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Do you think it's weird to say "thank you" after sex?

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Contributor: LoveReImagined LoveReImagined
My husband thinks I'm completely insane...

He's been working tons if overtime at work and came home and helped me put together a trampoline. We didn't even eat dinner until 10 tonight. He's exhausted and didn't really want to have sex...but we did anyway. Afterward, I said "thank you".

He thinks I'm completely nuts...and this isn't the first time I've said thank you. I say it pretty often, you know, when the sex is super awesome or he's made me cum into oblivion. We've been married 9 years so I'm sure I've said it plenty.

So...what do you think? Is it weird to say thank you?
Answers (public voting - your screen name will appear in the results):
No, it's not weird, it's polite
BlackOrchid , OH&W, Lovebears , Andykh , entities , Taylor , icyqueen , Akira , RonLee , Wicked Wahine , SexScienceAndFood , wrecklesswords , Pete's Princess , U3H , eri86 , Kitt Katt , Bignuf , QueerFemmeinist , elfiew , Kenna121 , TexasBrat , guard083 , March Hare , Confusedxfreak , SailorJulyxo , edeneve , ~*Nikila*~ , strangebrew , Kdlips , Aesenthia
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Yes, it's weird, and you are totally crazy
Amber1319
1
I wish someone would tell me thank you....
Wicked Wahine
1
WTF?!?!?!
Trixxxy
1
Total votes: 32 (31 voters)
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Contributor: OH&W, Lovebears OH&W, Lovebears
No, after awesome sex, I tell OW that all the time. Sometimes even after not awesome. Especially after she has had a long day. O r if I woke her up to do the deed.
07/02/2014
Contributor: Andykh Andykh
no definitely not weird at all. my wife has told me that several times and I look at her and laugh for a second and tell her welcome
07/02/2014
Contributor: Taylor Taylor
I don't think it is weird. I always say thank you after I have an orgasm. I think it is a remnant of a Dom/sub relationship I was in a couple of years ago. The guy I'm with now thinks it's sweet that I think him actually.
07/03/2014
Contributor: wrecklesswords wrecklesswords
I think it's a little weird, but I don't think you're crazy for saying it. I do it, too, sometimes. Especially when I really just needed that kind of a release.
07/09/2014
Contributor: eri86 eri86
I think everyone should say thank you, or at least something affirming, after sex.
07/12/2014
Contributor: dv8 dv8
I'm willing to say, "You're welcome."
07/13/2014
Contributor: Bignuf Bignuf
Quote:
Originally posted by LoveReImagined
My husband thinks I'm completely insane...

He's been working tons if overtime at work and came home and helped me put together a trampoline. We didn't even eat dinner until 10 tonight. He's exhausted and didn't really want ... more
It is never weird to say "thank you", and when it is to someone you love, in recognizing their actions towards you, whatever that may be, then it's all good!
07/13/2014
Contributor: LoveReImagined LoveReImagined
Quote:
Originally posted by dv8
I'm willing to say, "You're welcome."
Knowing my hubs and the way our relationship is...him saying "haha you're crazy!" Is pretty close to a "you're welcome". I'll take it haha! He did tell me to poll eden to see what you guys think. There we have it. I win again!
07/13/2014
Contributor: LoveReImagined LoveReImagined
Quote:
Originally posted by wrecklesswords
I think it's a little weird, but I don't think you're crazy for saying it. I do it, too, sometimes. Especially when I really just needed that kind of a release.
He says I'm crazy all the time. I'm not offended bc I know how crazy I am. Usually when he says I'm crazy it's because he likes what I said or knows I'm right. Silly man.
07/13/2014
Contributor: QueerFemmeinist QueerFemmeinist
Quote:
Originally posted by LoveReImagined
My husband thinks I'm completely insane...

