Useful topic breakdown on Oral sex enhancers:

I could never reach orgasm from oral until I tried this. Anyone know how or why it works?
Blow jobs have always felt good, but have never been intense enough to bring me to orgasm. Even if I edge for half an hr before hand, my GF just can't

Spit, swallow or other?
Im a swallower..waste not want not, what do you prefer? Male or female.

Finishing him after sex
girls, do you mind finishing your man with your mouth after intercourse?

Deep throating huge partner?!
My guy is pretty damn big (8in and as big around as my wrist). I -really- want to learn to deep throat him, but when I get close I get worried his...

Giving to receive or receiving to give?
Do you give oral sex with the understanding your partner will return the favor? or do you receive with the understanding that you will return the...

oral for oral, I say.

It all depends how you feel. If you really desire oral to be performed on you and don't like that he gets all the pleasure in that department, then perhaps withhold.

Or try out one of those dental dams and then see if he still has any excuses as to why he doesn't want to perform oral on you.

Most guys I know LOVE giving oral. They can't get enough.
But I have come across one friend who said he never cared for it but just did it for his g/f cause she liked it.

I agree, oral for oral girl! He's not being fair!

Yes, withhold it from him!

I love going down on my partner, what's wrong with your guy?!

Anyway, talk it through some more, but I think it's only fair to withhold blowjobs if you really want him to provide oral for you and he's just flat out refusing. My partner is not really big into going down on me, but will still do it for me if I ask and that willingness makes all the difference.

I like how someone mentioned the dental dam. Before buying one, ask if that would make a difference in his opinion because you really want oral too. Or does he just prefer not giving oral and your cum was just an excuse. You guys need to talk this through and work out a compromise.

Yeah.. if he's not willing to go down on you, then refuse to give him head. I'm sure his dick (like most) isn't the most delicious thing to have in your mouth either so he's got to learn to deal- one way or the other.

Personally, I wouldn't withhold anything like that from my partner just to get what I wanted. But everyone's different.

What I would do is sit him down and really have a heart to heart. Explain to him how much you need that to feel fulfilled, or how you feel it's unfair to give to him without receiving something in return.

Maybe he could find another way to pay attention to you during foreplay. Perhaps he could use a clitoral vibe on you while using some of his fingers. I love the dental dam idea, so you might bring that up too. Another option is he could "plug you up" with a vaginal toy (dildo, plug, etc) so that not as much lubrication would be able to come out of you while he pleasures you orally.

If it means a lot to you, or just feel like you're doing all the giving, it's really important to talk to him about it. Do it at a time when you're not really thinking about sex, and try to be non-confrontational, non-judgmental and non-accusatory as much as possible. Best wishes!

Well - I'm a guy and I do all the giving. I'll give a 60 minute full body massage and then go down for 30 minutes. After that I get 5-8 minutes of att. This happens maybe 2x per month.

She loves me and it shows, but I have to go to great lengths to keep our intimacy active. Even when we get babysitters she never wants any sex.

Oh well.

Happens to the best of us.

I agree. Have a talk, mention the dental dam, talk through options, and if he's withholding just to be selfish, it's your decision whether or not you return the favor. I would, but it just depends on how bad you want it.

This is not a tit for tat thing. I am sure that if you look at the totality of the relationship there are thing that he does that you do not. If it is a quality relationship don't look at it as a score board, he does A so I do A. He does not do B so I don't do B. Realize that each of you brings certian skills and abilities and appriciate him for what he does bring. Also I would hope that brining him sexual joy by going donw on him would be it's own reward.
But with all that being said. Shave your shit, wash it up and tell the man to grow a pair go down on you so hard he can tell if you've had dental work.
B

Have you tried lubes that he likes the taste of? If the cum is watered down by all the tasty lube, that might help.

I agree it's extremely unfair, but withholding might not be the best reaction. Maybe tell him he'll only get it once every two weeks unless he gives?