be most enjoyable, since the most time is dedicated to it. If you are just focused on the orgasm, you may miss the
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Why not just enjoy the experience, the feel and the moment. As they say, it is the JOURNEY, rather then the DESTINATION that should be most enjoyable, since the most time is dedicated to it. If you are just focused on the orgasm, you may miss the incredible feelings along the way. Remember, the Orgasm is like the cherry on top of the cupcake. Even if there is no cherry...are you tossing out that yummy cupcake??? No way!!!
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I've been having sex for...over 20 years. For years I had a hair trigger orgasm (although nearly always from oral, not PIV) and never had a problem having one. If I did on occasion, by bad luck, not come, I was very prosaic about it, "Oh, well, it's not like we're never having sex again, I'll come next time." (I think in run on sentences. )
But, due to early peri-menopause and my hormones being messed up, I have had the most difficult time having orgasms in the last few years. I can have time periods (like, now) where I come quite easily from a combination of My Man's efforts and our toys. Other times, I can be stimulated for literally hours, be RIGHT THERE, be twitching, on the edge, and not be able to come. Then I walk around with "Blue Walls" (actual pain in my genitalia, my uterus and abdomen) for a day or two until I can finally have an orgasm.
If I have had an orgasm in the last 12 hours or so, I can happily have sex without worrying about not coming. But, when I know I am going to be in discomfort, frustration, even pain and mental anguish from my lack of a nice endorphin rush I get quite disturbed.
When it was a rare occurrence, (not being able to) or I simply chose not to come, it never bothers me. But, when I NEED to, I mean REALLY NEED TO, and can't, it is a nightmare for a little nympho like me.
06/17/2011
I'll tell my girlfriend its not working for me and usually she understands and will watch as I take care of it myself which gets us started all over again
07/14/2011
I get tired of getting close, and eventually just give up. There are some nights I won't be able to finish...and I'm okay with that
07/14/2011
This is a very frustrating situation. I work on it myself until I get there, usually.
07/15/2011
I really don't have sex to have an orgasm... my focus is totally on my partner and pleasing him, so most of the time I really don't mind if I don't orgasm.
07/15/2011
I generally don't orgasm during sex unless I've planned on it. If I ask him to make me come, he usually will. Otherwise, just helping him reach orgasm is usually enough for me. I don't have to come to be satisfied.
08/03/2011
For me, I really don't care if I have an orgasm or not, as long as my men get their's I'm secure in the knowladge that I was able to get them off.
08/03/2011
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I figure it will happen next time. And it does.
Originally posted by
P'Gell
As women, some of us don't have orgasms every time we have sex, or every time we want to. What is your reaction to NOT being able to come?
It never used to bother me, as I knew it would happen next time. Now, it's more difficult and I ... more
It never used to bother me, as I knew it would happen next time. Now, it's more difficult and I ... more
As women, some of us don't have orgasms every time we have sex, or every time we want to. What is your reaction to NOT being able to come?
It never used to bother me, as I knew it would happen next time. Now, it's more difficult and I cry, like a baby, sometimes or worry my ass off until the next time it happens. less
It never used to bother me, as I knew it would happen next time. Now, it's more difficult and I cry, like a baby, sometimes or worry my ass off until the next time it happens. less
08/03/2011
I don't care. I don't go into sex looking for an orgasm. I'm more there for the journey.
