Does it insult you?

Contributor: Ilovelingerie Ilovelingerie
Does it insult you when your boyfriend calls you a slut?
Answers (public voting - your screen name will appear in the results):
Yes
Rossie , deltalima , Beck , aliceinthehole , Tuesday , voenne , calliope , Secret Pleasure , KrissyNovacaine , britanny0620 , joja , BG529 , LovesAPoet , Nirelan
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No
Ilovelingerie , kittychilla , BobbiJay , cathy23 , Sammi , ksparkles16 , K101 , Silverdrop , Shellz31 , mpfm , SMichelle , Ansley , P'Gell , PeaceToTheMiddleEast , quinceykay , Ryuson , fabidefabi , LAndJ , Sohotdinosaur , oneeyedoctopus , SiNn , Stagger13 , PropertyOfPotter , Red Vinyl Kitty , MissBre , redstars , sexykiss , brevado , pootpootpoot , Bodhi
30
Other/Explain
Ms. Spice , - Kira - , CoffeeCup , True Pleasures , Nazaress , Ghost , jbknows , Puss in Boots , DeliciousSurprise , darthkitt3n , slynch , Lizzy , Teaser , wdanas , Breas , Kitka , indiglo , Graniteal , sydney106 , ConnerJay , El-Jaro , ninja250 , JessCee , ~LaUr3n~ , biancajames , calliope , OroNomi , dbm6907 , potstickers , meezerosity , Peggi , britanny0620 , joja , unfulfilled , <3BF , CindyH , Lilith Bealove , amazon , Talena , Khanner , Gone (LD29) , SaraU29 , L&P3040 , LovesAPoet , roskat
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Total votes: 89 (85 voters)
Poll is closed
01/31/2012
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Contributor: kittychilla kittychilla
sometimes it's a turn on to be called a slut. ;P
01/31/2012
Contributor: Ms. Spice Ms. Spice
"slut" is a weird word for me. If my man called me a slut during sex or a joke, i don't really care. My friends do it anyway and I think it's just funny. However, if he told me in sex negative way, I would be pissed as hell. A good example is "you look slutty" or "that was a slutty thing to do." Slut is kind of openended in that manner, and I don't like that at all.

I wrote a kind of long rant on EdenCafe, if you're ever interested in learning more about it.
01/31/2012
Contributor: - Kira - - Kira -
Depends on the context. During sex, I like it. Just randomly, with insult as the intention? I'd be pissed.
01/31/2012
Contributor: CoffeeCup CoffeeCup
Regardless of the context... no guy has ever dared call me a slut. Not to my face anyway. I think it's pretty clear to anyone that has known me longer than 15 minutes calling me that wouldn't go over well.
01/31/2012
Contributor: cathy23 cathy23
I agree with Kira., It depends.

In hot sex I kinda' like it.
01/31/2012
Contributor: Ilovelingerie Ilovelingerie
Yes, I mean in a sexual way like

"You're such a slut" reffering to like sticking your breasts/vagina/butt in his face or something during sex.

I don't mean in an insulting manner.


My man calls me his "Sexy Slut" all the time lately and I know he means it in a good way, not a bad, so I don't mind it.
01/31/2012
Contributor: True Pleasures True Pleasures
Well, I'm married, and I haven't even been called a slut. I'm not sure it would bother if me if my husband said it to me. Since he's never said anything like that, I'd probably be wondering where it came from out of the blue, and I might be a little upset.
01/31/2012
Contributor: Nazaress Nazaress
If he called me one and meant it, I'd be very upset. But he uses it when we're having sex or getting in the mood because I like dirty talk.
01/31/2012
Contributor: ksparkles16 ksparkles16
No, it depends on context. if it's in a funny way then that's ok. if not, then no
02/01/2012
Contributor: Rossie Rossie
I will treat it as an insult, have never been called a slut by anyone, no matter what the circumstances are.
02/01/2012
Contributor: jbknows jbknows
It depends on the context.