He's been working tons if overtime at work and came home and helped me put together a trampoline. We didn't even eat dinner until 10 tonight. He's exhausted and didn't really want ... more
I always say thank u after an orgasm w a partner. I don't care if the other person does though, although at least some acknowledgement like "that was great!" is appreciated.
07/14/2014
Contributor: elfiew elfiew
Same thing for me as you, OP. I say thank you especially if he made me cum to the moon and back, which he usually does. My fiancé thinks it's nice though. It confirms that he did as good as he thought.
07/15/2014
Contributor: Bignuf Bignuf
Quote:
Originally posted by elfiew
Same thing for me as you, OP. I say thank you especially if he made me cum to the moon and back, which he usually does. My fiancé thinks it's nice though. It confirms that he did as good as he thought.
Feedback on performance is always good, if taken as honest and loving communication.
07/16/2014
Contributor: Trixxxy Trixxxy
I don't know saying thank you sounds slightly odd to me but hey whatever floats your boat.
07/20/2014
Contributor: guard083 guard083
My guy will say it if I do something he knows I'm not a huge fan of. He doesn't do it all the time but he does say it sometimes and it honestly makes me smile to hear him tell me thank you for doing those things for him.
08/14/2014
Contributor: Confusedxfreak Confusedxfreak
Slightly odd but sweet.
08/24/2014
Contributor: SailorJulyxo SailorJulyxo
Quote:
Originally posted by LoveReImagined
My husband thinks I'm completely insane...

He's been working tons if overtime at work and came home and helped me put together a trampoline. We didn't even eat dinner until 10 tonight. He's exhausted and didn't really want ... more
I don't think so! My wife and I thank each other every time and we've been married for 7 years. It's not just polite, it's full of true appreciation. ?
08/26/2014
Contributor: edeneve edeneve
I answered 'No, it's not weird, it's polite' because it's closest to what I do. I do say thank you in a seductive or playful way, not cuz it's polite. I want my lover to know how wonderful - amazing - pleasurable - satisfying - great the whole experience was for me. I think we all need to know that what we're doing pleasures our partner. it helps us know what works & even encourages exploration.
08/26/2014
Contributor: LoveReImagined LoveReImagined
Quote:
Originally posted by edeneve
I answered 'No, it's not weird, it's polite' because it's closest to what I do. I do say thank you in a seductive or playful way, not cuz it's polite. I want my lover to know how wonderful - amazing - pleasurable - ... more
I don't think I really say it to purposely be polite. This post has been here forever and I still say thank you every now and then. Aunt Flo was visiting last week so we had "deal night"-he rubs my back and I give him a blow job. We've had this deal going for years now...I love it.
Anyway, he noticed that most of the time when I say thank you that it's after I've given HIM a bj. Ya know, kinda like "hey man, thanks for that huge, delicious load off jizz you gifted me after you let me suck your cock".

I think I am very far from an ordinary wife...
08/27/2014
Contributor: LoveReImagined LoveReImagined
Quote:
Originally posted by Trixxxy
I don't know saying thank you sounds slightly odd to me but hey whatever floats your boat.
I think this is exactly where my husband stands..he just thinks it's a weird thing to say. Most couples probably snuggle and kiss after sex...we do too. And sometimes the thank you escapes my mouth before I even realize it.
08/27/2014
Contributor: LoveReImagined LoveReImagined
Quote:
Originally posted by Bignuf
Feedback on performance is always good, if taken as honest and loving communication.
bingo!
08/27/2014
Contributor: strangebrew strangebrew
I say thank you, mostly after receiving oral. I recognize it's not always easy to do for long enough to make me cum but my gf does it. For that I'm grateful. After 18 years of bad sex in a mostly bad marriage, I'm thankful to find someone who loves sex as much as my lady. So why not let her know it? After 9 years, it's great to see you still show such consideration and caring towards one another.
09/05/2014
Contributor: toysforall toysforall
I don't think we've every done that, but I wouldn't necessarily consider it "weird."
09/22/2014
Contributor: Aesenthia Aesenthia
I say "thank you" after a particularly long session to let my boyfriend know that he indeed gave me what I needed. We only get to have sex once every two weeks because of our schedules so it's a long intense session.
10/03/2014