08/31/2011
There should really be an 'other' option here! I almost never orgasm during sex...so I masturbate afterwards, but he doesn't leave the room!! He cuddles me while I do it so it's even better. ^_^ I really hope I can experience an orgasm during sex with my current (and longest) partner soon <3333
08/31/2011
I am no where near menopause and I know exactly how you feel. In fact, the idea of menopause and it getting even harder to orgasm is pretty scary. I don't usually go into sex with the expectation of orgasm, I usually just want to have fun and enjoy the sensations. The problem comes when I get so damn close(!%*&^) and I just can't go over the edge. I can literally be quivering with the tension totally convinced that the orgasm is starting and it just doesn't happen. I want to scream! I can use the most powerful wands and it doesn't matter, they usually just hurt or make me numb. I haven't actually cried about it, but it usually makes me angry and frustrated. Not at my partner though, there is usually nothing either of us can do to make me come when I get like this. I get mad at my body, for not giving me release. I wouldn't say that I experience actual pain afterwards, but I can crave the release so bad for a while after that it might border on being called pain. I would say that this happens about half the time I "go for the O." I think for me this is mostly because I am on antidepressants that interfere with my libido and orgasms. I used to basically never orgasm, but I've switched meds about 6 months ago and I've gotten a lot better. Obviously its a work in progress though I think a lot of people don't realize that there are women who, at least some of time, are truly physically unable to orgasm through no fault of their own or partners. Also it's not just a matter of not being focused on orgasming as the end goal. It's about being unable to find a release to intense sexual tension and then having to go about your day dealing with that tension and stress all day.
07/10/2012
Lately its been more difficult for me to orgasm during sex, I'm not quite sure why. My boyfriend tries his hardest until I get there, we pretty much go at it until he can't last any longer. When it doesn't happen I get a bit frustrated, but usually I just whip out my vibrator and can orgasm that way. It's annoying though when the sex feels more amazing than normal and I just can't reach orgasm!
07/10/2012
If it happens to me, I either get a toy out or keep trucking along.
07/24/2012
I do get upset if I could have but lost it during our session..but most of the time it's ok. I'll just wait til next time...
07/24/2012
It's super frustrating to me, but I can usually manage it eventually.
07/25/2012
it's not a big deal if I don't though it is frustrating if I feel really close and then it goes away or my boyfriend finishes first
07/30/2012
Sucks when I want one and it just won't come!
11/30/2012
Aw, don't feel bad. It sucks and makes me want to cry too.
12/16/2012
Cat E.
I have a clitorial orgasm every time I want to.
12/16/2012
There is nothing more frustrating than not being able to come. Atleast to me. Sometimes I'm having great sex and I don't come, it's really weird.
12/30/2012
Honestly, I just feel bad because my fiance thinks HE did something wrong! no, that is not true, but he may think that it is! But I usually don't worry about it
01/08/2013
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No big deal. It will happen next time.
Originally posted by
P'Gell
As women, some of us don't have orgasms every time we have sex, or every time we want to. What is your reaction to NOT being able to come?
It never used to bother me, as I knew it would happen next time. Now, it's more difficult and I ... more
It never used to bother me, as I knew it would happen next time. Now, it's more difficult and I ... more
As women, some of us don't have orgasms every time we have sex, or every time we want to. What is your reaction to NOT being able to come?
It never used to bother me, as I knew it would happen next time. Now, it's more difficult and I cry, like a baby, sometimes or worry my ass off until the next time it happens. less
It never used to bother me, as I knew it would happen next time. Now, it's more difficult and I cry, like a baby, sometimes or worry my ass off until the next time it happens. less
01/08/2013
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It doesn't upset me if I don't have an orgasm every time. I will admit I'm sometimes guilty of using a toy afterwards though
Originally posted by
P'Gell
As women, some of us don't have orgasms every time we have sex, or every time we want to. What is your reaction to NOT being able to come?
It never used to bother me, as I knew it would happen next time. Now, it's more difficult and I ... more
It never used to bother me, as I knew it would happen next time. Now, it's more difficult and I ... more
As women, some of us don't have orgasms every time we have sex, or every time we want to. What is your reaction to NOT being able to come?
It never used to bother me, as I knew it would happen next time. Now, it's more difficult and I cry, like a baby, sometimes or worry my ass off until the next time it happens. less
It never used to bother me, as I knew it would happen next time. Now, it's more difficult and I cry, like a baby, sometimes or worry my ass off until the next time it happens. less
01/08/2013