For example, me and my friends throw around slut all the time. Just means you have to shout back something equally nonsensical, like "Shut it Bitch Tits!"
02/01/2012
Contributor: deltalima deltalima
Quote:
Originally posted by Ilovelingerie
Does it insult you when your boyfriend calls you a slut?
It didn't until I found out he thought all women were sluts, including those he had slept with.
02/01/2012
Contributor: K101 K101
Quote:
Originally posted by Ilovelingerie
Does it insult you when your boyfriend calls you a slut?
Mine has never ever called me a slut or anything to that sort being serious. Occasionally he'll jokingly say I'm his little slut, but he would not ever use words like that in a belittling way. Only jokes! I wouldn't have someone who belittled me like that. Playing around or doing it because it turns you both on isn't a big deal IMO, but not if you're serious. It's rude, hateful and unforgettable if you're doing it in a serious way.
02/01/2012
Contributor: Puss in Boots Puss in Boots
It depends on the implications he is trying to make, and whether or not I have given him permission. No man has the right to call a woman a slut without her approval.
02/01/2012
Contributor: darthkitt3n darthkitt3n
He's never called me that, and I wouldn't like it if he did. I was abused in a previous relationship and called a slut a lot, even though I didn't actually do anything to deserve it.
02/01/2012
Contributor: Lizzy Lizzy
I prefer it
02/01/2012
Contributor: Teaser Teaser
I guess, even in hot sex, I would never call her a slut. Dirty talk is one thing, but that seems demeaning.
02/01/2012
Contributor: wdanas wdanas
If my husband ever said that to me he'd be eating pavement no matter the context. But we're not into the "talking dirty" thing, so everyone's mileage will vary.
02/01/2012
Contributor: averageguyextrodinarypleasure averageguyextrodinarypleasure
I don't think I've ever called a girl that
02/01/2012
Contributor: P'Gell P'Gell
I've worked on myself in recent years to become less and less "offended" by things that really don't matter. I've been called a slut in a nice way, and a few times in a not so nice way. If I "get offended" and the person meant offense, they win. Right? So, I simply laugh. If My Man uses it in dirty talk or just messing around, "C'mere ya little slut!" I find it arousing or funny.

I used to be the type of person who would look for things to "be offended" by. It was wasting a LOT of energy and effort on my part. So, I have worked on my feelings so that I only become offended by truly offensive things; say racism, slavery, pedophilia etc.

It's just a word. Eleanor Roosevelt said something to the effect that one must give permission to allow someone to degrade you. If you don't give them permission, their words have no impact.
02/01/2012
Contributor: Beck Beck
Being called a slut insults me. I can't stand it. I don't want to be called a dirty little slut, dirty little whore, or anything like that. It bothers me deep inside. I think there is a hidden reason to why I hate it so much, but I can't tell you what it is for sure. However I think that it is because my grandfather must have talked like that while abusing me. It makes me very angry and makes me feel very turned off.
02/01/2012
Contributor: Kitka Kitka
Depends on the context for me. If the hubby and I are involved in a bdsm scene it actually turns me on.
02/01/2012
Contributor: Raym Raym
Quote:
Originally posted by - Kira -
Depends on the context. During sex, I like it. Just randomly, with insult as the intention? I'd be pissed.
This is how my girlfriend feels about it as well.
02/01/2012
Contributor: indiglo indiglo
My partner does not talk like that. I wouldn't want him to. I don't think he's ever said it during sex that I can remember. If he said it during sex I probably wouldn't even notice, but I prefer he doesn't and it isn't in him to say that kind of thing.
02/01/2012
Contributor: Graniteal Graniteal
depends on how it's said
02/01/2012
Contributor: sydney106 sydney106
Depends on when it's said. And with us, it's only been said in the bedroom a handful of times
02/01/2012
Contributor: ConnerJay ConnerJay
If it's done in an insulting way as opposed to in the bedroom, yes.
02/01/2012
Contributor: quinceykay quinceykay
If he said it in the bedroom context, I'd like it. If he said it to try to insult me, I would be mad.
02/01/2012
Contributor: fabidefabi fabidefabi
If he likes it i like it
02/01/2012